To expect him to take my safety seriously?

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I was meeting a chap tonight for a first date. We have been chatting online for a while. We arranged where to meet, he doesn't drive.
Just as I was leaving this evening, he text me saying he would be looking out for my car. I said, ok, then we can walk in the pub together.
His response was, no, so I can get in it (the car)

I said that I has already said I wasn't comfortable being in the car with him on our first meet. He minimised this, saying he isn't a mad axe man!!

So, needless to say, we have not now met. But am I over thinking it, or WIBU to risk offending him by putting my safety first?

Fantastic! It would be helpful if all men showed themselves like this so soon. You get to weed out the knobheads before you've even had to go to the trouble of meeting them.

I agree with Gold. Did he want to go dogging?

Goodness. How on earth is this paragon of manhood still single

YWNBU op.

Very lucky escape there, OP. He sound very dodgy.

He is the reason the word "gobshite" was coined

Very dodgy that he was expecting to get in your car with you. Lucky escape.

Its like a neon sign saying "I'm a cock" wish all men who needed one had such a sign. Lucky escape!

Can't imagine any decent bloke having had a problem with your position on this. So he's clearly a tosser. At best.

Weird. YANBU steer well clear.

What an utter wank sock. Thank god you found out early on.

I've done exactly the same before, insisted someone meet me in a pub and they got the hump.
I try not to be snobby because its slim pickings out there but actually I don't think I really want someone who cant drive, I would feel like the grown up of the relationship and I don't want to either run around after someone or be made to feel mean for not being their taxi/Mummy.

Phew, OP. Lucky break him not being able to keep the misogynist weirdo inside for five minutes. Onward and upwards.

sounds to me like he was intending to hurt you. I would even go so far as to report him to the site and explain what happened. A normal man would definitely not behave like that.

You definitely did the right thing

" he tried to turn it around by saying that his safety was also important, how did he know I'm not a vindictive man hater who would make false allegations! "

what an idiot - thank your lucky stars you did not meet him.

Yanbu and i think very lucky. Well done for following your gut. Xx

Ha ha, thanks for the perspective all! Glad it's not just me then.

Also, call me a romantic fool but, for me, it's about that time when you first see each other. Dates waiting at the entrance to the pub, see each other, smile and walk in together (sigh)

Not date jump in your car and it's like, wotcha, let's go

Rabbit that's it also, I don't want to be running around after someone. There buses etc, people get themselves to work don't they!