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to be sat here at 3.30am ...........

34 replies

tiredoutgran · 07/02/2014 03:31

waiting for my middle daughter to ring to say her first baby has arrived? She went into labour at midnight yesterday and is still there, progressing slowly. I am gutted for her in a way, my longest of 3 labours was 7 hours start to finish, her elder sister was the same with hers and I had so hoped she would have a short labour, I almost (note only almost) wish I could be taking the pain for her. I can't wait to meet him though!

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ChubbyKitty · 07/02/2014 03:33

Yanbu!!!! How exciting Grin

Pre-emptive congratulations!Thanks

MistressDeeCee · 07/02/2014 03:46

Congrats..Id sit up for 48 hours if it were me! Smile and best wishes to mum & baby

plentyofsoap · 07/02/2014 04:08

I am sure you will have some good news soon Smile You must feel anxious for her, but she is lucky that she will you to support her afterwards.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 07/02/2014 04:18

Hoping you get some news (and sleep!) soon, I'm sure your daughter will be grateful for your support Thanks

woodlandwanderwoman · 07/02/2014 04:28

Good luck to mummy and baby, she is in good hands and you know the good news is coming.

Our DS was born in the middle of the night after long labour and we didn't tell anyone until the next morning, partly because we cherished those first few moments with him as a new family and partly because we were all exhausted! You will be the first to know, she will appreciate your support xx

donnakebab49 · 07/02/2014 04:39

I was told at 1.30pm yesterday by a Consultant that i have a lung disease, (emphysema). I've been sitting here in my house in total shock cos i had a chest scan 10 MONTHS AGO, i've been at my gp's at least twice a month, not 1 of them mentioned emphysema or even my test results from the scan 10 months ago. The lovely Consultant i saw yesterday was gobsmacked i hadn't been told by my GP. As a result, i've caused more damage to my lungs cos i didn't know and if i had been told even 8 months ago, i'd have stopped smoking that day!!! Does anybody know or recommend a no win- no fee Company for Medical Negligence? Also i'm getting married next Friday (14th Feb). I'm 50 this year and my world has been turned into chaos!! My daughter who's 24 has advised me to seek a lawyer. Can anyone on here advise me please? It will be much appreciated. xxxx

Blueuggboots · 07/02/2014 04:49

I'm sorry to hear you've had this shock, I don't think you'll get far with medical negligence. COPD is caused by smoking and it takes years of smoking for it to develop. You can develop it years after giving up. It's just the luck of the draw I'm afraid.
And congratulations to OP on the birth of your grandchild! Hope you've had news and your daughter and GS are doing well Smile

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tiredoutgran · 07/02/2014 05:02

donna, so sorry to hear that, it must be a terrible shock for you but as already said, I doubt there will be a claim. I would be looking into ways of managing it to try and minimise the effect it has on your life for as long as possible. Congrats on your wedding, hope it goes well.

I am still waiting, she will have done about 29 hours now and must be knackered. I just want it to be over for her and to know they are both safe and well - why is it so much easier when it is you that is going through something rather than your children - hate the though of her hurting!

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donnakebab49 · 07/02/2014 05:06

Thankyou Blueuggboots but i maybe didn't explain it right. Why did the GP or the Consultant not tell me before now? I believed i was ok cos i hadn't heard anything for nearly a year. Everytime even up til last week, all my GP's have done is fob me off with Tramadol for the backache, antibiotics for the 3 chest infections i've had within 10 months. Even yesterday the honest Consultant was amazed i hadn't been told. Personally me and future hubby believe a major cock-up has happened.

donnakebab49 · 07/02/2014 05:10

Oh you must be so nervous, i was climbing the wall when my daughter went into labour last year (3rd Feb). Everything went great eventually. I'll be thinking of you and let me know how it goes?

donnakebab49 · 07/02/2014 05:13

PS i'm new on here and i forgot to add my last message was for tiredoutgran. lol.

