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To return/sell my "D"H Christmas gifts?

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 16:41

I have bought him Harry Potter DVD set as we are going to HP World in January and a personalised number plate.

He turned over to HP film 1 a few nights ago and I said ooh let's watch something different as nearly Christmas. He walked out in a huff. Then 2 nights ago he started watching HP2 and I said don't watch this Christmas is only a few days away. He then said what on earth is your problem with me watching HP I'm a grown man. I said ok no prob I had brought it for you as a Christmas gift but don't worry about it nothing major.

Then yesterday evening he went to get something from my car and I said I'll go no snooping in my car at this time of year. This morning I caught him rummaging in the boot of my car and he had his number plates in his hands. I then said for crying out loud can't I keep anything as a surprise for you. He stormed off.

IANBU to not give him his gifts am I?

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RoastingYourChestnutsHurtsAlot · 21/12/2014 16:42

YABU and slightly odd about the films tbh

LuckyLopez · 21/12/2014 16:44

Gosh how odd. Of course it's not a surprise if you tell him. Just wrap them up and he can't see what they are can he?

Bair · 21/12/2014 16:44

YABU.

If I was trying to watch something on TV and DH was telling me not to, I'd be a bit miffed.

When going into your boot, did you just tell him not to or did you go get him the thing he needed?

Although, adults taking the huff is always U.

Nomama · 21/12/2014 16:44

NU at all.

He is one sulky, impatient child, isn't he Smile

Well, give them to him, but don't bother wrapping them. He knows, it is his own fault, he has spoiled his own surprise. Let him feel the pain...

Better luck next year!

(Though I am wondering why he stomped off - embarrassed at having been caught out??)

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 16:45

Fair enough I just thought we as a family would sit down and watch the films together over the Christmas period. I know if he watched them in the last week he wouldn't watch them with us.

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mumonashoestring · 21/12/2014 16:46

Can't see the problem with him wanting to watch the HP films (they've been out for a good while, I'm assuming he's seen them before) tbh. I would be annoyed if my DH went deliberately searching for his Christmas presents. Any chance he was looking for something else?

magpieginglebells · 21/12/2014 16:46

YABU about the films, unsure about the plates, depends if he needed something from the boot. You would be unreasonable not to give him the gifts though!!

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 16:47

I cleared the car last night bar my coat and his number plates. He had no reason to look and plates were hidden and upside down. So he went looking, yes stormed off as been caught.

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 16:49

He hadn't seen the films before.

I know annoying if looking forward to watching something but that's why I made comment re not long to christmas ie didn't think it would take a genius to think oh she's got something planned.

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Topseyt · 21/12/2014 16:52

You probably gave the game away by saying anything at all when he was watching the HP films. I would have said nothing so as not to draw attention to the possibility of it being a Christmas pressie.

What was he looking for in your car? Not a place I would generally stash stuff I wanted to hide, but that may be just me. Storming off in a huff though is childish of him at best.

Hatespiders · 21/12/2014 16:56

We watch the same films over and over. We've earmarked several old favourites we'll be watching over Christmas, including Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone and Oliver! If he's spoiled the surprise, he'll miss out on the excitement when everyone else is opening their presents won't he?
I wrap stuff the minute I get home so dh doesn't see. Then it goes in my wardrobe.

simontowers2 · 21/12/2014 16:58

You both sound a bit childish tbh. Sorry.

MooMaid · 21/12/2014 17:00

I think because you made a big deal about it, he's got a bit huffy - so what if he watches them again, you should have just left him to it!

I wouldn't have given the surprise away as to what I'd bought him yet either, even if he was in the middle of watching the same film on TV!

Waitingonasunnyday · 21/12/2014 17:01

My DH wants to go to a shop that sells only one sort of thing, and get everyone some for Christmas. I've fecking bought him some for Christmas. I am running out of excuses to not go to that shop. I wish he'd take a hint!

ElizabethHoover · 21/12/2014 17:01

why would an adult want a Harry Potter DVD

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 17:01

Fair enough I will give them to him. But I am disappointed not to have anything to give him on Christmas day now.

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pressone · 21/12/2014 17:04

I thought this thread was going to be shall I give away DH's Christmas gifts because he has been unfaithful, hit me, left me or something serious. Not because he has spoiled the surprise (in the case of the HP films because he doesn't have the crystal ball you seem to think he should have, the number plates not sure if this was snooping or genuine needing to find something)

You are both behaving like stroppy teens so yes, YABU

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 17:05

ElizabethHoover the same adult who wants to watch the film on TV.

Unfortunately he'll only watch stuff once so I know he won't watch it less than a week after watching it with the family.

The kids will watch it many times so after we watched it all together they'd watch it in the future. But I will now just watch with the kids

The going in my car annoyed me more. My space, no need and he was looking for his gift nothing else.

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Tinks42 · 21/12/2014 17:06

OOps just sounds like a comedy of errors here. I actually think it's quite funny. Go and get him a little something else if its important to you to give a "surprise" and of course wrap the others up too.

In future can't you ask a friend to look after his gifts knowing he's a snooper?

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 17:08

Waiting I feel your pain you want to treat them give them a nice surprise on Xmas morning but they don't make it easy!

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ChristineWrapping · 21/12/2014 17:09

I'll follow his lead in future years and give the gift of nothing.

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Tinks42 · 21/12/2014 17:10

Blimey... he gives you nothing? now that's another story isnt it.

Bulbasaur · 21/12/2014 17:11

I accidentally ruined a few of DH's gifts this year. Now he has them in a black bag and said if I peaked I don't get them. Grin

Think of this from your DH's perspective. His wife is suddenly acting controlling bonkers and then telling him not to look in the car. Wouldn't you want to see what he was hiding?

Me and DH have a set gift stash area in the house where we put the gifts. We've agreed not to look in those places.

In any case, you two are both acting a bit wound up about this. You bought the gifts because you knew he would like them. He only ruined his own surprise and took the fun out of it. I wouldn't get upset about it though. Just don't let him have them until Christmas day.

ArthurSHappeyChristmas · 21/12/2014 17:13

YABU!
He can watch a film, stop nagging him. I'm sorry you bought him something that's on TV and he fancied watching it, but seriously he is a grown man. You shouldn't have said anything and simply said 'whoops' when he opened it but instead you kicked up a fuss.

Regarding the number plates. You could have wrapped them and then he wouldn't have seen them.is it really worth calling out about before Christmas?

Bulbasaur · 21/12/2014 17:13

Wait, just read the update. He gets you nothing?

Why are you buying gifts for him? Confused

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