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AIBU?

To think this is actually a good enough reason?

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:11

I was meant to be starting a new exercise class as part of a physio programme on Monday but am going to cancel it as have my period.

According to dsis (who was also going as has similar issues with her joints) I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't be putting my life on hold each month.

AIBU to think that actually, having a painful and heavy period is a good enough reason to do less/cancel certain things? Or should I just attempt to carry on as normal (which would be very difficult)?

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MarjorieMelon · 04/01/2015 01:19

Children not problem!

MarjorieMelon · 04/01/2015 01:19

Since children this would not be a problem for me but before I had problem it wouldn't have been possible and the exercise would not have helped with the pain it would have made me puke and I would leak and there would have been no reason to have put my self through this.

Women who have not experienced heavy periods are the most unsympathetic.

pregnantpause · 04/01/2015 01:07

Ooh- expat thank you- I know I have pcos, and had mirena which as above caused more problems- I will go back at your advice

expatinscotland · 04/01/2015 01:01

If you have PCOS insist on a gynae referral first! My sister had a Mirena with PCOS and wound up with serious cyst problems. She finally had an ablation and has been period free since.

pregnantpause · 04/01/2015 00:57

Oh- and the mirena isn't the perfect answer for all- my periods were shorter, just three days, but I couldn't stand up,and was admitted to hospital for two of the four periods I managed before it was removed as the iron deficiency such heavy and fast bleeding caused resulted in intermittent consciousness for me I'm. 27 and pray for the end of periods

YouTheCat · 04/01/2015 00:55

It sounds horrendous. I bet the reality of it is worse than horrendous though.

MinnieM1 · 04/01/2015 00:54

YouTheCat sorry I didn't mean thst in a confrontational kind of way, I know you can of course sympathise, I just think you can't truly understand the term "very heavy period" until you've been 'bloody to your knees in the middle of Dunelm Mill' kind of embarrassed
If that makes sense?

YouTheCat · 04/01/2015 00:45

MinnieM1, I don't have periods (mini pill) and when I did they were light/moderate. But I can totally empathise with the OP and recognise what a nightmare this must be for her.

OP, your sister sounds a bit lacking in empathy.

PurpleSwift · 04/01/2015 00:43

Well as pp have said, you know your own body. I can understand your sisters reaction though,as for most it would be silly and OTT. I wouldn't say what you experience is normal, it's excessive.

pregnantpause · 04/01/2015 00:38

I've seen a gp- I go through a super plus tampon every two hours and towels. I walk incredibly slowly though the office a week every six ( odd cycle and constant risk of leak) the doctors told me to suck it. The second doctor told me to suck it. Well- they both suggested the pill, but when refused ( it causes me pain- lots) they tell me to suck it. Yanbu - yes yup unfortunately you can't let it affect work despite pain and humiliation, but you dont have to exercise ffs

MinnieM1 · 04/01/2015 00:33

I totally get it, people who have normal periods will never understand
I flood regularly, so does my Mum
You know your own body and I you can't do it you can't do it, totally not being unreasonable

Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:40

The class is every Monday so should be ok. Periods irregular so can't predict exactly when they will be. The longer a cycle the worse they are

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Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:38

The gp gave me some tablets to try for a few months but they have not worked at all and waiting for a gynae appt has taken a while. I also have pcos so the gp wants a scan and bloods done too.

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newyearsresolutionsnotforme · 03/01/2015 23:37

The first day of my period I get severe pain to the point of curling on the floor, heaving and bad diarrhoea. You are not alone with being affected by your period OP, your sister is lucky she either has a high pain threshold or easier periods.

Can you exchange for another day that week if your period falls on a monday? I'd try to do exercises at home if not.

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:37

Just noticed that your sister was also going to be going to this class.

Are you sure her comments are not in part due to the fact that she is more miffed about having to go alone? Just a thought.

I think you should persist in seeking medical help with this. Seriously 5 or 6 days so heavy you cant be far from a bathroom is awful.

Cabrinha · 03/01/2015 23:36

I don't understand why you have seen GP numerous time and even have a referral, yet you're still just talking about trying the Mirena?

Perhaps that is why your sister thinks you're making too big a deal of it? Her comment may be promoted by frustration that you do not appear to be helping yourself?

If I was leaking 5 days a month, I'd have tried the Mirena long ago!

Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:36

Its not just the pain, its the constant bleeding. I will be able to go every other week just not this week or if I have my period this bad on any other day when the class is on.
I've got no doubt that exercise would help the pain as in the past I've found that walking helped a lot but that was before they got so heavy.

I tried different sanpro but erm, tampons wouldn't stay in and towels with wings, rather than helping just seemed to provide an easier way out for everything and onto my clothes

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bloodyteenagers · 03/01/2015 23:36

Push the gp and gynaecologist for treatment.
There are things out there that makes things easier.
But sometimes you really have to push and when the first one doesn't work keep pushing.
I say this as someone who has very heavy and painful periods. For years I thought it was normal because it's how I was as a child. It was a chance chat and found out that no.
I've gone from an hour to 3 hours. But even at my worst, live did still have to go on. I don't work I don't get paid

steppeupunderthemisletoe · 03/01/2015 23:34

my periods were so heavy that I worried about doing the school run - 5 minute walk away, plus waiting time. I never did the weekly shop, or went into town etc on day 1 or 2.
I regularly cancelled stuff, and could not have done an exercise class.

My periods were always heavy, but after kids they were ridiculous. I now have a mirena and the freedom and the joy of no more periods!

WooWooOwl · 03/01/2015 23:30

I agree with your sister. If you need physiotherapy then you need physiotherapy, you won't be doing yourself any favours by not going. Especially as period pain can be helped by gentle exercise. The class will be an hour at the most, and there will be a toilet you can use in the building if you need to half way through.

If your periods are so bad that you are unable to function for a week out of every month, then yo need to be more insistent with your GP that something needs to be done. I'd have thought it was essential that you can function the vast majority of the time when you have four disabled children to care for.

Edenviolet · 03/01/2015 23:30

Had a small fibroid a few years ago but after dc4 it was not visible on scans so I assume it went after my last cs.

I'm just hoping a mirena helps. From what I've read it should do. Till then I think I will just carry on managing as best I can. Glad to hear I'm not the only one, dsis had made me wonder if I was making a fuss over what everyone else just puts up with

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MrsMoppandBucket · 03/01/2015 23:30

I think YANBU. I have problem periods and have to plan my life around them to some extent. Sometimes there is nothing the GP can do about it.

I always have one really heavy day during which I will not do any strenuous activity. It's too uncomfortable for me and my joints ache too.

I sometimes also get a day where my brain is like a TV on static. I find it really hard to think and complex things just allude me. I always try to avoid doing mentally challenging things or making important decisions if I feel like that.

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ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 03/01/2015 23:28

Your sister is a lucky twat. One day she might look back and realise that.

I used to able to 'carry on as normal' and wear white trousers in the process. Now, no way.

I guess until you've experienced it, you think everyone has the light little no bother things I used to have.

fluffyraggies · 03/01/2015 23:28

''Dsis ... tells me I should be carrying on as normal like everyone else does.''

Sorry, but she is being a cow. Ignore her. You are suffering abnormal flow IMO, and indeed should not 'carry on as normal' like some martyr to woman kind.

for you.

Discopanda · 03/01/2015 23:25

My mum had extremely heavy, painful periods for years and it turned out to be fibroids. Maybe you should see your GP

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