To be offended by dhs comment?

[Kab13]

Do I need to get a grip? I guess if this was a comment I would make infront of dh I wouldn't be offended.
We are up visiting his family, they are lovely but a bit out there and also a bit drunk.
Dhs cousin is here with his dp, she is also a really lovely girl and I get on with her well.
Dhs aunty was flicking through photos on her sons phone. (Dhs cousin) and dhs cousin said "oh mum don't there's probably sexy photos of dd on there" (jokingly)
Dh responds by saying "what?! If there is why didn't you tell me about this?!"
It hurt. Probably my own insecurity but it just did.
I've quietly removed myself saying I'm checking on dd, but I'm feeling just a tad inadequate.
Dh hasn't had that much to drink at all, is probably showing off etc but I can't work out whether I'm being petty.

i think its fair to be annoyed, but there is no point making a big deal of it, especially if the whole family enjoys innuendo type banter.

You can either let yourself dwell on it and feel all hurt, or you can try and see it as a shit joke. You could even try and get your own back

I think I was just shocked to hear him say it more than anything.
As like I say he doesn't usually entertain that sort of humour & I know he would be hurt if I ever suggested in anyway id like to look at naked photos of someone's dh.
As I say I'm over it now but it certainly was out of character for him

Dh has given me plenty of reason to feel insecure in the past
He denies even saying it.

This doesn't sound like that good a relationship, sorry.

That'll be why you found the remark upsetting. Not the remark itself but because of the history in your relationship

It certainly wasn't a good relationship to start. But this is just evidence that sometimes even when you think you're over something you're not.

I don't think that what he said indicates an intention/desire to be unfaithful or even any attraction to his Cousins DP but it is a bit pathetic and not funny in the slightest. Not to mention disrespectful to you and her. I would have told him he was embarrassing himself.