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to think that this was very rude

27 replies

FunnysInLaJardin · 14/11/2013 20:09

so at parents evening tonight and in with the teacher of our youngest DC. Having a nice chat and suddenly the door opens and in marches one of my friends and the mother of my 2 DC's friends. She marches around a bit at the back of the classroom and the teacher looks Confused as do we. Then she says oh do you need more time? And the teacher offers her a later slot as we are running over and she says well no, I don't have time for that and marched back out.

I am [shocked] as she is a friend first and foremost and also Angry that she would be so rude

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DoItTooJulia · 14/11/2013 20:10

Yep, 'twas rude. Ask her about it tomorrow. Tell you thought it was rude!

Handbagsonnhold · 14/11/2013 20:10

V v v rude

CailinDana · 14/11/2013 20:11

Parents evening seems to send some people over the edge.

VivaLeBeaver · 14/11/2013 20:12

Had you been in there ages ?

It was rude and parents evenings are notorious for running over. But people who spend 20mins with the teacher are annoying! Grin

kinkyfuckery · 14/11/2013 20:13

It is rude, but it's rage-inducing when you have to wait past your appointed slot time.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 14/11/2013 20:13

if I tell her she will fall out with me as she has done with many many others. It's not worth it, but I will see her in a different light from now on

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southeastastra · 14/11/2013 20:15

she was probably fed up with waiting! it is very annoying if you have something else planned, or need to be somewhere else. there could b e a million reasons why she got annoyed. talk to her, don't 'see her in a differnent light' that's just rude in itself.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 14/11/2013 20:16

no viva they were running over by about 5 mins and we had been in there for 5 mins of our 10 mins slot, so she was on time but irked that we were still there. This is nursery btw that we are talking abut, not some crucial exam year. We had had to wait an extra 5 mins too but I wouldn't have dreamed of just walking in and marching about. At best I might have put my nose through the door and said oh sorry are you still talking

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Lilacroses · 14/11/2013 20:17

Ummmm...that was unbelievably rude. It is annoying if someone is running over by a long time but otoh it's a bit like being at the Drs. It might be you the next time that needs longer with the Dr so you just have to wait or leave and make your point the next day with the teacher saying that you had to be somewhere else.

VivaLeBeaver · 14/11/2013 20:18

Well she needs to wait till secondary school and the appts go out the window and its 30min queues for all the teachers - she'll explode!

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FunnysInLaJardin · 14/11/2013 20:18

I could totally understand her speaking to the head and saying that the running over was a pita, but not to walk in to our parents evening

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claig · 14/11/2013 20:21

I think she was just very angry and so didn't behave in her usual manner. It happens, she may have been having a bad day.

Lilacroses · 14/11/2013 20:23

No, you're right. I've never had that happen to me in 15 years of teaching! Agree with Claig, she must have had a very bad day and the red mist must have descended....I hope she apologises though because it was really rude.

sandfrog · 14/11/2013 20:49

YANBU. It's hard for teachers to keep to time, particularly if some of the previous parents are late or don't want to keep to the allotted time.

junkfoodaddict · 14/11/2013 21:34

Crikey! I was 45 minutes late for one of my parents. Luckily they're teachers too and understand some parents can go on and on and on and also they were able to visit their other child's teacher in the meantime. Didn't help that of the 27 families who made an appointment, 17 all wanted the 3:30 - 5:00 slot so my 10 minutes apart for a 5 minute slot went out the window. Next time, I need to tell parents their time is unavailable - first in, first served.

YouTheCat · 14/11/2013 21:37

Oh ffs she's going to have a rude awakening when hers get to secondary - 5 minutes is practically on time there. Grin

Yes she was rude. Tbh I wouldn't be arsed about losing her friendship. She clearly thinks she is way more important than you for a start.

BabyMummy29 · 14/11/2013 21:39

Seems like a badly organised parents' evening to me. I have just done parents' evening at my school and that just wouldn't happen there.

And yes is was rude.

Mylovelyboy · 14/11/2013 21:40

I think she was rude. But in saying that. When you have a slot booked and you have rushed home from work and shot up the school. The last thing you want to do is to be sitting behind some mother that is chatting away to the teacher for longer than necessary that has no consideration for other parents waiting. When i see my ds teachers. I like to keep it short, sweet and to the point, next, next next . Then home.

Mylovelyboy · 14/11/2013 21:42

I think with all the parents evenings that i have been too. And my ds is 13. The people that make time slots go out of sink are the parents.

WorraLiberty · 14/11/2013 21:42

Yes it was very rude of her

But tell me, does she really actually 'march' everywhere? Grin

Heartbrokenmum73 · 14/11/2013 21:43

I was anticipating tedium a long evening at DD's first parents evening at secondary this term.

Then they binned it off (they've become an Academy over the summer) and had a Review Day instead, where you booked a 15 minute appointment with their Form Tutor and they told you all you needed to know, rather than waiting around to see teacher after teacher after teacher.

It was brilliant. Except that DD was given the day off - how inconsiderate of them to make me look after her on a Tuesday Grin

heronsfly · 14/11/2013 21:44

Do you think she might have been trying to eavesdrop ? we had a parent nosy old cow at our school that was forever finding excuses to hang around the classroom listening to what other parents were discussing.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 14/11/2013 21:47

Worra yes she does march to most places and she is a SAHM to 4 DC so no work etc to worry about. I do like her, but this incident has really pissed me off. She obv does think she is more important than us!

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Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 14/11/2013 21:51

if is uncharacteristic maybe it was something rather than PE that got her goat. She a good friend? Maybe a discreet chat to see if she's ok. You could say you were sorry, but teacher went on a bit. Hate PEvenings, long hot and dh is the one sending everyone over the edge.Blush

FudgefaceMcZ · 14/11/2013 21:54

It was rude, and I don't think you were to blame in this case, but I feel it's also rude and inconsiderate when people overrun their appointment slot or ignore booked times. Some of us do have to fit in other things e.g. picking up younger children from nursery (no one else around to do it in my case, so if someone overruns by a long time then I would have to leave without seeing the teacher, after having taken time off work to do so, as usually they are scheduled for within the working day of everyone except teachers). Obviously that's not what happened here, but it does work both ways.