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AIBU to think its fucking cruel...

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chirpchirp · 26/11/2013 12:33

To make a woman who is miscarrying and attempting to hold it together sit in a waiting room for over an hour surrounded by happy pregnant, bump rubbing women?

I probably am as I'm emotionally drained and haven't slept properly since I started bleeding on Sunday. I've been sent for a scan to confirm what I already know, I'm here on my own as DH can't afford to take time off work and my only friend who knows is looking after DS so I didn't have to bring him with me. My appointment was over an hour ago, apparently they are running late as it's a junior doctor but that's all they can tell me not how much longer I'll be here for.

There must be other women going through what I am, could they not gives us all appointments in the morning or at the end of the day so we can all sit here close to tears together rather than hearing the (understandable) excited giggle of women who aren't going through hell?

RebeccaMumsnet · 26/11/2013 15:57

Hi all,

We are so sorry to hear that OP - sending much love to you from MNHQ.

These were the 5 things Mumsnet users told us they wanted in the code of care when we did our Better miscarriage care campaign , many hospitals responded positively and fewer hospitals are operating like this.

OP, if you could tell us on the thread or privately where the hospital is we could help get in touch with them, obviously only if you'd like to and when you are ready.

KatieMumsnet · 27/11/2013 21:37

Hello everyone

So sorry to hear that so many of you are going through this or have recently gone through this.

We've drafted a template letter that those of you that want to can adapt and send to your local trust. This should be up on the site early tomorrow.

As Becky says it was a big part of our campaign, but frustratingly after central govt. (or other politicians) give warm words, they then say, 'so yes, do get involved with each hospital locally', which obviously is pretty tricky and some hospitals are better than others.

What everyone is talking about here, being able to wait and be treated in a separate space, is actually part of existing guidelines,but very clearly not everyone adheres to them. Following on from the campaign we asked each trust (in England) what they were doing. You can read the results of the trusts that responded to our 2012 FOI requests here. If you're happy to please do post any responses you receive from the trusts.

Best

MNHQ

RebeccaMumsnet · 29/11/2013 14:55

Hi all,

Here is a link to the letter you can send to your local NHS Trust or practice.

Please do take the time to copy the letter and forward it on.

Watch this thread for updates

Tap "Watch" to get all the latest updates

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