to think this IS an acceptable lunch for an 8 year old?

[Helenagrace]

I'm helping a friend out today as she has twin 8 year old boys and she's moving house house tomorrow. I've had them since 8.30am and in my text last night I said I'd "drop them back before dinner - about 5.30?"

I've just given them lunch. They were offered: toast (with peanut butter, egg, pate (homemade mackerel) or cheese), oatcakes (with the same options), half a packet of crisps, tomato, cucumber and pepper, fruit and a piece of home-made chocolate and cherry brownie.

Both have had oatcakes with cheese (6 each) plus salad, a hard boiled egg, an orange, crisps and a piece of cake.

My friend rang to see if they were ok and she spoke to one of the boys. Then I get a text from her saying she's coming to pick them up as she "hadn't realised they wouldn't be getting a proper lunch". I sent a text back saying that we were eating our main meal in the evening and I thought they were too and I've just had the reply back "yes but that's not really much of a lunch is it?"

It's a perfectly acceptable lunch in my house. Does anyone want to ring social services and dob me in for starving my children?

wow! she's rather ungrateful - it's a fine lunch

How ungrateful of her!!

Sounds like a decent lunch to me!

Did the boys complain? Sounds good to me

How rude! That lunch sounds fine to me

I wonder what they'll be getting at home that's so much better if she's all boxed up to move house!? YANBU

I think that's extremely unreasonable of your friend! How ungrateful seeing as you've had both her children all day.
It is a perfectly reasonable lunch, plenty of variety, balance of food groups etc etc. If there's a main meal coming in the evening, I'm not sure what she would have given them for lunch!

so you're looking after her 8 year old twins and she complains about the healthy lunch you gave them?

at least you don't have to have them again..... some people have odd ideas about friendship, helping out, courtesy, good manners etc

That sounds plenty. Maybe the boy didn't tell her what they had and complained he was hungry?

We usually have snacks lunches like this with main meal in the evening.

Perfectly acceptable lunch, imo. Perhaps she'd like to see whether The Ritz can have her boys next time...their lunch options may be more in keeping with her requirements.

ridiculous! Did the boy she spoke to maybe not tell her properly what they had?

My 6 year old has something like that most days. In fact, you did well to get them to eat the salad. She's being very ungrateful. Our minder does things like that, too, and I'm perfectly happy with it.

Sounds a perfectly fine lunch to me, what's she on about?!

My dcs wouldn't consider that a meal, more of a snack.

She's an ill mannered ingrate. Besides, if she can rush round to save her darlings from certain malnutrition; she didn't really need you to look after them for a full day at all, did she?
Present her with a bill for your services when she arrives, with a discount for the lunch which clearly wasn't worthy of the name. Silly cow.

Ask her what she thinks is a proper lunch.

What an ungrateful cow!

Mine have had today.....

Ds1....bowl Kraves with milk
Ds2......scone with butter and jam.

That is it.

Maybe she heard "crackers and fruit" rather than "six ... cheese" and so on.

Still, bloody terrible manners!

Exactly the type of thing my dc's 10,10 and 9 eat.

A lovely lunch.

If she was my friend I wouldn't bother offering again.

Perfectly acceptable IMO. How ungrateful to complain - even if you had given them an unacceptable lunch you've done your friend a massive favour - I wouldn't be doing any more for her tbh.

Sounds fine, good balance there, especially if they ate it all! She sounds very ungrateful considering you're doing her a favour. My money's on the children only telling her half a story- I'd call or text her explaining exactly what they've eaten. If she was that bothered she could have sent them with a packed lunch.

They all obviously thought that as they had been invited on easter Monday, they would be getting a full roast dinner. Have you not got any stew in the freezer as standby lol

Yes it is an acceptable lunch. Did you hear what her DS's told her?

Moving house is a very emotional thing, its probably a case the boys have said something like they had a bit of cheese a biscuit thing and a lettuce leaf and she's thought for goodness sake I've enough on my plate,
I'll pick them up now and they can have a junk meal on way to new house.

If she were relaxed and just having a lazy day she'd no doubt of quizzed a bit more and found out the full extent of lunch.

I'd send a final text telling her that you hope the rest of the move goes smoothly and list whats actually been offered/ eaten.

Mine eat that every day for lunch!

Mind you mine refuse any form of hot lunch so our options are limited!

She sounds like a rude ungrateful cow.

Sounds fine to me, as long as the children are full what has she got to complain about?
Janethegirl - what would your children consider a meal then?
It has a lot of elements there, had it been just the oatcakes I might have agreed, but with salad, crisps, egg, fruit and cake?! That is a full lunch!