AIBU to not allow ExH to take DC to Tunisia next month?

[sam84uk]

I've already posted on someone else's thread over this but feel it belongs in AIBU.

Background story is ExH asked late last year if I was ok him taking our 2 DC abroad for a week in April (he's taken them abroad before). He mentioned Tunisia to which I asked if he'd 'googled' how safe the area is, he said it's not the final destination, they were looking at others i.e. Canaries, Turkey. 6 weeks later he sent a text to say they'd booked Tunisia.

I wasn't happy but thought that as it was booked there wasn't much I could do. I did mention when I saw him that I wasn't thrilled over the destination, he said it'll be fine & that was it.

Then yesterday the news hit about the awful terrorism in the capital of Tunis!

I've voiced my anxiety about the situation & that we need to discuss it. He's taken the line that it'll be fine, they'll stay in the resort, the coastal holiday resorts are safe....bla....bla...bla!

I've asked if they'd consider trying to change the destination, he said it's all booked & paid for.

WWYD?

The DC obviously have no idea & are looking forward to their hols. I do have the option of taking them to Crete (we have family there) the same week to 'soften the blow'.

Thanks

Did they go away anywhere in the end?
Expect ex dh maybe feels a little bit sheepish now

I'm confused - did he ask you in April to take the DC on holiday this summer? Or did he ask if he can't take them for next April?

I'd ignore the texts for the moment if I were you. The conversation should be between you and ExH, not the girlfriend. It's not your fault if she paid for it - that was a decision they made together. You asked him to look into the safety of the destination. If he didn't listen, or decided to brush of your concerns, that was also his decision.

What you need to find out is what the travel agent is advising? Cancelled destinations are either offering refunds or an alternative. Do you think that ExH is trying to pull a fast one? As the demand for £4000 makes me think that he is taking the piss.

Ahh - sorry! Zombie thread. My bad [embaressed]

Zombie thread maybe, but interesting nonetheless in the light of what's just happened.

Yes ,I would be interested to know how it all worked out in the end ,
but it does raise the question about safety in places that have been previously attacked ,the theory is of course that it would be the safest place to go as security is extra tight in somewhere where an attack has just happened . Tunisia has had two horrific attacks on tourists now in a very short space of time .
But How can a lone gunman be thwarted ? It's impossible to predict where and when that kind of attack will happen .