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Original poster

To knock on someone's door at about half 8 at night?

56 replies

KeepAbreast · 05/12/2014 18:53

And if so, what would you say is the latest reasonable time?

Basically I ordered a parcel last week which, after a week of infuriating phone calls, I am told has been delivered to (well, left on the back doorstep of) a different address which sounds very similar and is a couple of streets away from mine.

Couriers have said their plan is to go and collect my parcel from this address Hmm and redeliver it to me. However, this will probably happen some time in 2046 if their service up to this point is anything to go by, and what will they do if they aren't in or refuse to hand it over?

So I want to go and see if I can pick it up myself. The only problem is it's a big parcel and I don't drive and have a baby DD, so I can't just pop over for it whenever. I took DD to the doctors in a taxi earlier via this address but nobody was in, so I'm assuming the occupant works or is otherwise out of the house a lot.

WIBU to send DP round on his way home at about 8.30/9pm tonight? I appreciate they may be ready for bed or have sleeping children but really, when am I supposed to catch them? The courier company will have no chance. DP is working even later tomorrow so can't go tomorrow unless I can cadge a lift from somebody or find someone to help me carry the parcel.

Sorry for the epic post!

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fairgame · 05/12/2014 18:56

Sorry i think 8.30-9pm is too late. I wouldn't be happy at being disturbed at that time of night as DS would be in bed.
Maybe pop a note through their door and ask them to call you to arrange a convenient time.

Bowlersarm · 05/12/2014 18:57

I had a normal delivery last night at about 9.15. I was thrilled because it was needed for today, although it was just left in the porch so I didnt have to answer the door.

Mostly i have had a bath and in dressing gown etc by 8.30 and I wouldn't be answering the door then. If not ready for bed I would though, so worth a try.

LittleBairn · 05/12/2014 19:00

I wouldn't, its rude. I won't open the door at that time of night unless I'm expecting someone.

MinnieM1 · 05/12/2014 19:01

I wouldn't answer the door at that time if I were home alone, I would send DP to answer it if he was in though
I second the idea to pop a note in with your number on

Original poster
KeepAbreast · 05/12/2014 19:02

Sorry I forgot to add I work 4-8pm Monday-Friday (normally, am off with poorly DD today) so normal sort of early evening time I can't do.

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ShakesBootyFlabWobbles · 05/12/2014 19:02

It'll be fine, go for it. Even if they think it is late, well, it is only a one-off. He can just tap on the front window if he doesn't want to disturb the children. I bet they will be glad to have it off their hands if it is bulky.

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/12/2014 19:02

If this house is not too far out of your husband's way, I would first drop a note through their door, explaining the position and asking if it would be all right if your parcel was collected the following evening around 8.30. Enclose your phone number in case they want to make a different arrangement. That way, when your husband turns up, they will be expecting him at that time.

Original poster
KeepAbreast · 05/12/2014 19:03

Hmm I thought it would be too late. I can't recall having answered the door at that time myself.

I will walk past tomorrow I think and pop a note through if nobody is in.

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Hakluyt · 05/12/2014 19:04

8.30? Of course it's fine!

9.30- you might be pushing it but 8.30?

flipchart · 05/12/2014 19:04

It wouldn't bother us at all. I'll be glad to get shut of it!

Artandco · 05/12/2014 19:04

I think it's fine, we are just finishing dinner then and hours from bed

TheReluctantCountess · 05/12/2014 19:05

I think up to nine pm is fine.

feelingunsupported · 05/12/2014 19:06

I'd drop a note in with a quick explanation, times I could pick up and my mobile - ask on the note for them to text to say when's convenient.

mydaftlass · 05/12/2014 19:06

I think it's fine. Not late at all.

feelingunsupported · 05/12/2014 19:07

Cross post!

Notmeagain1 · 05/12/2014 19:09

I wouldn't have an issue with it tbh. I think it is really the sensible thing to do at this point. Good luck on getting your package back!

HairyCat · 05/12/2014 19:10

That is late

marnia68 · 05/12/2014 19:13

Too late in winter.A light summer evening would be different

ohtheholidays · 05/12/2014 19:14

8.30 is fine.When you have teenagers believe me you'll be answering the door a lot later than that.

soaccidentprone · 05/12/2014 19:14

Well it would be obvious whether they are in or not (hopefully), and I would happily answer the door at 8.30.

I'd also get your dh to write a note in advance asking them to contact you, then if they aren't in, or don't answer the door, he will be able to pop a not through the letterbox.

trufflesnout · 05/12/2014 19:15

8.30 is fine.

BMW6 · 05/12/2014 19:17

Up until 9pm is fine by me (I frequently take in neighbours parcels as I appear to me the only one at home during the day)

BreconBeBuggered · 05/12/2014 19:18

I think they'd be glad to be rid of it. 8.30 isn't that late.

longestlurkerever · 05/12/2014 19:18

I think it's fine too. I wouldn't just call on someone for the hell of it at that time but as a one off to collect a parcel it is fine. They won't answer if they don't want to.

Hulababy · 05/12/2014 19:20

I think up to 9pm is fine, but no later. 8:30pm sounds and feels much earlier than 9pm too, so as early as possible.

Alternatively try the weekend.

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