To ask you to say something nice?

[ToniViolin]

I resolved to say all the nice things I thought. So if I see a woman with an immaculate blow dry or fab jumper, instead of being shy, I tell her she looks ace.

So if you think 'oh, that's a cool thing' over the next few days, complimenting the person out loud would be a lovely thing to do, wouldn't it?

I do like to see a smiley person.

What did you last compliment someone on? :)

The last thing I said to a stranger was whisper in a young man's ear as I left the tube, 'Your zip's undone.'
I have sometimes paid a compliment to a stranger but got rather bewildered glances.

I think this is a lovely idea, OP, and would like to compliment you on starting this thread!

I did this once. Complimented a woman's hair. Got asked if I was a lesbian

Their latest novel in proof, and I was lying because it was too late in the publication process to start making criticisms or suggestions. This friend is very good, but this book is extremely, desperately dark and far more nakedly autobiographical than she thinks it is, despite being historical.

I don't do 'your hair looks nice' type compliments, really. I'm sure people's hair looks lovely, but I think there's enough inane chitchat in the word.

Yes, I am a right ray of sunshine.

Well, that was very useful information, Tuhlulah even though It may not have been complimentary.

I read that as 'immaculate blow job' twice and couldn't make it conpute

i do that anyway.. I like to dish out a compliment, it makes peoples eyes shiny.

Reading these replies, I think I am definitely doing the safer thing by making my compliments online rather than in person...

I promise that in doing this we will all embarrass our kids .Aparently talking to strangers is down right odd and desperate .

I do this all the time but if you want me to consiously do it more and tell you about it I can do

"By the way -your zips undone. You have a very attractive penis."
Will that do for you, Better?

Anonymai I complimented a woman's hair last year. I have lots of thick hair and it's sometimes hard to control. I was at a fair with a friend last year and saw someone with a lovely 'lots of hair up' style. I still haven't mastered it ......

I'm another one who likes paying compliments to people. You choose your people wisely and hopefully brighten their day.

I did this sort of thing once and was nearly attacked by a man for it. Will still give it a go again, though :D

This is a nice idea and I am going to try despite being desperately shy!

I don't notice other peoples appearance, tbh.

I only pick up on body odour and do my best to avoid.

It would annoy me that a stranger saw fit to reduce me to how I looked and thought I needed to be told that I look nice to feel happy.

I do usually bother about my appearance but it isn't the be all and end all and if I am really busy, how I look certainly doesn't alter the way I feel, someone pointing it out, certainly wouldn't.

Are you going to do the same to Men?

My best friend on how nice her bum looked in a certain outfit

Last week I told a lady in McDonalds how beautifully her children had behaved while she was in the so long it was beyond a joke queue for their food. Whilst taken aback, she was very pleased and it made me feel all gooey inside

i was in aldi once with my autistic son and he was having one mega shit fit all the way around. I counted many cats bums.. heard many tuts and ignored so many glares i was on the verge of tears.

Outside, a lady came up to me and said she really admired the way that I had handled my son and gave me a well done.

I could have blubbed on the spot I was so taken aback.

It's nice to give a compliment.

I do the same to everyone :)

I've never had a bad response, I made a new 'man friend' by complimenting his lovely jumper, made a woman's day because she was going off on a blind date and I told her she looked lovely, and the lady with the blow dry was on the way to an interview so was really pleased her hair looked nice.

I generally tell people I like their bag, or nail varnish, or whatever, so it is usually women though :)

I would say that I can't believe that someone would find a way to complain about giving compliments but this is AIBU, so I totally can believe it :o

Today I also had a conversation with a random woman in her late 80s about how her first husband was an arsehole and the second one was nice and she buys a lot of cheap chocolate for visitors but keeps posh chocs in the cupboard for herself. I did admire her style :o

I agree with compliments about behaviour, or manners etc, but not appearance from strangers.

It sort of makes me wonder if those giving the compliments are the judgy arseholes on threads around overweight people, scrutinising shopping, eating etc.

I always pass on a compliment at work as in if I hear someone say something good about someone's work I tend to tell them next time I see them. I figure it shows it's sincere if someone is complimenting you behind your back and I like to pass that on.

A customernon her coat at the weekend.

Burren the last time I read someone's draft novel I avoided them for 3 months and then had to get drunk with them and tell them I didn't want to talk about it :o We are still friends.

Only here could offence be taken to being nice. Jeez.

I always tell people if I like their coat or nail colour or tattoo or whatever. Men and women.

I don't judge shopping trolley contents and I'm happy for people to eat however they choose!