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New boots in the bin?

31 replies

redjellybean · 29/12/2015 16:27

The other day my bf bought himself a new gadget and I went to put the box and instructions to put in recycling. He said he wanted to keep it. It was still there today and I wanted to tidy so kept the instructions as thought that would be what he wanted but threw the box in recycling. Well he got annoyed when he found out and said he'd told me not to throw it and to go get it out bin. I was in middle of washing window so said I couldn't. He then got my new boots I'd bought today and put them in bin (teach me a lesson?) I went pretty mad. Afterwards h said he'd made sure they were placed on top and on cardboard so not to get dirty. But still...AIBU to be pissed off and slam the door!?

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FairyFluffbum · 29/12/2015 16:35

No ynbu. Was very childish.

All the same why did you throw his box out? He said he wanted to keep it. You could have left the box where it was. If it was that in the way,shove it a cupboard somewhere or get him to move it

DPotter · 29/12/2015 16:36

I think you have the classic case here - six of one and half a dozen of the other.
I think it was reasonable of him to ask you not to throw away the box - most technology companies will only accept returns or things for repair in the original box / packaging. (Had just this situation in the Summer- DP's hifi broke down and when I took it in to the shop for repair, they got a bit awkward as it wasn't in 'the original box'. The thing is over 10 years old...) so it was unreasonable of you to throw it away - even if it was for recycling, without checking again. Likewise it was unreasonable of him to demand the box to be fetch straight away and then to put your boots in the bin. Fwiw I think slamming a door never wins....

Gruntfuttock · 29/12/2015 16:36

He said he wanted the box, but you threw it away. That was out of order. However his reaction was childish.

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow · 29/12/2015 16:41

He told you he wanted to keep the box. You decided to chuck it anyway. YABU.

He asked you to retrieve the box and you said no because you were too busy washing windows. YABU.

He chucked your boots in the bin. HWBU.

You slammed the door - you lose.

Original poster
redjellybean · 29/12/2015 16:47

I know i just threw the box away as he didnt specify it - I assumed he meant the instructions. He left it all lying around (as usual grr) on kitchen side. Seems like we were both U then.

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peppielillyan · 29/12/2015 16:48

is ur BF 14 yr old?

FairyFluffbum · 29/12/2015 16:51

Yeah you was both unreasonable.
I've got the boxes for my ornaments still in the house. Means if we move I have the box and protective packaging for them

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redjellybean · 29/12/2015 16:52

Ha 30 would you believe!

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catfordbetty · 29/12/2015 16:52

This was not your finest hour as a couple.

Enjolrass · 29/12/2015 16:52

You are born unreasonable.

You for throwing something out of his, that he said he wanted to keep, him for retaliating.

You assumed he only wanted the instruction and seemed fine with it being left out until you decided it had to go away as you wanted to tidy.

ouryve · 29/12/2015 16:53

Is he not capable of disposing of his own packaging.

It's sensible to keep the packaging for expensive gadgets, anyhow, in case it needs to go back, under warranty.

TBH, you sound as petty as each other.

Viviennemary · 29/12/2015 16:55

He asked you twice not to put something in the bin and yet you did. That must be very annoying indeed. You sound a bit of a pain and control freak tbh. He might prefer somebody a bit more easy going.

Penfold007 · 29/12/2015 16:56

You knew he wanted to keep the box and instructions, you just thought you'd get away with chucking the box. Both a bit childish and U.

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redjellybean · 29/12/2015 16:56

I accept perhaps it wasn't my finest hour then. He only wanted to keep it he said after, because he doesnt have a case for it so can put it in there.

His stuff's often lying; don't think that helped.

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TheoriginalLEM · 29/12/2015 17:01

WTF?? So what if you recycled the box, it was making a mess ffs. What he did was really sinister and to tell you to go and get it out of the bin?? fuck. off!

I can't believe people are blaming the OP

sinber · 29/12/2015 17:06

I can imagine myself acting like both of you, but I am a stroppy cow at times.

It's no big deal, no one died.

sugar21 · 29/12/2015 17:09

Six and half a dozen
YWBU

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 29/12/2015 17:14

Both unreasonable. We usually keep the boxes for purchases for awhile in case we need to return it. DH tends to want to hold on to the boxes longer than I would, so I've learnt to ask him every time before throwing them out. My rule of thumb is that if he doesn't find a place for it the third time I ask, I put it on the floor of his closet!

But I will say there's a world of difference between putting a box in the bin and putting an item of clothing in, even if it was put on top.

Skullyton · 29/12/2015 17:16

Everyone knows you keep the boxes to electrical gadgets.

Why on earth would you throw something away he specifically asked you not to?

Enjolrass · 29/12/2015 17:18

So what if you recycled the box, it was making a mess ffs.

How does a box make a mess?

usual · 29/12/2015 17:23

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Fairenuff · 29/12/2015 17:27

YABU for doing something he had specifically asked you not to. Why would you do that?

GabiSolis · 29/12/2015 17:27

Both of you unreasonable, but you more so. It is beyond annoying living with someone who over-tidies. He asked you not to throw it away, you threw it away anyway. His then throwing your boots away was obviously childish but it got the point across didn't it? Don't throw away his stuff, he won't throw away yours.

firesidechat · 29/12/2015 17:39

My husband is a keeper of gadget boxes. Even the giant box for the tv went in our tiny loft. Well it will if he can get it through the hatch Smile.

Personally I would take it to the tip, but I respect his need to keep boxes and I will appreciate it when we next move house. You should have let him keep the box.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 29/12/2015 17:45

MY DH keeps gadget boxes, in case the product breaks down in a week, or so he can resell it. I'd never throw it away without checking with him first.

What he did was childish. You're both as bad as each other, IMO.