JapaneseMargaret · 07/02/2014 05:16

Donna - sorry to hear about all you're going through. I would suggest starting your own thread, rather than asking these questions on gran's thread, as everyone coming onto this thread will be focusing on gran. :)

Hopefully not too much longer for your daughter, gran - how exciting!

scantilymad · 07/02/2014 05:29

How exciting! Best wishes to mother and baby. Hopefully there will be news soon! Have lots of tea in the meantime x

jenecho · 07/02/2014 05:31

Tired out gran- go to bed!!! She may already have given birth and either not wanted to disturb you or not been able to contact you yet and you are doing nobody any favours sitting up all night waiting to hear- she may need your help tomorrow, so the best thing you can do for her is get some rest so that you are able to help when she needs you!

with dd1 my mum was offended that it took a couple of hours for me to ring, but you have to remember that it isn't all magically over as soon as the baby pops out. It might take a good few hours for the placenta, stitches, first feed etc, so the first opportunity to start ringing is a few hours later. Also, hospital may have no mobile phone policy and our hospital had signs forbidding you plugging in your phone charger in the delivery room!

with dd2, we had problems after she was born and she was taken to special care- this time it took three hours before i had been stitched up and wheeled down to see and feed her. I didn't get back to my phone until 5am, and then deliberately waited another hour to text my DM as i didn't want to wake her with worrying news especially as she needed to look after dd1 and would have woken her with the flapping and phone calls, so i left it until six, when dd1 would have been waking her anyway, then tried to get some sleep myself having been up all night.

so go get some rest... I hope everything is fine with your DD and GC, but you need rest if you are going to be able to help her over the next few days!

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tiredoutgran · 07/02/2014 05:43

thanks all. Jenecho, I have avoided trying to call her because I was on the phone every bloody hour before she went in, driving her mad, I have to admit to a sneaky call to the delivery suite just after 3, only didn't they grass me up by going and getting her DP! I tend not to sleep well as it is so there is absolutely no chance with this wait, I asked her partner to text me when he had arrived. All I can say is thank God there were no mobile phones when I had mine, I wouldn't have expected a call from her really, it would have been the last thing I would have wanted to do, but I reckon him texting whilst she drinks a well earned cup of tea will be doable!

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crashbangboom · 07/02/2014 05:55

How exciting! I expect I'll be the same when my DD is in labour....she's only 2 though so a long way off!

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tiredoutgran · 07/02/2014 06:13

believe me, it flies, it doesn't seem 2 minutes since she was only 2 :)

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Redirected · 07/02/2014 06:23

gran you are very normal! I didn't manage any sleep either, when DD was in labour. However, the pacing didn't leave a permanent track mark Smile

The wait is awful, and I hope the call comes soon, but you will get through the day on a wave of 'new granny' excitement and shopping for baby presents so don't worry too much.

Congratulations!!

Haahoooo · 07/02/2014 06:41

Good luck gran, I'm sure you'll have news soon!

When my waters broke in the late evening my whole family (including DPs) had their mobiles switched off! Confused

Luckily in a way it was then another 2 days before DD was born...

EeyoreIsh · 07/02/2014 06:51

This was my mum 12 days ago! I had a 48 hour labour and my mum kept asking for updates.... bless her but a wee bit annoying!

I hope everything is going well with your daughter and you have wonderful news soon Thanks

MyNameIsKenAdams · 07/02/2014 06:57

Hope you wake up to lovely news this morning!

thesnowmanrocks · 07/02/2014 07:23

Any news of new arrival?

Thanks, Brew and Cake for new mummy when she's done!

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tiredoutgran · 07/02/2014 11:13

He had arrived at 05.39, how spot on were you Jerecho :) I haven't spoken to her yet but both ok and dad happy so I have just managed a couple of hours. Thanks to those who kept me going throughout the night x

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ThistleLickerIsGoingToBeAMummy · 07/02/2014 11:19

Congratulation and Thanks

scantilymad · 07/02/2014 11:27

Oh that's a great surprise! Brilliant. Well done to mum and congratulations x