To actually be really hurt by this comment.

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One of the girls at work got engaged on Christmas Day - super pleased for her as she is lovely and they adore each other. Just really happy that they are happy if that makes sense.

One of the women in the office took it upon herself to point out that I am 3 years older than the one that got engaged and that I am still firmly on the shelf.

She has a habit of making digs and nasty comments and everyone either looks away or laughs along with her.

I am single and older and I would love to meet someone and get married but it just hasn't happened.

I don't know whether this is making me over sensitive and imagining that she knew this would be a weak spot for me or if she just made a comment not knowing that I really do not like being called a spinster!

slate that is inspired.

On the shelf; like getting married is a woman's primary purpose
An ancient old fossil at work referred to me as a spinster when I was 23

Got one of these at work. Every time I have my hair cut & coloured (approx every 5 wks) she asks - have you had your hair done? Every. Single. Time.

She never says it's nice or not, just asks if I've had it 'done'.

I actually say 'No' now, even when it's blatantly obvious I have had it done!

Silly bitch probably has sweet FA going on in her life.

Hardly a "Joke" baggyb when the woman has been a bitch to the woman before.

Try responding thusly: Marriage? Well between my evenings dogging and weekends spent as a dominatrix I really don't think I have time for that sort of commitment ...

Or you could say with a sigh that you really cannot choose between suitor one and suitor two.

If you're really that bothered I'm sure her comments aren't acceptable under the equality act 2010...

Next time she has a dig about anything just say 'i can see why your divorced'

Got told once, many years ago, by someone who didn't know me very well, that at my age (I was 35 at the time and divorced and a single parent -though she didn't know any of that) I really needed to get married. Was too stunned to reply other than tell her I'm newly divorced etc. Wish I'd said something wittier!!