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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think this is actually a good enough reason?

42 replies

Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:11

I was meant to be starting a new exercise class as part of a physio programme on Monday but am going to cancel it as have my period.

According to dsis (who was also going as has similar issues with her joints) I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't be putting my life on hold each month.

AIBU to think that actually, having a painful and heavy period is a good enough reason to do less/cancel certain things? Or should I just attempt to carry on as normal (which would be very difficult)?

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dementedpixie · 03/01/2015 23:12

exercise might help with the pain?

ExitPursuedByABear · 03/01/2015 23:13

My periods never stopped me doing stuff, but it depends how much yours affect you.

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:15

Its not just the pain, which although is severe at times, its the (sorry, tmi) the heaviness. It is difficult to be away from the bathroom for long tbh for the first 5-6 days.

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Gabriola · 03/01/2015 23:15

I can relate to this. You know your own body.

mrscumberbatch · 03/01/2015 23:15

I get flooding sometimes and can never predict it. I don't blame you for playing it safe

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:16

DM always told us that periods would never be a reason to be off school/work etc etc and dsis still believes this to be very important. Easy fir her to say "oh, I just carry on as normal" when she doesn't have the trouble I do.

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ilovechristmas1 · 03/01/2015 23:18

yabu it will do you good,exercise can help period pain

and like your sis says you cant have that rule your life

what would you do instead,probably sit around making you feel worse

StillaChocoholic · 03/01/2015 23:18

My periods always get heavier when I do any form of exercise so I think YANU
I always feel worse afterwards because of it

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:20

''Difficult to be away from the bathroom for the first 5 or 6 days'' sounds very heavy OP.

Have you asked your GP about this?

mamapain · 03/01/2015 23:20

It is a good enough reason because you are having a different experience to your sister.

That being said, I don't know if you've already done this, but I'd pursue treatment for the heaviness because you shouldn't have to live your life around your period.

SanityClause · 03/01/2015 23:21

Have you seen the GP? Heavy periods where it's difficult to be away from the bathroom for 5 or 6 days doesn't sound right!

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:22

Yes have seen the gp numerous times, been referred to hospital. Tbh I think I need to try a mirena as it has been getting worse and worse. I'm anaemic and its honestly just like a tap has been turned on each month.

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Cabrinha · 03/01/2015 23:22

It's ridiculous to cancel if the exercise includes rollerblading... Grin

No-one can tell you that YABU or not, really - you know your body.

If you posted "I'd like to do a class but I'm worried about leaking" you might get some useful answers if you do want to do it if possible though. Like switching to a mooncup just for the class, fresh in. But still, only you know what will work.

I'm with your mother and sister as a general principle though. It's simply no fun to wipe out a quarter of your time. So I'd do what I could to attend, be that talking to the GP about pain management, changing sanpro, etc.

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:22

menorrhagia.

Have a google OP. Does this sound like you? There is treatment available. No need to suffer in silence :)

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:23

Dsis just gives me a Hmm when I try to explain and then tells me I should be carrying on as normal like everyone else does.

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SillyBugger · 03/01/2015 23:23

You need to see your GP if your periods are so long and heavy that you get uncontrollable flooding for the 'first 5-6 days' which requires you to be in bathroom every 5 minutes and precludes doing any normal day to day activity.

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:25

Sorry x posted.

Hopefully the hospital can help.

In the meantime, YANBU. You can cancel till you feel better/have this sorted.

Discopanda · 03/01/2015 23:25

My mum had extremely heavy, painful periods for years and it turned out to be fibroids. Maybe you should see your GP

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:28

''Dsis ... tells me I should be carrying on as normal like everyone else does.''

Sorry, but she is being a cow. Ignore her. You are suffering abnormal flow IMO, and indeed should not 'carry on as normal' like some martyr to woman kind.

Angry for you.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 03/01/2015 23:28

Your sister is a lucky twat. One day she might look back and realise that.

I used to able to 'carry on as normal' and wear white trousers in the process. Now, no way.

I guess until you've experienced it, you think everyone has the light little no bother things I used to have.

MrsMoppandBucket · 03/01/2015 23:30

I think YANBU. I have problem periods and have to plan my life around them to some extent. Sometimes there is nothing the GP can do about it.

I always have one really heavy day during which I will not do any strenuous activity. It's too uncomfortable for me and my joints ache too.

I sometimes also get a day where my brain is like a TV on static. I find it really hard to think and complex things just allude me. I always try to avoid doing mentally challenging things or making important decisions if I feel like that.

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:30

Had a small fibroid a few years ago but after dc4 it was not visible on scans so I assume it went after my last cs.

I'm just hoping a mirena helps. From what I've read it should do. Till then I think I will just carry on managing as best I can. Glad to hear I'm not the only one, dsis had made me wonder if I was making a fuss over what everyone else just puts up with

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WooWooOwl · 03/01/2015 23:30

I agree with your sister. If you need physiotherapy then you need physiotherapy, you won't be doing yourself any favours by not going. Especially as period pain can be helped by gentle exercise. The class will be an hour at the most, and there will be a toilet you can use in the building if you need to half way through.

If your periods are so bad that you are unable to function for a week out of every month, then yo need to be more insistent with your GP that something needs to be done. I'd have thought it was essential that you can function the vast majority of the time when you have four disabled children to care for.

steppeupunderthemisletoe · 03/01/2015 23:34

my periods were so heavy that I worried about doing the school run - 5 minute walk away, plus waiting time. I never did the weekly shop, or went into town etc on day 1 or 2.
I regularly cancelled stuff, and could not have done an exercise class.

My periods were always heavy, but after kids they were ridiculous. I now have a mirena and the freedom and the joy of no more periods!

bloodyteenagers · 03/01/2015 23:36

Push the gp and gynaecologist for treatment.
There are things out there that makes things easier.
But sometimes you really have to push and when the first one doesn't work keep pushing.
I say this as someone who has very heavy and painful periods. For years I thought it was normal because it's how I was as a child. It was a chance chat and found out that no.
I've gone from an hour to 3 hours. But even at my worst, live did still have to go on. I don't work I don't get paid

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