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To set my alarm this 'early'?

55 replies

SandyArse · 20/10/2014 22:55

I want to set my alarm to go off at 6.10am (five minutes before I need to get up).
DH has stormed off to sleep in DD1s room and doesnt understand why I can't leap out of bed immediately it first goes off. Surely that's why snooze buttons were invented???

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Whippet81 · 21/10/2014 07:59

Seriously for five minutes?

Try living with my DP - he drives me insane - he can go in to work at various times and he ll set it for 5am saying he's going in early and then got snooze five times - then he ll peer out window and decide he's not going on his bike he take the van so sets another alarm. I'm ready to brain him by this point - this is selfish but I still half joke about it and just tell him to hurry up and piss off.

He is BU - how does he cope with anything slightly stressful if he can't cope with that?

whois · 21/10/2014 08:41

and I don't care one jot if it wakes DH up before he 'needs' to. hth.

Wow. You're nice. Glad your relationship is built on mural consideration...

Multiple snoozes isn't really on but one snooze as long as you are quick to turn the alarm off each time is probably OK.

darlingfascistbullyboy · 21/10/2014 08:48

YABU.

This drives me mad - dh used to do this & it really pissed me off. If I need to be up at 6:30, I set the alarm for 6:30 and get get up when it goes off. If dh needed to he'd set the alarm for 5:45 & 'enjoy' 45 minutes of light dozing & hitting the snooze button every 5 minutes. He doesn't do it any more and I like him much more than I used to.

shaska · 21/10/2014 09:29

oh c'mon whois, i do consider him, he gets a cup of tea and a kiss. And then, the absolute sod, he gets to go back to sleep if he likes. But at that hour I feel like, barring shiftwork or other reasons, any reasonable adult can deal with waking up a bit. He's the same, by the way, it's not just me who does this. Except he stomps around muttering about how he can't find anything, so often I'll have to rouse myself and mutter directions like 'cupboard, you idiot'.

Chunderella · 21/10/2014 09:35

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backinthebox · 21/10/2014 09:37

Snooze buttons drive me mad. I have to be up at all sorts of weird times - my shifts can start at any time of day or night. So my alarm gets a lot of use. I set it for one go, then get up. Some days I need extra sleep if I have been up over night at work. DH's stupidly unnecessary alarms (which wake him, me, the kids, and probably half the village,) are infuriating. People feel protective of their sleep - quite why anyone would wish to waste it by lying there in a half awake state is beyond me!

lisucbgiberiocnha · 21/10/2014 09:40

if another person is sleeping using the snooze button is selfish

Mascaramascara1 · 21/10/2014 09:42

Repeated snoozing is very annoying and hugely inconsiderate if you have a partner.

DH and I have had a couple of morning arguments over his snooze habits. About once a month he does a Saturday early shift and needs to leave the house at 6.30.

He used to set the alarm for 5.30, then snooze it every 5 minutes until he leapt out of bed at 6.15. By which time I was thoroughly awake and grumpy.

The kids sleep until about 8 on a Saturday and I have no desire to be awake at 6! Very selfish - he has stopped doing this after a huge row a few months back where I threatened to unplug the alarm when he was sleeping and now sets it for 6.10 and has one snooze - which I can deal with.

VileStatistyx · 21/10/2014 09:43

I'm on his side. I'd hate to be woken up by repeated alarms and would probably shove the alarm complete with snooze button, right up your arse Grin

Daft question but why can't you just get up at the same time? 6:15 and 6:30? How does that work? surely if you're talking a mere quarter of an hour it would be easier to simply get up together and get started on the day? That's an extra coffee and a bit of news. Grin

Or get a sunrise alarm that wakes you up by gradually lighting up, simulating sunrise. It's a lovely way to wake up, particularly in the winter. Much easier on the system than a siren repeatedly jolting you from sleep.

It just seems really daft to get to storming off point over what boils down to about 15 minutes in bed.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/10/2014 09:47

Shaska - I would not thank you for a hot beverage when I could have had some more uninterrupted sleep! And I wouldn't inflict repeated alarms on my dh either, if the tables were turned, and he was having more of a lie-in than me.

