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AIBU?

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First rule of FB - DO NOT POST anything on it ever.

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ashamedoverthinker · 27/12/2013 11:13

What the fucking fuck can you post without being criticised for it? Tell me what the actual fucking fuck are you 'allowed'

I'm so fed up of FB complaints on here I'm shooting sparks across this very keyboard. I am smoking and YES I need to calm the fuck down.

Why do people join a social networking site (key fucking thing this) and then complain when people network on it (the bastards sharing their fucking lives with you) I mean get the fuck off it then. Don't join - make sure you blank them in the street too if thats what you think of their lives.

Some people just dont like to see other people happy.

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womblesofwestminster · 27/12/2013 14:43

I avoid Facebook at times when I know it's likely to make me feel jealous etc because things are hard for me at the time.

I do this. Because people are so fucking fake on Fakebook. They either present their life as disproportionately happy/glamorous or disproportionately drama-filled. It's like stepping into the Matrix.

So why don't I just fuck off then?

because some aspects of FB I like (the pages, the photos of my friends' kiddies, the events).

usualsuspect · 27/12/2013 14:53

No one is fake on my FB.

Maybe you need some new friends.

womblesofwestminster · 27/12/2013 15:07

Fake as in disproportionate 'reporting' of good events but little bad. Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about and that I just have 'bad' friends. This is a common phenomenon on FB.

DescribeTheRuckus · 27/12/2013 15:14

For the most part, I like FB, and don't get many wanky statuses really. I only keep friends that I'd be happy to have over to visit (I'm an American living in England), so I do genuinely like the people on my list. People who do not meet the criteria are de-friended and blocked for good measure!

Mia4 · 27/12/2013 15:14

YANBU, people do forget the 'social and networking' aspect about it sometimes.

The funniest i saw on today was a post that my best friend had screencapped from Christmas day. It was her DN moaning and bleating about how shit her presents were, how her parents didn't get her and how she desperately wanted a car but they were too selfish to get her one. It made my friend's day when spoilt niece's secret love 'crush' commented on her fb to say that if she was going to tantrum off the roads then he was glad that she wasn't going to be on them for a while!

It was hilarious to see her try and backtrack to save face in front of him, especially when half her family 'liked' his comment. She eventually deleted the status and put a surgery 'love my fam and friends so much' instead.

Given how awful my best friend's DN is, especially to her mum, bf screen capped it for the years to come when she's not so awful.

Southeastdweller · 27/12/2013 15:15

Are you 12?

mistermakersgloopyglue · 27/12/2013 15:17

I don't get why you only have 2 choices when it comes to facebook: either love everything that all your friends post OR get off Facebook?

Just because I get a bit at some of the stuff people post, it doesn't cancel out all the good stuff about Facebook, so why would I want to leave?

Mintyy · 27/12/2013 15:19

Well, it is nuts to thank your husband on facebook, isn't it? I mean its nuts and naff and pmany people will think you are a right old dafty for doing it. You sound unhinged, to me, with your swearing by the way. Its just facebook, don't worry about it.

pictish · 27/12/2013 15:24

Because people are so fucking fake on Fakebook. They either present their life as disproportionately happy/glamorous or disproportionately drama-filled. It's like stepping into the Matrix.

I do neither, and I'm not fake thanks.

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2013 15:35

What happens on FB when people like you but you don't like them?

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 27/12/2013 15:36

Amen sister!

I like to post mundane shite that no one cares about. My status is about having a greggs and a cuppa. No one gives a shit but that's FB.

Only on MN do I hear people moaning about what people say on FB. Tonight I may post what film I am watching as well.

Mia4 · 27/12/2013 15:37

Sparklingbrook how do you mean? You friend them but they don't respond?

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2013 15:39

No. Meaning they want to friend me but I don't want them to Mia. nosy types.

I did have a thread yesterday asking about whether I was too private to have FB and I decided I was. it's all or nothing isn't it?

Cocolepew · 27/12/2013 15:40

I love fb. I have liked loads of stuff so get kept up to date on my likes and interests through my newsfeed.
I'm only friends with RL ones and work collegues and my family. I'm essential a nosy brat so it suits me fine. I even go into my friends friends list and nosy at peoples, who I don't even know, photos .

mrsjay · 27/12/2013 15:41

you just dont accept their friend request sparkling there is no obligation to have anybody on facebook

Cocolepew · 27/12/2013 15:41

Just refuse the friend request Sparkling.

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 27/12/2013 15:41

spark you can put them on a restricted list. I have a few nosey shits on it. They are friends with me but only see what I want them to.

GoodNewsGrinch · 27/12/2013 15:41

Sp, YABsooooooU! You're just tying to make us all jealous that you're having a Gregg's .

I don't actually mind much of what is complained about, the boring stuff whatever. It's the showing off and attempts to make others jealous.

I have one friend in particular who is terrible for it. She once bought a load of convenience good, sweets and drinks and artfully arranged them with something like 'the perfect night in'. So much effort for something so mundane. But it was in a similar vein to much of what she posts. Everything is sugar coated and more fantastic than anything anyone else does.

I'd delete her but I really like her in person. Facebook turns ordinarily lovely people into weirdos .

usualsuspect · 27/12/2013 15:42

I don't act fake on FB.No one I know acts fake on FB.

Why add people you don't like?

TanteRose · 27/12/2013 15:42

I enjoy FB to keep in touch with people (my friends and family) who I don't see hardly ever. And also it serves as a kind a record of what I've been doing.
but my DH is not one of my FB friends...that would be weird. I live with him, why would I want to communicate via FB??

mrsjay · 27/12/2013 15:44

I don't know anybody who acts fake on facebook I never get jealous or envious either

Mia4 · 27/12/2013 15:44

If you set your privacy settings Sparklingbrook, you can stop them even finding you. They won't be able to see anything, message you or friend you. The only downside is that the onus is then on you to find and friend people because others can't find/friend you.

Or just deny the request and block them :)

It is a networking site but you choose who to network with, just because you choose very carefully doesn't mean you shouldn't have one.

SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 27/12/2013 15:44

Good The pictures of food etc don't bother me. Its what FB is for. Mundane shite. I use SnapChat for my food pics

mrsjay · 27/12/2013 15:45

I do Hide those who are feeling blessed though I had somebody the other week who was feeling blessed because she was having lunch with a friend, makes me want to poke them till it hurts

usualsuspect · 27/12/2013 15:46

If I'm having a nice cup of tea or a vodka and I update my status about it.

I'm not really having a glass of water and faking my drinking habits.

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