aibu to think this is not a good start?

[Yangsun]

Friend's usual childcare has let her down so her DC is coming to play with mine (it's my day off today). Just arrived, child is in PJs - can I give her a bath and get her dressed please? - and they would like me to try and potty train her today, they have never tried before but my dd is nearly there so she doesn't think I'll mind... Said OK in house but she'll have to put nappy on if we go out (I'm planning on soft play so no good for accidents). Apparently this is not OK, I shouldn't take her out if I'm not prepared to keep her in pants. Surely ianbu?

Your 'friend' is using you. Do what suits you and never help her out again.

Ha!

There's no childcare emergency. They want her potty trained. In a day.

You've been had. Sorry, OP.

Don't even think about potty training her. Unbelievable cheek.

Change your mind and tell your 'friend' to arrange alternate childcare you're not there to bathe and potty train her child.

She sounds really entitled!

Yeah, not a good start. If they are asking for a favor they should be raseonable, considered an grateful. Are they? I dont think so.

My answer to all of that would have been 'you're having a laugh'. These little gems on MN never cease to amaze me

Wow. Helping a friend with childcare is supposed to be "keep them alive, fed and vaguely entertained" not "parenting" surely.

Cheeky madam!

Keep her in pjs, and nappy and have a duvet day. And tell your friend you are not her employee when she comes to collect.

I'm glad you agree! I've got over the initial shock (and need to mumsnet as my first course of action!) Have dressed but not bathed her and put her in one of dd's nappies. To avoid fall out I have texted - unfortunately I'm not going to be able to potty train her today, see you later - I hope she will realise she was being daft and all will be fine. Girls are having a whale of a time and I don't have to stores about accidents.

Just who are all these 'friends'? I know I should be used to it after reading thread after thread on here but I still can't get over how some people have the cheek to treat other people!

OP, just stick her in a nappy and tell your friend (and I use that term loosely) that today wasn't the best time to try potty training as you're going to soft play so better that she tries tomorrow. Then breezily change the subject and remind yourself never to do her a favour again!

Did she even give you a potty?

Surely you'd need a potty for each potty training child? You can guarantee one would be on it with the other trying to pull them off.

My EX friend was like this.

Would leave her ds with her mother then bitch to me about how he wasn't potty trained like my ds (as hers was 6 weeks older) because her mother/nan/nursery etc couldn't be bothered to do it.

He use to just wee on the floor and she'd let him. Cut all ties months later that's another thread

She use to ask me to make sure he used the potty whilst not giving me on or pants so I use to keep him in nappies it's wasn't my job to potty train her child because she couldn't be arsed to do it.

Take a stand OP nappy the child and go to soft play and when she picks her up tell her if she wants you to look after her child again she best come washed, dresses, with food and nappies unless potty trained. You were doing her a favour and unless she gives you money you're not her nanny!

Wtf? She needs to potty train her dc herself, not get some other mug person to do it. If she's not happy, tough luck.

Can't believe you have a day off, and get lumbered with someone else's dc, and then they treat you as if you're the cm.

I also think she was full of it and just wanted someone to potty train her kid.

Cheek of some people man.

This must be the sister of the woman on a recent thread, who used friend for free childcare, and then complained that she was not happy with the quality of food and entertainment they were offered.

Fucking hell

Has she responded to your text? When is she due to pick her up?

Would she expect her 'usual' childcare to a) bath the child b) dress her c) start potty training her from scratch? No? Then use that as your response if she tries to get shirty with you.

I would just be hugely grateful my DD was being looked after by someone she knew, with a friend whose company she enjoyed and doing something fun (soft play) and I could still go to work, not call in at the last minute and face peeing off my boss. She's clueless.

If its:
"not OK, I shouldn't take her out if I'm not prepared to keep her in pants."

then its
"not OK for you to look after her because you already had other plans"

I don't know why this is a debate or why you haven't had the backbone to come straight out and say it.

OP - If you take nothing else from this thread, at least take this:

Never, ever baby sit for this woman again.

At VERY LEAST, if you do plan to, you need to tell her in advance that you are NOT childcarer. You're happy to keep her child safe during the day, but BATHING, POTTY TRAINING, and DRESSING are HER responsibilities.

Thanks everyone, I think she thought I wouldn't mind as I have potty etc from doing it with dd but I can't say I have a gift for potty training as dd is still not perfect! She hasn't replied to text but as pps have said, if she's not happy she can come and get her dad. Just getting them ready to go to soft play with nappies, maybe she just won't ask me again...

I feed children junk and let them watch South Park.

I recommend it. People never leave their children with me.

I'm a childminder and I do help potty training other people's children but only once they have started the process at home. You are doing her a great favour so make sure the little girl fits into your day not the other way around. Starting potty training like that would be very confusing for her.