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Original poster

to not allow overnight guests to take a shower?

32 replies

mausmaus · 30/11/2014 10:29

no, not really, just need a vent

have a relative stay. stressful enough as it is. same old unfunny anecdotes as every last visit.
generally lovely person, but as they say about fish and visitors...

anyway, they flood the bathroom each day when they take a shower. floor properly covered in a big puddle. have no idea how they manage to do it, even my 8yo makes less of a splash.

so wibu to switch off the hot water so they won't have a shower?

OP posts:
gamerchick · 30/11/2014 10:33

Can you not pull them up on it?

muntermonster · 30/11/2014 10:33

Can't you just not have this person to stay, as it doesn't sound like you enjoy it? Maybe have the spare room in a perpetual state of renovation. Or, could you have a word about the shower? Sounds like maybe he/she is not putting a mat down, not closing the shower door, not pulling the curtain across, or something similar. Could be simple enough to resolve.

CatsCantTwerk · 30/11/2014 10:35

Can You not just tell them? show them where the bath mat is and instruct them to use it? Confused

ilovesooty · 30/11/2014 10:35

At what point are you planning on telling the guest that you've turned the hot water off?

Original poster
mausmaus · 30/11/2014 10:38

I told them twice every visit but it doesn't make a difference.
they also use a lynx type body spray
can't wait till they leave...

OP posts:
Aeroflotgirl · 30/11/2014 10:39

Does not sound like you enjoy it, so don't have him stay, or if you do tell him and give him a mop to clean it up.

Hoggle246 · 30/11/2014 10:41

Ha, no advice sorry but I am in similar boat. Got overbearing relatives staying. Yesterday they decided to dye their hair (!) and ruined my towels. Plus being an insomniac and walking about our small house 3 times during the night meaning that we and baby got no sleep.
I am a grump, I know. Anyway, you have my sympathies Grin

Original poster
mausmaus · 30/11/2014 11:05

I could go on and on about the annoying habits of my guest. but that would sound like I really don't like this person.

I do, just not for a whole week 24/7

OP posts:
CatLady25 · 30/11/2014 11:10

Thats irritating my ex used to do that then i would go in and it would wet my socks gr

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/11/2014 11:38

I'm sorry, but I think it would be very unreasonable indeed to do this. I understand why you would be cross about them leaving a puddle on the floor - maybe march them back in and make them mop it up - but it would be horrible to make them stay grubby.

And if they aren't allowed to have a shower, they will use more Lynx!

AliceLidl · 30/11/2014 11:44

mausmaus if my DH wasn't sitting on our sofa right now, and we didn't have our own sodden, Lynx stinking bathroom upstairs, I'd think you'd got him there visiting you this weekend. Grin

fluffling · 30/11/2014 11:54

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Discopanda · 30/11/2014 13:13

I would just be honest, explain how you love having them to stay and want them to feel comfortable but you are worried about potential water damage so could they please be careful in the bathroom. I'm presuming you have a decent shower curtain they can make use of?

WorraLiberty · 30/11/2014 13:17

Just get an old towel and bung it on the floor.

Tell them it's because they keep flooding it.

Discopanda · 30/11/2014 13:19

I'm actually lolling at that WorraLiberty!

ClaudiaNaughton · 30/11/2014 13:19

I'd tell them the bathroom floods very easily wetting ceilings below and show them the extra precautions you take when using it.

specialsubject · 30/11/2014 13:20

every house has eccentricities and if people aren't coping, politely tell them how to cope.

although there is NO excuse for dying hair in someone else's bathroom!

Coffeeinapapercup · 30/11/2014 13:22

I agree with worra. Buy a super big bath towel, hang it over the side of the shower when done. Easy problem to solve not worth a fuss

WhyYouGottaBeSoRude · 30/11/2014 13:26

How are they actually wetting the floor? Are they not pulling the shower door/screen/curtain over properly or are they just getting out of the shower sopping wet and drip drying? Confused

If possible i would fold a pile of extra towels and leave them in the bathroom for them to use if they soak the place and also have a bath mat already on the floor before they go in there.

LegoAdventCalendar · 30/11/2014 13:28

FGS! Grow a spine. TELL them they are damaging your floor and hand them a mop.

Bettercallsaul1 · 30/11/2014 13:41

That is a pest, OP, but it sounds as though you really can't be bothered with this visitor anyway, and the bathroom splashing is just the last straw. Unless it is someone you really can't put off, I would just make an excuse not to have him/her next time - just decide in advance that it's not worth it!

The person on this thread who really sounds as if they have problems is Hoggle246! Dying their hair in your house and staining the towels! And waking you up in the night when you have a baby! Now that is the height of inconsiderateness and you are a saint to put up with it!

ipswichwitch · 30/11/2014 13:54

This is why we don't have guests to stay
The last time was when I came downstairs to find the guest taking a bite out of the cheese. Then wrapping it and putting back in the fridge.

Bettercallsaul1 · 30/11/2014 14:09

That is hilarious, ipswitch! (for those of us who didn't own the cheese, that is!)

Kiffykaffycoffee · 30/11/2014 16:18

Does your shower have a proper door or a drafty, flappy curtain? Does it close properly? Could your relative be persuaded to have a bath instead? Or have lots of bath mats to soak it up?

Tzibeleh · 30/11/2014 16:25

Is it possible that the relative does not realise that the shower curtain has to hang inside the bath?

(I remember the first time I came across a shower curtain. I was a teenage guest in someone's house. On the 3rd morning they not-so-patiently took me into the bathroom and demonstrated the proper use ofshower curtains. Blush)