AIBU to say this to DD...

[Thespiderinthebath]

" I love you to infinity and beyond".

As outsiders seem to look at us strangely. I usually sign this to her as well as saying it.

Oh I used to say this to my children, too!

YABU unless you say it in the manner of Buzz Lightyear.

Does she have an hearing impairment? If not, it reeks of performance parenting.

My dad used to say this to us loads when we were younger, but when I sign and say this to DD, I've noticed that people look at us as if we are odd.

Does she have an hearing impairment? If not, it reeks of performance parenting. Huh? We used sign language. DD isn't hearing impaired. It's useful for children before they are verbal as well. DD knew 'help' which was a bloody Godsend when she would get frustrated at something.

Bollocks to the haterz OP.

I would look at you strangely if I heard you say this in a public place.

I often wonder why some people find the need to constantly declare their love to their children while in public. It makes me think they need to show everyone else what marvellous parents they are. Do they expect a round of applause? Or murmurs of approval?

Most of the world manages perfectly well by keeping sweet nothings private and personal.

Does she have an hearing impairment? If not, it reeks of performance parenting.

She has a severe speech and language disorder, severe verbal dyspraxia and has an understanding of a three year old, she is over 5 and a half. I use a lot of signs with her to assist with her speech and language difficulties.

Pffft to those who don't

Yanbu. And it's sweet so ner.

I hardly say this in public amazon. But when I took DD to a creche type play thing, as she waved by, she then signed "I love you to...." and I spoke and signed this back to her too. I then turned around, heading off and many parents looking at me oddly.

Does that satisfy you, Racundra?

Go for it! I do much worse to DD, I nuzzle her cheeks and neck and go on about how "I love this baby! The bestest baby EVER!!". Really, it's obnoxious, but DD finds it funny and likes it, so I do it. Other people can think what they want.

One day both our DD's will be saying "MooOOOooommm... Not in front of my friends..." and cringing. Get away with it while you still can.

I think it's lovely, it actually brings a tear to my eye as my friends DH used to say this to his DD,
He sadly died in his 50's when his DD was 14, she said it at his funeral

You can never tell someone you love them too much, life's too short

its gorgeous who cares what anyone else thinks.

One day both our DD's will be saying "MooOOOooommm... Not in front of my friends..." and cringing. Get away with it while you still can.

This! A thousand times this! Why anyone would have a problem with you saying how much you love your child in public is completely beyond me! It's not boasting! I do it in private so why would I change my behaviour in public?! I have nothing to hide and people can think what they like!

And I say this to my kids too OP. I say 'How much do I love you?' And they say 'To infinity and beyond'.

Yanbu. I wouldn't look at you weird.

If you can't say lovely, silly, affectionate things to your own child then it's a very sad world we're living in.

DD and I have used that one, and 'to the moon and back again' (Guess How Much I Love You), and currently I 'love her Minions' (instead of millions) every bedtime.

She's 11 and still hasn't grown out of it yet .

I still call DD "heart of my life" in public. I care more about her feeling than random strangers. Strangely!

Wyrd I love that book! I couldn't read it to DC when we first got it without crying though... . I blame the post-partum hormones ignore the fact DC was at least 6 months old at the time.

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YABU unless you say it in the manner of Buzz Lightyear.

If you aren't already doing this you need to start immediately.

Do you also put it on Facebook? Do you organise lunches and afternoon teas for each other in expensive restaurants cos you're the best mum/she's the best daughter in the world and then post photos of this on Facebook? if not, YABU.

I don't put this on FB, I don't even have FB!

To be honest, thinking back. I do think it's the signing, as lots of people look at me when I sign to DD. Ah well.

That is so sad Lavender rain.

It's lovely op. A friend of mine and her DD have tattoos with it

Fuck other people. Do what you feel is right in your heart.

Sick to shit of the term 'performance parenting'. Sometimes people just want to say something nice to their kids. Some of us don't give a flying about other people hearing us talk to our kids. Should we alter the way we communicate with our children, just to appease those who dislike personal ways of displaying affection?

YANBU op.