To think this is a really weird FB status

[Bearbehind]

Friend recently split with partner and posted a status along the lines of 'if you are not fucking, feeding or financing me, your opinions don't count'

Now I'm not a feminist but really don't understand the sentiment- is it me?

unless she has a child with him its a fair point he is her ex his opinion doesnt matter

Eww. What an odd and incredibly cringe-worthy thing to say.

It would suggest to me that he is still trying to control her....I wouldn't take it literally.

it's not you

I would read that as blatant attention seeking and a tasteless airing of dirty laundry in public.

No children.

It just read to me like it was OK for him to impose his opinion on her if he was feeding, fucking or financing her and I just don't get why that gives you such rights.

it doesn't

your friend has some funny ideas about what constitutes a relationship

yep, she might be hurting but it doesn't excuse such thinking, tbh

Unpleasant status yes, but I've heard it before, it's been copied from somewhere.

On another note -
Why are you not a feminist, OP - do you not believe that women should be treated equally to men?

That's just trashy and vulgar.

why aren't you a feminist? Would you prefer women to not be equal to men? Yes your friends status was silly, but no sillier than you saying you are effectively against women being equals.

feminist or not, that kind of shit does nothing for the general respect of women

xpost with cuttedup.

I find it more concerning when a woman states they are not a feminist....

Hmmm, classy status

I find it more odd that you openly admit to not being a feminist.

Yes, very classy.

It could be that he is bossing her about financially...with no right to...perhaps it's actually a line he's said to her in the past.... "I'm feeding you and financing you...you have to do as I say" type of thing.

Me being a feminist or not is not the point of this.

I don't believe you should be treated differently, positively or negatively, just because of your gender but I did think this status was condoning the 'men owning women' idea.

I've seen this status too, don't think its the same person as the person I saw post it has a child with her ex.

I also had face when I saw it, but then like others have posted already I also had that face when you said your not a feminist?! Bizarre.

Sorry x post.

From what you have just said, it appears that actually you are a feminist!

So you are actually a feminist then....

Yeh! Be a feminist for godssake

Ok, bad choice of words- sorry. The point of my post still stands though- why would you let yourself be defined by who fucked, fed and financed you?

I think lots of women don't actually understand feminism. They think it is about not shaving your legs, eschewing lipstick and hating men.

Anyway, like OP said, this thread isn't about that, other than the FB status quoted is spectacularly non-feminist

It just read to me like it was OK for him to impose his opinion on her if he was feeding, fucking or financing her and I just don't get why that gives you such rights.

I don't read it that you would have the right to impose your opinion if you were doing any of those three things, just that she might entertain your thoughts if you were close enough to fall into one of those categories.
It's not something I would have posted, but I don't think it is as weird if you don't assume that she is somehow succumbing to the will of anyone who is feeding, fucking or financing her.