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AIBU?

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First rule of FB - DO NOT POST anything on it ever.

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ashamedoverthinker · 27/12/2013 11:13

What the fucking fuck can you post without being criticised for it? Tell me what the actual fucking fuck are you 'allowed'

I'm so fed up of FB complaints on here I'm shooting sparks across this very keyboard. I am smoking and YES I need to calm the fuck down.

Why do people join a social networking site (key fucking thing this) and then complain when people network on it (the bastards sharing their fucking lives with you) I mean get the fuck off it then. Don't join - make sure you blank them in the street too if thats what you think of their lives.

Some people just dont like to see other people happy.

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SilverApples · 27/12/2013 11:17

I really enjoy using FB, but then I have only got interesting and likeable people as friends. We also seem to share a sense of humour, and a lack of jealousy and paranoia.
I don't understand the infighting either, but then I'm not a soap opera fan.

Birdsgottafly · 27/12/2013 11:18

I totally agree!

I live seeing everyone's holiday pics, Christmas presents etc. I ask my DD's to post pics whilst they are away, they are for friends and family that care, not to boast.

It is the only way that I could keep in regular contact with my adult children (but one only 18) whilst they were on holiday.

I have had house fires and lost photos, I wish I had if been able to store them somewhere such as FB, it is wonderful.

If you are going through a crisis, MC, Cancer etc perhaps keep off it, but the rest of use joined a SOCIAL MEDIA site to be socially involved with those we like/love, as much as we can.

usualsuspect · 27/12/2013 11:19

I agree with every fucking word you said,OP.

In fact I'd like a fucking like button so I can like it.

Rowlers · 27/12/2013 11:20

I have never seen any bad feeling on fb. Maybe time to de-friend?

SirChenjin · 27/12/2013 11:20

First rule of FB - only ever have your actual friends on it. Second rule of FB - don't use it to communicate very personal stuff.

So - what happened ashamedoverthinker?

desertmum · 27/12/2013 11:20

I only have friends on FB that I would want to have coffee with or meet up with in real life - if I would never get together with them in the real world they don't get onto my FB world. It's a great way to stay in touch with friends who are spread all over the world. I love it, but have a very limited number of friends on it.

BohemianGirl · 27/12/2013 11:21

Op you made me laugh!

Birdsgottafly · 27/12/2013 11:21

Oh and if you are over 21 and get involved in arguments over/on FB, you need to sort your head out.

People can be arseholes, FB is the equivalent of drinking in a roughish pub, you ignore the comments from the hangers on and choose who you are friends with.

BigChocolateOrange · 27/12/2013 11:22

I completely fucking agree.

scaevola · 27/12/2013 11:23

Not everyone is going to like everything you say, and some may criticise the bits they don't like.

It's been happening for centuries in RL. Don't see why it would be different in cyber space.

CeliaLytton · 27/12/2013 11:24

YANBU. Don't post anything sad, you might bring people down. Don't post anything happy, there are people suffering. Don't post about people who have died, they can't read it. Don't post achievements, you are boasting. Don't post about pregnancy, there are people who can't get pregnant. Don't post about your family, BORING! Don't post about presents, you are smug. Don't post about lack of presents, you are being competitively frugal. Don't post about first world problems, there are people dying all over the world.

Alternatively, only have people you like on fb, be happy for their happiness and successes and share in their grief. Only be friends on fb with people you want to share the good and bad with. Use it how you want or don't use it at all.

Although I cannot stand the cryptic 'sad face' updates, but then that is because I also see fb as a place for sharing news and so don't get it. But there is always the option to defriend.

SilverApples · 27/12/2013 11:24

Several of my friends have got children on the spectrum, or with additional needs, as I have. We share and support and chat about things that the mundane world wouldn't appreciate.

MummyPigsFatTummy · 27/12/2013 11:25

I almost agree with you entirely OP. The only Facebook posts which give me the rage are the ones which say something like "why me?" with nothing else, so people come back with stuff like "what's up hun?". Just say what you have to at the start. Don't bloody drip feed for attention.

SilverApples · 27/12/2013 11:25

'Alternatively, only have people you like on fb, be happy for their happiness and successes and share in their grief. Only be friends on fb with people you want to share the good and bad with. Use it how you want or don't use it at all.'

Yes, exactly this.

1nsertnamehere · 27/12/2013 11:25

Ha ha I know what you mean. I think it's all a matter of balance. I really don't mind most things my friends post. They are all friends in real life, and I like how it means I can keep up with them.

There are just two who get on my nerves occasionally - one who has a relentless stream of LOOKATME LOOKATME posts (it's off the scale - his new Lamborghini, links to his wife's blog about how you too can be as beautiful as her), and one who complains about everything (and she has very little to complain about). And even those are welcome - I hate-read them :-).

pictish · 27/12/2013 11:26

Totally agree OP.

HECTheHeraldAngelsSing · 27/12/2013 11:28

good point well made.

Sharing the minutiae of your life is what fb was created for. Showing the world things they dont care about and having the world tell you stuff you dont give a shit about

It's like complaining that a toaster toasts or water comes out of your tap.

It's doing exactly what it's supposed to do. If that's not what you want- don't be part of it.

pictish · 27/12/2013 11:30

God I know. Fucking tedious isn't it?

SirChenjin · 27/12/2013 11:30

I have 3 words for you OP - Hide Their Posts

I did this with an ex neighbour couple of moved to Utopia Australia. I got so fucking sick of the daily weather report from Sydney (really, it's hotter than Scotland? You do surprise me), pictures of the mahoosive house, tales of how much better Oz is than Scotland, how they would never move back blah bah blah that I hid their posts. Also did the same to my redneck cuzzin and her endless photos of "me n ma boys" and her cars. I can highly recommend it

FunkyBoldRibena · 27/12/2013 11:30

All my friends are lovely, one hint of horror and they are hidden or racism and poof they are gone.

usualsuspect · 27/12/2013 11:32

Op is not talking about her FB.

She is ranting about the millions of threads on here that moan about FB.

FunkyBoldRibena · 27/12/2013 11:32

I do post mainly happy stuff though, no maudlin and no work ever.

GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 27/12/2013 11:32

It's not on FB that people moan about FB it's on fucking Mumsnet, rowlers and others.

"'So and so put that she loves her little man so very much and is so glad Santa came' AIBU to have the rage?"

Yes, YAFuckingUnreasonable.

That's what Facebook is fucking for.

You mean fuckers.

Fuck.

ChristmasCareeristBitchNigel · 27/12/2013 11:34

I agree with you OP. i like seeing my friends and family posting happy things. People moaning about "showing off" on FB say more about themselves imo

SnakeyMcBadass · 27/12/2013 11:37

Hear bloody hear I'm always baffled by FB threads here, I mean, it's not compulsory to have ninety billion friends, or indeed to use it at all.

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