to still be at work when DS has been sick?

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He is with his Daddy.

OH said DS was sick (twice) but isn't "ill" as such? He has eaten a little, isn't hot, seems OK in himself.

I am a 10 minute cab ride from home.

AIBU?

Erm, no….he's with your DH

I'm assuming this is PFB?

Get used to it. If you leave work every time your DS is poorly you won't be employed for very long.

Ah his dad can fuss over him. Added to this, if you are only 10 minutes away you can always pop back in your lunch hour, if you are really concerned.

it doesn't take 2 to look after a sick child.

Bless

No yanbu. It wouldn't cross my mind that either dh or I would or should come home when dc is ill and she is with the other one.

yanbu. If you were the man this question wouldn't even be asked.

I am a nanny. I text my boss when the kids are ill. But I don't expect them to come home.

Blimey no YANBU. He's with his Dad!

He's with his dad. Why are you even asking.

It's not a favour. He's his dad

Just feeling a wee bit guilty

I have left him ill with Daddy before but sometimes they just want their Mummy?

Yes he is PFB

YANBU. Refusing to collect him from nursery would be unreasonable. Carrying on working while he is in the care of someone he loves and trusts who is able to care for him is perfectly sensible. Feeling a bit sad that you aren't there to look after him is also ok.

Thanks Molly X

I'm amazed you're even asking the question. Is this your first child and have you only just gone back to work?

He doesn't need two parents looking after him for a bit of a sick bug.

YANBU

I'm not amazed you're asking the question. It seems a human question; child sick, should I be there? Do I need to be there? Fail to see why needs gendering or loading with periphery issues.

If you want to be there, be there. Take pm as hol. Or stay home tomoz. Or leave hour early and get treats for tea. What would you like to do?

First child, been back almost 12 months.

Yes I am pathetic, I actually feel better the more pathetic I am told I am being.

When they are ill lots of children want their mummy. However it is really good for your ds to learn that he can rely on and take comfort from his dad when he's poorly (and when he's not too sick is the perfect time to try this). There will be times when for whatever reason (work, another child, being sick yourself) that you can't be the one to care for him.

Will see how DS is at the day progresses and take it from there.

Have told manager I could be called away.

This will give you all a laugh.

First time DS was ever ill (sickness) OH had him but rang me in a right panic. I jumped in a cab home and yes two of us "nursed" our PFB together.

Excellent point Barbarian, DC number 2 is due in a few months.

Also to add that I am mildly phobic of sick so probably not the best person you want around?

His Dad is much better at all this anyway.

you have made provision for your son, and he doesn't sound very ill anyway. focus on your job. thats what your are being paid for. Fine to let work people down if its an emergency, but a slighlty sick child who's in good hands hardly applies. Sorry to be blunt - but hopefully that will make you feel better still. we can't fight for feminism and equal rights and then run back home at the first bit of sickness

Plus if your dh is looking after him you are less likely to catch it! Tummy bugs are even less pleasant when you are pregnant.

BarbarianMum People are amazed at the question because it is clearly not practical or necessary for both parents to take time off work every time their child is sick.

Sorry I meant to direct that at "Boomtownsurprise", not Barbarianmum

Of course YANBU to stay at work, but it's also totally natural for parents to want to be there when their child is sick.