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to think this was a little rude.

62 replies

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:47

A friend posted on facebook that she had just completed her tax return.other friends posted the usual. Yeah sell done or I've done mine too etc. Her dp posted something like " I don't know why people don't complete threm in April. Doing it now means extra work for me at this time of the year". I felt this was a little rude and unsupportive. Friend has 4 young dc and runs a small business part time with no regular childcare. Aibu

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coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:47

Well done

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pictish · 31/01/2014 09:48

A bit yeah. He's allowed to say that - it's his opinion. It wasn't delivered aggressively...just matter of factly.

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:48

Should have said he is an accountant but doesn't do tax 4etu4s for small businesses directly.

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hellsbellsmelons · 31/01/2014 09:49

But it has to be done by 31st January.
So why do it in April?
I'm confused?

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:49

Tablet playing games today.

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coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:50

He meant do it last april and not leave it till the past minute.

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coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:51

Last not past. Grr

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pictish · 31/01/2014 09:52

He's right, if not particularly realistic, because most people do leave it till the last minute.
What's wrong with saying that?

DirtieBertie · 31/01/2014 09:52

Personally, I think it's a bit daft to leave it until the last couple of days when you have nearly nine months to fill it in. Apart from anything else, if you realise that you have a query about something, you are going to have no chance of getting through on HMRC's helpline.

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:54

Just felt he was being critical of her and her friends who all run small businesses around family commitments. (Well my friends too)

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WilsonFrickett · 31/01/2014 09:58

He's right! All accountants would say the same thing too - I'm sure my invoice last year said something like 'why not come back and show off your holiday tan - do your return in August' which I quite liked.

And as pp have said, if anything goes wrong with the system or you need advice, you're fecked if you leave it till the last minute. You then get fined £100 a day.

They didn't do their tax at the last minute because they had family commitments, they did it because it's a horrible job that no-one likes doing till the last possible minute.

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 09:59

It is true that in an ideal world you would do it but my friend has 12 month old who still wakes lots at night. So I think she has had it on the go for the last month or so.

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DaffodilShoots · 31/01/2014 09:59

It's true but no-one likes a know-it-all!

Preciousbane · 31/01/2014 10:00

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Only1scoop · 31/01/2014 10:00

Not rude really no....

PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 31/01/2014 10:03

Not rude at all.

If he'd said 'oh FFS why do you have to leave it til last minute you lazy cunts' then that would be rude

Joysmum · 31/01/2014 10:04

He's completely right. People dong have to agree with their partners all the time as as it's his job he's going to be especially fed up with it.

I do mine in batches of 2! I grab all of my stuff to submit it by end of Jan and then start on the next one ready for in a few weeks when the next one can be submitted.

In theory I ought to be organised and it ought to be a doddle, I also ought to have had time way before to do it but I don't tend to think about it so don't do it.

I'll make more of an effort in future because he's right.

Joysmum · 31/01/2014 10:05

Dong! Grin = don't.

Purplepoodle · 31/01/2014 10:06

But he is right

coolcookie · 31/01/2014 10:08

I think that he did say something like get organised. Which is true I guess.

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Lizzabadger · 31/01/2014 10:10

Not rude

InternetFOREVER · 31/01/2014 10:12

Can anyone tell me, if you do complete it say in April, do you get until January 31st to pay, or do you have to pay straight away?

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2014 10:12

I can't see anything rude about it either.

pictish · 31/01/2014 10:15

Can people not handle even the slightest bit of constructive criticism these days without taking offence?

He wasn't rude, and frankly, a baby getting up at night is not a valid excuse. It's procastination pure and simple. I'm sure she managed to fit in lots of other things in the last nine months!

Don't get me wrong here...I am a procastinator extrodinaire, but I don't expect to be patted on the back for it, much less get upset when someone matter of factly observes it.

ShatnersBassoon · 31/01/2014 10:16

It's not rude. No name-calling or personal attack, just a little gripe. Seems fair to me.