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Original poster

if I ask downstairs to stop smoking dope?

61 replies

whogrewoutoftheterribletwos · 16/10/2013 22:02

I can smell it in my living room and bedroom, where DD (5 months) is sleeping. We're fairly new in the stairwell, as are they, and don't want to get off on the wrong foot. This is the second time this week. Have noticed it before too, but I'm hoping it's not going to become a regular occurrence. They're not students but a DINKY couple. Normally I'd say they can do whatever they want in their own home, but I really don't want my home to smell as a result of that.

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WorraLiberty · 16/10/2013 22:04

What is a 'DINKY' couple? Confused

You could ask I suppose but I'm not sure what sort of response you'll get.

Cant you just air out your home the way I have to when next door start cooking really strong smelling curries and garlic dishes?

fromparistoberlin · 16/10/2013 22:04

erm.....yabu!

maybe wait for a bit longer till you say anything? I think after a few months or so a complaint will land better than straightway??

getdownshep · 16/10/2013 22:06

DINKEY- duel income no kids yet

WorraLiberty · 16/10/2013 22:08

Why have I never heard of that god awful phrase? Grin

I have no idea what their income has to do with them having a spliff in their home?

Mintyy · 16/10/2013 22:10

Yabu, what do you expect them to do?

ScarletLady02 · 16/10/2013 22:10

I thought you meant they were really little and cute. Confused

BillyBanter · 16/10/2013 22:11

Well smells coming from another flat is more an issue of the fabric of the building than what they are doing. Your next neighbours might like cooking garlic lots or burn everything.

That said my current downstairs neighbours seem to leak more smells out of their flat than the ones before. Maybe a broken extractor fan. And the ones before's food smelled nicer. I was quite tempted to offer them some money to cook for me too it was so yummy smelling.

D0oinMeCleanin · 16/10/2013 22:12

I thought you meant dinky as in small, I was wondering what their height had to do with anything. I suppose you'd get stoned off of less weed if you were very dinky Grin

YANBU to ask, but I doubt they'll see it your way. We have loads of smokers and growers round these parts, none of the bastards share Sad

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whogrewoutoftheterribletwos · 16/10/2013 22:13

Worra - DINKY: Double Income No Kids Yet.

Like I said, I have noticed it before and in those instances we have aired the place. It's getting colder now and we don't have double glazing or anything, so airing the place makes it freezing. I'm worried it's becoming more frequent. They've been doing up the flat and not staying there all the time til recently. I wasn't thinking of charging in, flailing arms, Valkyrie hat on, vitriolic against drug use. I was thinking more of just mentioning it to them. Chances are they're not aware that the smell travels up to us. Should I have to put up with the smell of their pot when I go to sleep? Cooking smells are at least legal Grin

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SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 16/10/2013 22:14

I don't think OPIBU!
Last time I checked dope was still illegal! And it may be their home, but why should you have to live with it in her home?!
I would give it a little while longer then take action. I'm not sure what though. Maybe contact the landlord, or call the police non emergency number for advice?

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 16/10/2013 22:16

OP not 'you'.

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whogrewoutoftheterribletwos · 16/10/2013 22:17

saggy - they're owner/occupiers, as are we. It won't be as much of an issue when DD goes into her own room but until we get our arses in gear to get the roof fixed that's not happening

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WorraLiberty · 16/10/2013 22:18

I don't think our nostrils know what's legal and what isn't Grin

Fair enough you don't like the smell of dope

But if you didn't like the smell of their (legal) cooking, what would you do then?

I'm guessing you'd find a way to cope?

The Police can't do anything btw, I mean they're hardly likely to admit it and no judge in the land would sign a warrant because a couple (regardless of income status) are having a spliff in their own home.

Rosa · 16/10/2013 22:21

I would mention it to them . Maybe they don't realise it and can do something about it. If it was a heavy smoker I would not be happy either.

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whogrewoutoftheterribletwos · 16/10/2013 22:24

I'd probably be quicker to mention it if it were cooking and suggest they open a window or something but there's someone in the stair that keeps cooking stuff which smells really good and makes me hungry all the time. I think because it's dope I'm more reluctant. They seem like a nice couple and perfectly reasonable though.

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notnowbernard · 16/10/2013 22:26

I'd prob let them know I could smell it in my flat and ask if they'd mind smoking in a different room or out the window or something

If someone told me they could smell my smoke in their baby's room I'd be really apologetic and do my best to not offend (don't smoke now but did pre-Dc)

BeCool · 16/10/2013 22:27

the smell of cigarette smoke would bother me a lot more than the smell of weed. Do you smell that too or are they smoking it pure?

Do you feel you can say something as it is illegal - i.e. you can kind of hold that over them as in "I can smell your weed in my house and I don't like it, please can you stop" with an implied ..... or I'll ......???

Would you also feel comfortable saying "I can smell your cigarette smoke/cooking/farts in my house and I don't like it, please can you stop?".

It must be annoying smelling your neighbours smells, but I don't see that there is much you can do about it, without calling on the "it's illegal' card which I think WBU.

Perhaps lay down some well insulated flooring?

notnowbernard · 16/10/2013 22:28

Nice couple who are dope smokers

Prob quite reasonable tbh Wink

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whogrewoutoftheterribletwos · 16/10/2013 22:30

bernard Grin

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travellingwilbury · 16/10/2013 22:31

You can ask them , but they might giggle !

notnowbernard · 16/10/2013 22:32

Seriously, have a friendly word

Am sure they'll respond positively

BrianTheMole · 16/10/2013 22:39

No harm in mentioning it to them. They probably don't realize.

CackleCackle · 16/10/2013 22:49

I'm sure if you mentioned it and asked nicely they will oblige to smoke in another room or sit next to an open window while smoking it. Especially if you say it smells in your DD's room where she sleeps.

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 16/10/2013 22:56

I don't see the comparison between "your farty casserole smell is invading my flat" and "The dope you are smoking is seeping into my baby's room".
It's illegal. The fact that it is 'only' dope is irrelevant.

WorraLiberty · 16/10/2013 23:01

It doesn't matter if it's a legal smell or 'illegal smell'

The fact is it's just a smell and the OP doesn't like it

But she may have to find a way to cope with it/insulate against it if the smokers won't change where they smoke it.

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