And to be honest, I don't think it matters what drink you bring him, how many kisses he gets, or that he gets to go back to sleep, when you state you 'don't care a jot' if you wake him up!! I really hope that is you exaggerating for effect, because saying that and meaning it is just horrible.

cherrybombxo · 21/10/2014 09:50

I wouldn't mind five minutes but my DP insists that he can't get up as soon as the alarm goes off and insists on snoozing it every ten minutes for forty minutes, even though I don't need to be up until an hour after he finally gets up. I'm a terrible sleeper so this is infuriating, I'm wide awake after the first alarm!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/10/2014 13:00

In your situation, I think I would get up, put the main light on and start noisily getting ready for the day - "sorry, darling, but I am awake so I have to get up and get going. What - you wanted another 40 minutes sleep? Oh dear. Maybe tomorrow you set your alarm for that time and get up then, and don't go in for this stupid, selfish routine with the snooze button. You can't get up when the alarm goes off? I bet you could get up straight away if the fire alarm was going off - so it isn't a case of you can't get up, it is that you don't want to, and I am not letting you get away with that shit any more!"

Or something like that.

Itsjustmeagain · 21/10/2014 14:16

My dh does this he sets his alarm for 5:30, hits snooze and goes back to sleep he doesnt actually get out of bed until 7:30. It drives me mad because as soon as the first alarm goes off I wake up and I cannot get back to sleep at all for some reason, it also wakes the youngest who sleeps in our room. He then gets to lie in until 7:30 while I am awake at 5:30. I really have no clue why he has to do this and it makes me feel like killing every morning!

shaska · 21/10/2014 14:16

Well I did mean it light heartedly, but it is true! Both of us are snooze button punishers and neither of us are particularly considerate about not waking the other in the mornings, and it's honestly never been raised as an issue. Before 6 is different, but after that it's pretty much open season around here. But then, neither of us work shifts, no DC in the house, and both quite good at going back to sleep should we want to, so maybe that's got something to do with it.

I'll have to ask DH though, maybe he's been stewing over it for years and hasn't mentioned it. Which would be unlike him.

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/10/2014 14:19

The science says that the snooze button pushers are wrong. Science says that. Science. DH left his alarm on this morning so the snooze went off for me, aarrrrggghhh.

lottiegarbanzo · 21/10/2014 14:39

I think you're being inconsiderate and a bit selfish.

But, there isn't a massive difference between 6.10 and 6.30. It's not like being woken at 6.10 when you could otherwise sleep until 8.00.

I find that putting the radio on quietly, at just the right volume - talk not music - gives me awareness of time but in a way that, unlike an alarm clock, can be tuned out and slept through by choice. If I need to get up, I can tune in enough to wake me up gradually, if not, I can go back to sleep.

Snatchoo · 21/10/2014 14:45

If DH set his alarm for 530 then snoozed till 730, I would legit kill him.

Five minutes snooze is fine. YANBU OP.

CinnabarRed · 21/10/2014 15:24

I would have far more sympathy for my DH's difficulty waking up if he didn't stay up till past midnight evey night watching Sky Sport.

Moghedien · 21/10/2014 16:16

I'm with your husband on this.

I can just about drop back off if I'm disturbed once. After that, that's me awake. YABU.

MiddletonPink · 21/10/2014 16:21

Christ it's only 5 mins not 1 hour.

aero9485429 · 21/10/2014 17:42

an alarm going off for 5 minutes would fully wake me to the point of being unable to go back to sleep

tiggy2610 · 21/10/2014 17:52

I'm not a snoozer, DH is, it does often cause tiredness induced hissy fits from me Blush

But I am weird. If I wake up with less than 60mins before the alarm I'm mostly awake then. In my mind if I go back to sleep I'll feel even crapper being woken mid-sleep cycle than I will if I spend that time just coming round and waking up properly.

So when DH sets his alarm for 5.45am despite us not needed to be awake until 6.15am I usually lie awake from 5.45 and listen to him snore Angry

Scrumbled · 21/10/2014 18:59

It doesn't sound unreasonable if it's only a 5 min gap and he gets up 15 mins later anyway.

Get a radio alarm, set it to go off once. You listen to one song and get up, he listens to a few more.

ItWasMyOwnSilence · 21/10/2014 19:04

Hmmm I would say YABU to use the snooze button Grin but DH is BU for stomping off to another room.

GreenPetal94 · 21/10/2014 19:09

You should get up as late as possible and immediately the alarm goes off. Otherwise surely you have to be sensible and go to bed before midnight etc.

7.20 here. Get up 7.20. Leave house at 8 for bus to work.