to be miserable and drinking wine at 2pm?

[sliceofsoup]

It is my birthday today and the only people who have acknowledged it are DH and MIL.

DCs wont stop screeching and screaming and whining. I am supposed to be cooking dinner for PILs coming later, and baking my own cake (!!!!) but instead, I am sitting on here, drinking wine and being deafened by the silence of my phone and facebook.

Long story. Shitty story. But I am devastated about some stuff that has been going on in my so called family, and the fact that it is my birthday is just magnifying it all.

So cheers people, happy fucking birthday to me.

Fuck them all. Drink wine. In fact take yourself off out and drink more wine in peace and quiet.

Why are you cooking your own birthday tea and cake?? tell them all they are paying for a take away.

What TMNT said. Do not cook for others on YOUR birthday!

And happy birthday!

DH is at work. I have had one glass and I have stopped. The joy of responsibility.

I am just the one that does it. I do it for everyone on their birthday, dinner and a cake.

The luxury doesn't get extended to me so I have to do it for myself. DH would but he is at work, and he will help out later and do all the cleaning up. This isn't DHs doing. He is lovely. This is the rest of my toxic fucking unbelievably rude family.

Happy birthday slice
Yanbu to be drinking wine at this time, I was just considering a beer myself.
Also, you shouldn't be cooking for anyone on you birthday

Happy birthday soup what do you fancy doing for the rest of the day ?

Have some virtual . Happy birthday.

Happy birthday!

Don't do the dinner. Get someone to ring for a takeaway instead.

I would like to lie in bed and watch gilmore girls back to back. But that is my defense mechanism when shit hits the fan, right now the DCs are finally playing nicely, I have some nice crisps, and I am going to sit here for a while, and then get up and start the cooking. It is nothing terribly difficult so it will be ok.

I am just so hurt. So so so hurt. I think if I wasn't having weekly counselling I might have a break down. But I am clinging on. Just.

Oh sorry agree with PPs ^^

Thank you for all the cake and flowers. :)

Happy Birthday !

& birthday for you.

Try to focus on the good. Do something fun with the dc so they're not screaming & go to m&s for cake. Eat out or takeaway tonight.

Be kind to you on your birthday

God, don't cook - order takeaway/whatever ready type meal you like best. Buy cake - or encourage DCs to help you if that's could count as fun. Or go postmodern and get a cheese cake of three delicious tiers of your favourite cheese. Happy birthday.

Happy birthday. And cheers! ????

Happy birthday op. Do you have to do the cooking? Can DH buy a cake on the way home?

Oh bloody hell another x-post.

This isn't really good enough OP. Would you not consider just not doing the dinner use this as a line in the sand in terms of what you are prepared to put up with.

You sound fed up and it's not going to change if you keep doing what you're doing.

Happy birthday soup

Tell your DCs that as it's your birthday you would like one day (well, half a day now!) without any screeching, screaming or whining, or when it's their birthdays you will screech, scream and whine at them all day

Text/email your DH now and tell him you really don't want to make your own birthday dinner and cake, so you would like for him to pick up a cake on his way home, and get a takeaway for you all later.

If you don't really want your PIL round tonight, then tell them you've got a storming headache so will have to cancel dinner.

And bollocks to your family #chinchin

The dinner is for PILs and they are lovely. So I don't mind. My stinking family are nowhere to be seen...

We are skint so can't do takeaway, but it is a temporary thing until friday, DH is taking me out on sat night, to my choice of restaurant, and PILs are babysitting.

DD1 is excited about baking cake with me.

It is not all doom and gloom. But I had a stinking row with my mum yesterday, and as usual everything is twisted round to be my fault, when actually I have done nothing wrong. And the rest of my family have taken her "side" without even finding out my version of events.

Then ignore all of my post except the last line...

Happy Birthday!

It might be time to withdraw from your family if they cause you nothing but pain. It's hard to do but so much better than having your expectations raised again and again.

Op thats awful - poor you!
How old are your dcs?
I would suggest getting out and going to the cinema with them or something? Then meet in laws out at pizza express or something.
Happy Birthday

Thanks everyone.

Its ok Surly I know what you mean, and I would say the same on a thread like this. :)

Yep Imperial totally NC is fast approaching. I was giving it one last try, which I talked over with my counsellor, and she agreed. But there doesn't look to be any other way left to go. There is only so much I can take.

They are only little, 6 and 2. They are mostly little angels, its the high pitched screeching that is annoying. :o

focus on the good

you have your lovely husband and in laws as well as your children who love you for being you .

life is too short to be around people who make you feel shit

Yy pp sending best wishes (flowers & wine emotions)