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AIBU?

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To think you shouldn't buy yourself presents in December!

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JennyBlueWren · 15/12/2014 15:23

DH asked for an XboxOne. He also started buying himself games. I pointed out that I might find him a package (console + game) and to know what games he'd bought, which ones he would want and to warn him not to buy any more.
I was lucky and got a great deal in an Amazon Lightning sale with the console, an extra controller, 2 games and Xbox Live Gold membership.

Today he has told me that he decided yesterday to upgrade back to Gold membership in time for getting his XboxOne!!! Don't know how much they cost but think he could have waited to see what he got. I've told him that I've got him one too and he's not sure if he'll be able to use it after his runs out or if he could get a friend to buy it off him.

AIBU to be grumpy that he bought himself something this close to Christmas?

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 15/12/2014 15:29

No YADNBU! Why would he do that? Also I would be miffed if DH bought things to go with a present he hadn't got yet, feels very presumptuous to me. What if you couldn't afford it, or had found something else to get him?

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 15/12/2014 15:32

It's possible he can use the second gold membership next year as I don't think the codes expire.

But I think you are a little unreasonable to expect him to not buy anything in December and is an illustration as to why significant presents for adults is a bit silly really.

Isn't it just easier for him to choose and buy his own XBox stuff. After all, there's not much of an element of surprise is there? He know's he's getting an XBox.

DaisyFlowerChain · 15/12/2014 15:33

You can run them together so it should just extend his membership.

Hatespiders · 15/12/2014 17:09

Well I bought myself a new net curtain online. I'm pretty sure my dh hasn't got me one of those!

FuckinUnderTheChristmasTree · 15/12/2014 17:17

This happens all the time between me and my dad. I was moaning a few weeks ago that our old DVD player was about to give up the ghost. I bought a cheapo one from Amazon last week, and mentioned it in passing to my dad. He was like . He's only bought me a top of the range Blu-ray player for Christmas. I guess the kids can have the cheap one I bought in dd1's room.

spritesoright · 15/12/2014 17:24

I got in trouble for buying myself something last week. We were at a Christmas fair and I saw these lovely handmade necklaces so I bought myself one quickly thinking DH would object to the price.
Of course he found out but was annoyed that he couldn't get it for me as a gift rather than the price I realised it was a bit selfish and impulsive.
So no, I don't think YABU.

InfinitySeven · 15/12/2014 17:26

My DP has 11 years of gold membership lined up. It really doesn't matter. You can just add the code on and it'll add another year.

mupperoon · 15/12/2014 17:31

My mum pulls this sort of stunt all the time. It drives me nuts. She's always raiding M&S in early December for the sort of stuff that we're bound to buy her for Xmas.

Ragwort · 15/12/2014 17:43

I think it's much easier to have a policy of not buying presents for adults at Christmas - that's what we do - no misunderstandings/similar gifts/wasted money. We agree to exchange token gifts - or something foody and buy whatever we want for ourselves - so I always end up with exactly what I want .

BumpAndGrind · 15/12/2014 18:03

I'm quite guilty for this.

I've bought myself a new laptop and a new coat this month.

Summerisle1 · 15/12/2014 18:05

YANBU.

It's an unwritten rule in our family that December is the month to avoid treating yourself to precisely the sort of gifts it'd be reasonable to get for Christmas! That's not to say you can't buy yourself anything but just think first before splashing out on certain sorts of stuff.

Hatespiders · 15/12/2014 18:05

Oh my dh and I know exactly what each of us is getting the other. He likes football crap and I have to consult him about which team etc. He's getting a Norwich City cap and a Man U top. Also those daft bangbang men's action dvd's. I wouldn't know what to buy. And I like scented soaps, which we buy together and he pays for. We aren't the most exciting couple in the world are we?! But I do get some small surprises for his stocking, bless him.

NowBringUsSomeFuzzpiggyPudding · 15/12/2014 18:16

DH and I have 'pocket money' which is what we use for getting ourselves little treats like DVDs - we have an agreement to always tell each other when we are going to order something approaching Xmas/birthdays. TBH we usually tell each other whatever time of year it is, just in a making conversation way.

Still didn't manage to avoid a duplicate this year though - I texted DH all excited that I'd managed to get a rare Lego set for DD... turned out DH had already bought one for me! (I did ask for Lego but had no clue he'd managed to get this particular set)

Oldraver · 15/12/2014 18:21

I think he is acting like a spoilt child...it would not of hurt him to of waited a week

SoonMeansNever · 15/12/2014 18:56

YANBU, it's intensely irritating, especially when some people are hard to buy for.
Yet another Amazon package landed on the doormat last week, a book that would've been a great extra present.
We even have a shared list with what we might like for birthday/Xmas, why the hell didn't he put it on there?

Gruntfuttock · 15/12/2014 19:03

I'm allowed to buy myself presents any day of the year, because no one else does. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

WankingInAWinterWonderland · 15/12/2014 19:06

YANBU

WiseKneeHair · 15/12/2014 19:08

The slippers MIL bought me last Christmas have the sole hanging off and I've almost broken my neck falling down the stairs several times slight exaggeration however, I have not bought a new pair as I know MIL will have gotten me a pair.
If I can go about in daily peril op, then your DH could wait a little longer for new Xbox games.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 15/12/2014 19:09

I'm i not allowed to spend my birthday money then.

Adds 1 more of it sucks to have a birthday in December.

If people are stuck then just buy me loads of pods.

mangoespadrille · 15/12/2014 19:19

What has he bought for you? Hopefully something to occupy your time whilst he spends the next two years on the XBox?

chanie44 · 15/12/2014 19:35

I think buying a console is guy thing that most women will never understand.

OH has been waiting a year for the playstation to go down in price and finally bought it on his birthday. His birthday coincided with Black Friday and there was much angst over which deal to go for or whether he should wait a bit longer.

I told him to just buy the damn thing and don't look back.

ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 15/12/2014 20:58

It is very bad form!

Dp does it all the time!

This year he has been obsessively looking at watches and even bidding on eBay luckily he hasn't won anything yet as Iv got him one for Christmas!

My mum has told me what she wants and I secretly got it then a week later she casually mentions she had said the exact same thing to my sister so it's her loss if she ends up with 1000 things the same grrrr!

How hard is to just not get things until Christmas is over surely people can wait a couple of weeks.

Starlightbright1 · 15/12/2014 21:08

I bought myself a couple of things including my fave perfume that was on offer as I get just about nothing...

I wouldn't of bought x box things though if someone was buying me an x box..The thing is at this time of year is some good offers around

Preciousbane · 15/12/2014 21:37

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Lilmissconcerned · 16/12/2014 04:32

Irony think your bring unreasonable.. Like other posters wee gave the rule you don't buy yourself stuff in December too.

At least it good to know it's not wasted x

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