Husband making formal without levelling off scoop

[zeddybrek]

Hi All

I have gone totally mental at DH. Our PFB is now exclusively formal fed and I saw my husband make up his feed for the first time by chance. He didn't level off each scoop and instead roughly guessed it.

When I saw this I went completely mad and told him off and he thinks I am being precious.

Can you lovely ladies please tell me if measuring out the exact formula is really that important or am I being pedantic for wanting to follow instructions on how to make up a feed properly.

I'm so angry at him just for his laziness.

TIA

formula not formal!!!

I did it a couple of times.

all three kids appear reasonably ok and 'normal'

I wouldnt stress about it too much (unless he is scooping a humungous amount!!)

Well it is called formula because there is a formula to it. One scoop + 1oz water. Too much or too little formula will make it too thick or too thin.

He is being a tool as quite clearly he just "cant be arsed" to do it properly. Shame when it is something so essential to your little one. I mean, all they consume is milk. How hard is it for him to give a shit about the one food item they need.

Agree, unless it was heaped high I would not worry.

I thought if it was too thick it could be harmful to their liver or something. I might be making that up. I am sure Dr Google will tell you!

The risks for not measuring formula properly as I understand them are:

• too much formula for the water will make it too concentrated and stress liver and kidneys
• too little, and the baby won't get all the nutrition intended.

I imagine to odd undersized scoop won't hurt, but I wouldn't make a bit of it. The formula we used had a "scoop levelling" flat edge on the mouth opening.

Its not hard to level it off is it? What's his fucking problem? It could give your baby constipation or not enough nutrition ffs. Just do it properly Op's dh, don't be a dobber! It's the baby that will suffer.

Don't stress. Its really not a problem unless he's doubling the dose at every feed. Even then, it would probably mean tbas the baby just ate less.

If he was counting out 6 hugely heaped spoons instead of 6 levelled off spoons, that's not so good. If he was shaking the spoons to approx flat and balancing the slightly-more spoonfuls with slightly less then it's really not that big a deal.

There is a risk of dehydration if too concentrated and risk of not getting enough calories if too dilute, but if it's pretty close to the right amount then these risks are probably low. It is more of a concern with a newborn than an older baby who's on solids and drinking water etc.

You probably shouldn't have gone 'mental' at him but just explained the importance of measuring formula correctly. He probably hadn't realised, I'm sure he wouldn't have been putting the baby at risk for the hell of it.

Too much powder would make the formula too concentrated and the baby would get constipated, too little powder and the baby would be hungry and may lose weight.

No YANBU. It's important to get it exactly right or the baby won't get the correct amount of fluid. Tell the HV to have a word if he needs an "expert" opinion.

It's not good, but it depends how old they are really as to 'how bad' it is. Newborn, quite serious, near one, no problem.

If the baby is small just explain to him that if there's too much powder it will hurt the baby because ALL of it's intake is too dry, it would be like eating weetabix all day without a drink.

It's not like making coffee with too much or too little coffee powder.

Explanation is usually better than going batshit though.

I agree with thinkivebeenhacked. Babies have one type of food, the instructions are simple enough. He should Just do it as it says on the tin.

Wouldn't it have been better to just tell him that its not good for the baby to do it that way, and to have had a conversation about the correct way to do it?
He didn't know, obviously, you really had no right to "go mad at him and tell him off/angry at his laziness". By precious I'm guessing he actually means arsey. People aren't born knowing this stuff and you're not his boss.You don't even know either, which is why you're asking here. Was there any need to be so horrible about it?

If he roughly guessed it then I assume he didn't heap loads into the bottle with every scoop - it would have been mostly level each time? It will be fine.
Telling him off is an overreaction.

Actually it's important to measure properly. The odd slip up won't hurt but if it's a regal thing it affects the levels of all the nutrients and can through the babies levels off and make them sick if not done properly.

He's being lazy there's a plastic strip across the corner to level off the scoops as you bring it out the tub

A bit of a rounded top to the scoop? Then chill out!
So much piled on top of the scoop that it's practically two scoops? Then i's worth gently pointing out that it will end up a bit too concentrated for little tummies.

No need to flip out, but then You've just had a baby, so crazy lay behaviour is pretty standard issue.

Regular

I'm pretty sure it's important so YANBU.

Do you think this was a genuine mistake which he feels bad about and so has leapt into defensive mode over, or a "deliberately being a useless arse so I don't get asked to do this again, (although hopefully I haven't realised that this is actually potentially dangerous)"?

Forgot to say - switch to cartons. So much easier all round and they are made up perfectly!

Thanks everyone.

The box of formula has a little squared off bit of cardboard so you can level off easily. I have no idea why he just doesn't use it.

So so lazy, I can't even look at him right now.

Thank you again for your opinions and for letting me vent.

Oh for fucks sake!

Not you op but some posts are ridiculous.

Your baby will be fine. By the time they crawl he will be eating all sorts.

Just tell him best level it off but it's not life or death.

You probably both need more sleep.

YANBU, as think says, there is a 'formula' to it. If there is too much water to powder, your DC may not be receiving the calories they need, if there is too much powder to water your DC may become constipated or worse.

Sontarans yes and cartons are bloody expensive too! Far more than formula if you're on a budget.