I'm helping a friend out today as she has twin 8 year old boys and she's moving house house tomorrow. I've had them since 8.30am and in my text last night I said I'd "drop them back before dinner - about 5.30?"
I've just given them lunch. They were offered: toast (with peanut butter, egg, pate (homemade mackerel) or cheese), oatcakes (with the same options), half a packet of crisps, tomato, cucumber and pepper, fruit and a piece of home-made chocolate and cherry brownie.
Both have had oatcakes with cheese (6 each) plus salad, a hard boiled egg, an orange, crisps and a piece of cake.
My friend rang to see if they were ok and she spoke to one of the boys. Then I get a text from her saying she's coming to pick them up as she "hadn't realised they wouldn't be getting a proper lunch". I sent a text back saying that we were eating our main meal in the evening and I thought they were too and I've just had the reply back "yes but that's not really much of a lunch is it?"
It's a perfectly acceptable lunch in my house. Does anyone want to ring social services and dob me in for starving my children?
AIBU?
to think this IS an acceptable lunch for an 8 year old?
Helenagrace · 21/04/2014 14:51
Thanks everyone. I knew I wasn't BU!
She dropped some sandwiches off for the boys and then went again. We had a chat about lunch and I explained what they'd eaten and said it was a normal lunch for mine. The issue seems to have been the oatcakes. "They're just crackers" she said "you need bread for a proper lunch". Have I been doing lunch wrong all along 
?
I've still got the boys and I'm dropping them off in an hour or so. I just noticed that the sandwiches are still in their bags on the table outside while the boys tear around the garden dressed as a bizarre assortment of pirates and medieval knights.
I think we're ok as friends. She's certainly stressed about the move. Maybe she'll go back to normal afterwards 
Arf at bread for a proper lunch.
Crackers are another source of carbs
Sounds lush and a decent lunch to me. I'd have lunch at yours any day
Ds1 stayed at my dm's when he was about 5. I asked him if he had a good time, which he did. But he said nana only gave him a small pizza for tea and he was still hungry. Now ds1 has always eaten a lot, is now 18, 6 foot 1 and weighs 10 1/2 stone, so skinny as anything.
I told my mum this and she was most put out. It was a medium pizza from the local bakers (they were lush) - so not very big, but quite deep with loads of tomato and cheese topping. Dm usually had 1/2 with some salad for her tea, and then the other 1/2 the day after. She thought it was plenty of food for a small boy 
. He obviously had a different idea, and the way he had portrayed it to me was one of those small frozen pizzas which you used to be able to get in a packet of 10.
So the reality was very different. Which is what I suspect has happened this time.
Now I asked my dm only because she was my dm, and she used to look after ds1 on a regular basis (and wasn't aware of the fact he is a gannet). She also used to look after my dnephew who is 2 years older than ds1, but ds1 eats loads more than dnephew.
No way would I say anything to a friend.
A. The children could be understating what they had been given
B. Even if they hadn't been given much, it wouldn't have been a big deal (it was only one meal)
C. For various reasons, the friend may not have had much food in the house, and I would not want to embarrass her.
Some people are very strange, and some people need to think before talking.
You offered them toast - they chose oatcakes- maybe they are fed up with bread everyday!
Give her the sandwiches back and lie and say they wanted more oatcakes
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