AIBU to think that this is a bit weird?

[LaVieBoheme]

Long time lurker, first time poster!

Earlier, I went to a takeaway. While waiting for my order, the man serving me was just chatting to me about my degree and other small talk. Then, he randomly asks me if I am a lesbian (I am). I felt a bit shocked that he randomly asked me this but said yes anyway. He then proceeded to tell me that he just "had a feeling" that I was gay (bear in mind I am probably as feminine as you can get, so not working on stereotypes). He told me not to be offended by this, and then also asked me why some lesbians refuse to even talk to men (not that I have ever come across anyone like that, personally) before I got my order and left pretty quickly.

AIBU to think that this whole conversation was a bit weird?

No. It was weird.

Perhaps he's just a very good judge of character? You're obviously quite friendly if chatting about your degree etc. It's not something I'd dream of asking someone! I don't think I would notice.
I've never heard of lesbians refusing to talk to men...
What did you order?

That's not just a bit weird but proper back away slowly weird.

I'm glad it isn't just me! When I told my friend what had happened, she didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with it, he was just being friendly!

Clanger Me neither, if anything, most of the lesbians I know talk to more men than women! I ordered a BBQ chicken calzone and cheesy chips, which despite the chat, was bloody lovely!

I am a lesbian, also very feminine, I get asked this outright more often than you would think and then this seems to bring on all sorts of really intrusive questions. If I'm feeling charitable I think "people are genuinely curious, they just want to know". If I'm not I think "fgs butt out! It's none of your bloody business"! Yanbu

That's crazy! No-one would dare ask who I preferred to sleep with, in a random passing chat. Cheeky bastard.

(Take away sounds lovely though)

"If you must know I am in a long term relationship with a monkey. Male monkey, of course, what sort of weirdo do you take me for? Now please pass the ketchup. Then fuck off"

I can't fathom people being so rude as to comment. I'm not a lesbian, but not particularly feminine either (a bit lazy on the make-up/make an effort front!). Perhaps there's a certain vibe or something that men can detect. No idea really.
But that takeaway sounds bloody lovely! Maybe if you'd ordered a salad he wouldn't have asked.....!!!!!

We had a thread recently about 'lesbian hair'.

I was unaware of it but apparently it is 'a thing'.

(I have 'lesbian boots' according to my DWSiL. Am not gay, but apparently my boots makes everyone think I am.)

Could you possibly have 'lesbian hair'?

Andrew

Maybe if you'd ordered a salad he wouldn't have asked.....!!!!!

Yes, it's known in the take away community that lesbians despise salad!

OK KingJoffreysBloodshotEye ... I know you're laughing at me. And I'm laughing at your comment! What I meant was, oh f*&^, not sure what I meant really, but how can someone tell, and how does someone have the audacity to comment?

I think you should mull over why you answered a question that felt intrusive.

YANBU, quite odd.

But now I kinda want to see what you look like to see how good his guess was

Heebie, what would you have said?

how does someone have the audacity to comment?

People have no boundaries.

And sometimes there's a little hiccup between they're brain and their mouth.

I have lesbian hair AND lesbian shoes apparently. (??!WTF)

I'm not lesbian though.

What are lesbian shoes?

I'm thinking dead comfy like doc Martin's, if so, I'm a lesbian shoe wearer, and proud.

Yes. DMs. I have several pairs. Favourites are brown wedgie ones.

DickWadSiL always said, I looked like a 'lady who liked ladies' (not that I gave a feck).

Not just once either. She'd say it all of the time.

I suspect she's projecting. Especially as she has similar boots but cheaper.

She's rude though. Slags off everyone who isn't her.

Well shit, next time I'll be sure to order salad too!

As for my hair, it is about chest length and thrown up into a bun, so no short at all! My shoes were very scruffy ballet flats.

Heebie Well I'm not insecure about my sexuality at all so I don't mind people knowing, I just usually don't go from being asked if I enjoy my degree to do I enjoy having sex with women

Ah, here's the lesbian hair picture.

Disclaimer: I have several lesbian friends (must ask them if they like salad) and none of them have there haircuts?

OP, could the take away man have seen you with a partner/girlfriend?

King I did wonder that, as I have been in there before with my OH but that was a good few months ago and I rarely pass by, so if he did then he has amazing memory!

The haircuts picture may be my new favourite thing. I have seen each of them my OH alone seems to have had half of them in the last four years!

No way would I be answering questions about my sexuality posed by a complete stranger.

Very weird.

I also think it's a bit weird you engaged with him but maybe you were too 'put on the spot' to think what to say.