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To set my alarm this 'early'?

55 replies

SandyArse · 20/10/2014 22:55

I want to set my alarm to go off at 6.10am (five minutes before I need to get up).
DH has stormed off to sleep in DD1s room and doesnt understand why I can't leap out of bed immediately it first goes off. Surely that's why snooze buttons were invented???

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juneybean · 20/10/2014 22:56

I regularly do this! What's he got a face on him for?!

DoughnutSelfie · 20/10/2014 22:56

Well does he need to wake up that early too? If not then you are being a bit u imo

greenbananas · 20/10/2014 23:01

takes me at least forty minutes to get up, and I sleep through all alarms so dh has to physically shake me at least twice every morning.

When I was single and having to get up for work on my own, I would have to set my alarm for at least two hours before waking up time; or I would be late. I tried every kind of alarm I could think of. The only ones that worked were those horrid old fashioned ringing bells, and I even slept through those sometimes.

nohysteriahere · 20/10/2014 23:01

I thought you were setting it for an early time!

Dh is out by 5am, ds1 up by 5:15 and my alarm goes at 5:45.

Ds2 and dd are both up by 6:45.

Yadnbu,

SantanaLopez · 20/10/2014 23:02

He's being an arse.

SockQueen · 20/10/2014 23:03

If you're repeatedly hitting snooze and he doesn't have to get up till later then I can understand why he's cross.

InfinitySeven · 20/10/2014 23:05

It's a bit mean to wake him up for no reason.

I'll snooze with the best of them at weekends, but on weekdays I get up when I need too and quietly get ready. You get more better quality sleep then, and just one alarm has less chance of waking up your DH.

ghostyslovesheep · 20/10/2014 23:06

6:04 ...I get up at 6:30 ...he would hate me!

TinyDancingHoofer · 20/10/2014 23:57

It's mean, I hate being woken up before I need to be.

PuffinsAreFicticious · 21/10/2014 00:04

Enjoy your lie in. DH has to cope with my alarm going of at 0430 every morning. If he's seen his arse over an alarm, let him stew.

SaucyJack · 21/10/2014 00:05

Do the children need to be up at that time too?

Personally, I have no guilt at all in waking DP if the baby is up or the kids need getting ready for school.

PurpleSwift · 21/10/2014 00:09

The snooze button pisses me off. It takes me aaaages to fall back to sleep if oh wakes me on a morning, usually I'm about to drift off again when LO wakes up.
Thankfully my oh rarely does this.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 21/10/2014 00:10

I do the same OP. And I have to get up at 6am at the weekends - so have my alarm set for 5.45!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/10/2014 00:18

If you have to get up early, an early alarm is unavoidable, but if it is earlier, or a lot earlier than your other half is having to get up, then hitting the snooze button so there is a second alarm 9 (or however many) minutes later, is unreasonable.

Dh is always up earlier than me - I often suffer insomnia, and once I do get to sleep, I really want to stay asleep. I know he has to set his alarm - sometimes really early (4am, if he is flying down to London), but he does his best to minimise the impact of these early alarms on me - and that definitely means NO snooze button.

Sorry - I think waking someone else up twice (or more), that early, is unreasonable. Maybe even a bit selfish.

AGnu · 21/10/2014 00:20

DH sets at least half a dozen alarms every morning. Their sole purpose seems to be to wake me up enough that I shout at him to turn them off before he wakes the DC up. Drives me completely potty & causes numerous arguments between us. Don't see why the rest of us need to wake up at 6.30 when the DC would happily sleep until 8ish if left alone!

DiaDuit · 21/10/2014 00:26

6.45, 7.00, 7.15 and 7.30- i get up at 8.00.

But i'm single! and dont think i'll ever live with anyone ever again. Apart from cuddly dcs who dont flinch at my alarm despite being in my bed.

greenbananas · 21/10/2014 00:37

my ds2 (aged one) recently slept through a builder with a circular saw cutting the floorboards about 2 metres from where he was napping. A boy after my own heart! (although I do worry that he won't be able to wake up for work when he is grown).

shaska · 21/10/2014 00:43

Exactly the same as DiaDuit except I'm not single and I don't care one jot if it wakes DH up before he 'needs' to. hth.

NerdyBird · 21/10/2014 00:48

It's annoying to be repeatedly woken by someone else's alarm/snooze routine, but not worth flouncing to another room. DP does the snooze thing. It's quite a short gap so his alarm goes off every 5 mins for at least half an hour from 6am. I often have to prod him as he doesn't hear it half the time.
When I was working I'd hit the snooze button too, so I try not to mind too much.

Sprink · 21/10/2014 00:55

Snooze alarms for couples with significantly different schedules are selfish.

That said, I genuinely believe couples should have separate sleeping quarters (like in the Palace of Versailles!), or at the very least separate bathrooms.

You can always share when you want, but you don't have to. Utter bliss.

GoBigOrange · 21/10/2014 06:08

My DH sets his alarm for 5:35, hits snooze once and gets up at 5:45 when it goes off again. This is fine IMO and really not a great disturbance for me. I mean, he has to get up, and two alarms close together isn't much worse than one really.

My ex however used to set his alarm for 6:00, to go off every 10 minutes before he finally lugged his butt out of bed at about 7:30. It is a miracle I never actually stove his skull in with that bloody alarm clock. Now that is unreasonable selfish snoozing.

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SandyArse · 21/10/2014 06:28

His alarm goes off at 6.30 but Im surely doing him a favour?

I love that feeling of 'awake but don't need to be up just yet' and need to be ready before DCs are up so I can deal with them -without shouting- in a timely manner.

I sleep SO soundly tho and takes ages to wake up. I don't think 5 mins is too unreasonable -although I did once let it go on for 30 mins-

Sprink I totally agree - sleeping apart is the answer to marital bliss (as long as you still hang out in the same bed before and after sleep). Oh the joys of no snoring!

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Coughle · 21/10/2014 06:33

The time is irrelevant - how many times do you hit snooze?

Gaia81 · 21/10/2014 06:44

I sleep like the dead but once I'm awake I'm awake so endless hitting of a snooze button drives me mad as I'm properly awake after the first alarm goes off. I don't need time to 'come round' I just see it as getting 10 mins/ half an hour less sleep.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 21/10/2014 06:59

I either sleep through alarms or snooze for up to an hour. Whatever you have to do is fine. It's also fine to sleep in a different room if partner's snooze habits are not to your own needs.

My stb ex used to leap up and turn my alarms off before I woke often making me late for work and dd late for school, which I found infuriatingly selfish. He doesn't have to get up at any particular time. Separate beds has always seemed like a great idea to me.
Let him flounce, and you do things how you need to.

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