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Don't Tell The Bride irritation

99 replies

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:10

Lighthearted thread but still gets right up my nose. Why is it that these brides on this show seem to hate everything the groom chooses, cry, threaten to not go through with it but then tell him it was the best day of her life. Sometimes the groom spends half the money on a stag night, hardly anything on a hen night or organises a really bad one. Am I turning into a miserable old cow? AIBU to want, just once or twice, it to end in the bride jilting the groom?

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MrsJayy · 22/10/2015 16:14

Its all drama innit and they have to sign a contract as well so they can stamp their feet all they want but they want their wedding paid forso do it. Although the 1 i watched last night the groom added a denim jacket and trainers to her wedding outfit he was a right knob about it.

Pootles2010 · 22/10/2015 16:14

I do wonder how many times that happened, and they don't show it.

Saying that, surely to go on the show you have to know that it won't be what you would pick?

MrsJayy · 22/10/2015 16:17

I think they start filming before the couple know they have been picked to go on it

TheWitTank · 22/10/2015 16:20

I think much of it is scripted/set up for the drama (like most reality TV).

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:21

I used to watch thinking ooh will she go through with it but now it's so predictable. If I was going on it, I would brief my partner on what dresses I can't stand and what to look for as in colour, fabric, shape. Also whether it had to be in a church or not.

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squoosh · 22/10/2015 16:21

I'd like for there to be an app that would tell you the status of all the participating couples' relationships at any given time. 'Oh I wonder what happened to that couple who were clearly mismatched. Divorced you say app? Oh what a surprise'.

I give many of them very poor odds

squoosh · 22/10/2015 16:22

I think the producers have far more say in what happens than the groom does. There's no show in harmony.

TheWitTank · 22/10/2015 16:25

I'm sure I've read a thread on MN where a few people had friends who had taken part and told them that a huge amount of the show is producer controlled -certain dresses selected for the groom to choose from etc. It would be really boring I suppose if the bride was delighted with everything/bridesmaids didn't kick off/hen do was great.

MrsJayy · 22/10/2015 16:27

I much prefer 4 weddings on living but not seen a new series in ages

ShamelessBreadAddict · 22/10/2015 16:28

Yes OP! It drives me nuts! The groom bullies all the bridesmaids, overspends on stuff the bride would 100% not want and behaves like a general twunt and the bride is livid, but then she likes the dress so he is suddenly a hero! Equally if he's tried his best organising everything but gets the dress wrong there's a massive tantrum and she says she doesn't want to go through with the wedding. Makes no sense. It's definitely edited for drama. People are not this mad in RL!

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Dizzywizz · 22/10/2015 16:28

I was watching earlier and thought that I wish there was an older couple on it - I haven't watched it for ages but it seemed that it was always a young couple and it just seemed so samey

Lottapianos · 22/10/2015 16:31

I do end up watching it because it fits the bill for the sort of mindless rubbish I quite enjoy watching of an evening, but it infuriates me too! The brides are all princessy demanding types who yell 'I just want everything to be perfect!' and talk about how they have been dreaming of their 'big day' since they were 5 or whatever. The men are all (set up to be) useless and clueless and gosh isn't it funny how daft men are. It's enjoyable in a tedious sort of way

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:31

dizzy I think older couples maybe have more sense. If it's true it's producer led then I think they'd tell them where to go!

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MrsJayy · 22/10/2015 16:32

The last series ran on bbc1 were older couples was good

Lottapianos · 22/10/2015 16:33

I'm pleased to see that no-one has been on here to tell you that you should just stop watching it OP, and there is an off switch you know and you could always just get a life, and all that po-faced nonsense. I love a good moan, especially about crap telly Grin

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:34

Yes lotta that's why I watch it, it's trash TV just when you need it but it's becoming so predictable that I've lost interest. Producers should give the viewers some credit.

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squoosh · 22/10/2015 16:35

It's reached trash tipping point I think. I need some new trash to catch my eye.

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:36

Also lotta those think they're highbrow people wouldn't stoop so low as to comment on my trash TV thread Wink

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squoosh · 22/10/2015 16:36

I liked Millionaire Matchmaker for a while but that's just given me a phobia of skeevy American millionaires.

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:37

Skeevy? New word alert! Definition please!

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Sidge · 22/10/2015 16:40

Even though it's all set up I still like watching it - I like brainless TV in an evening. I like Say Yes to the Dress and I Found the Gown too Grin

I saw one recently on DTTB where the groom chose a barn halfway up Snowdonia (not a nice converted barn, it was literally just a crappy falling-down sheep shed) and him and his mates had to clear it out and decorate it. Strangely by the time of the reception it had been decorated so well it actually looked really pretty. I find it hard to believe that a few 20-something fellas had that interior decorating flair!

squoosh · 22/10/2015 16:40

Picture a sexist moron wearing a black suit, bright orange shirt and hair slicked back with five tubs of gel. He's 50 and says he couldn't even contemplate going out with a woman over the age of 25.

He is skeevy.

MrsJayy · 22/10/2015 16:41

Might be on iplayer was just as nuts though

captainfarrell · 22/10/2015 16:43

Oh I like it squoosh very fitting. Yes sidge I think there must be a team of events planners lurking. Some of the rooms have been done so well and they don't show them doing everything. I've really gone off it now. Must check out those other shows!

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