To expect him to take my safety seriously?

[dodobedoop]

I was meeting a chap tonight for a first date. We have been chatting online for a while. We arranged where to meet, he doesn't drive.
Just as I was leaving this evening, he text me saying he would be looking out for my car. I said, ok, then we can walk in the pub together.
His response was, no, so I can get in it (the car)

I said that I has already said I wasn't comfortable being in the car with him on our first meet. He minimised this, saying he isn't a mad axe man!!

So, needless to say, we have not now met. But am I over thinking it, or WIBU to risk offending him by putting my safety first?

Minimised it then didn't show, or did you cancel?

I think you were sensible to refuse to let him in the car - was he just making a silly joke?

Very sensible, u would say!! You have no idea who or what he is!!

I would say, not u!!

YANBU. Can't be too careful!

No we cancelled. Or rather he said I had kind of killed it?!

He wasn't joking, and he tried to turn it around by saying that his safety was also important, how did he know I'm not a vindictive man hater who would make false allegations! I'm like WTAF?

No you're not over thinking it and YWBU. You told him how you felt and he showed no respect for your feelings. He isn't worth meeting or getting to know.

Definitely NU

Oops I mean YWNBU!

What a twat.

YANBU. Not at all. Your safety is more important.

bullet dodged

what a fucking nob

Ah. In that case, good call!

You absolutely dodged a bullet there.

Oh and his added comments just make it even more obvious you needed to head for the hills! Lucky escape I think!

YANBU.

He sounds like a twat.

What a creep. You did the right thing.

You did the right thing!

He sounds utterly dreadful.

Good call to not meet him. Ever.

.... a vindictive man hater who would make false allegations.... ?

Oh Boy were you right to cancel.

Man you had an escape from that.

Onwards!

Yeah cos mad axemen are always honest and tell people if they are going to murder them!!!

He sounds awful and creepy, You were sensible - good call

wow, you did the right thing. it's like lesson number one of online dating! I can't believe he cancelled!

I know paulapompom, my thinking exactly!

Thanks all, glad it's not just me!

Onwards indeed gamerchick!!

I imagine he cancelled because what he planned for your date needed to happen in the privacy of your car, not at a table in the pub.

Lucky escape I think!

You know that you did the right thing. He sounds a moron anyway.