if I ask downstairs to stop smoking dope?

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I can smell it in my living room and bedroom, where DD (5 months) is sleeping. We're fairly new in the stairwell, as are they, and don't want to get off on the wrong foot. This is the second time this week. Have noticed it before too, but I'm hoping it's not going to become a regular occurrence. They're not students but a DINKY couple. Normally I'd say they can do whatever they want in their own home, but I really don't want my home to smell as a result of that.

oH I don't know about the police not doing anything. downstais flat was raided with full riot gear after a lot of complaints from a lot of neighbours. they were only smoking and not selling.

BlackeyedSusan in order for that flat to have been raided and a Judge to look over the evidence presented before him/her, there must have been very good reason to believe they were dealing and not just having the odd joint after work in front of the TV.

The fact they claimed (and were believed to be) not selling, would have been 'luck' on the dealers side.

Either that or some people told some elaborate lies about them in order to get them busted.

And the use of full riot gear would mean they were given more than a tip off that the tenant was merely doing more than enjoying a spliff.

I'm sorry Worra, but I think that is bollocks! It's reasonable to expect to have to put up with cooking smells. It is unreasonable to have to put up with the smell or someone smoking an illegal substance.
And presumably, the baby could potentially be affected by the fumes in the same way as she would by passive smoking?

You could try saying, I smell it and my health visitor will probably smell it, they can be real bloody pains, really uptight, she might report it.

Hopefully as dinkies they will have no idea what hvs really do.

Gosh, is dinky now consigned to the past?

I doubt the baby would be any more affected by the fumes of a joint that's travelled up a floor, than it would be directly breathing in traffic fumes.

But that argument aside, my point here is that other than politely ask them to smoke outside their home, there is literally nothing else the OP can do.

Other than move to a detached home with far away neighbours because the police can't do jack shit.

Report it to who though?

To the police who (if they have nothing better to do) may knock on the door and ask if they'd be awfully kind as to stop?

Or does anyone think the SAS are going to come smashing through the window and tell everyone to get on the floor?

Honestly, no judge in the land will sign a warrant to raid a property because someone is smoking what's considered under law as 'personal use'.

I always think you have to be very careful that you don't cause any kind of nuisance to them either, iyswim. Given that you have a baby, do you want them knocking your door every time she cries or makes any kind of noise? I have seen this happen, the neighbours were 'live and let live' types until their neighbour made a complaint about them!

And asking them to smoke outside will just mean they will bother other people. Unfortunately unless you live in a nice detached house in the middle of nowhere you have to contend with the habits of neighbours!

i suggest incense sticks in the hall.

Tell them that you can smell weed coming out of their front door into the hall, and would they mind opening a window when they smoke it?

There's a big difference between cooking smells and the smell of dope. Cooking isn't harmful - dope is. I wouldn't want my baby subjected to the smell of dope either. It is illegal, not to mention anti-social. I don't think YABU.

There's no harm in approaching them in a friendly way and ask if it would be possible to smoke with their windows open to disperse the smell a little.

Although TBH, you can ask and if they do say no, there isn't a lot you can do.

Go and join them when they have a smoke, soon enough you won't give a shit about the smell and will just want to eat your body weight in munchies!

The police won't do a thing. When a friend of mine was caught with some weed, the police gave him a caution and advised him to smoke it in his own home as opposed to Regents Park in future

Yanbu op. I'm not anti drugs but drug use should not affect other people! I think you should speak to them. Is it a rental property? If so tell the landlord.

yes well that is the Met, KellyElly, rural police forces such as this one have great fun busting people for .2 of a gram on the say so of their neighbours,,,,,

Can you afford double glazing? noise, smells, etc- its all going to bug you if things are so close together.

YANBU - I'd speak to them. It is dope after all therefore not legal. If they're shirty you can always give your local police station a call and tell them there's illegal drug related activity going on ( don't say which drug...). A warning from the fuzz should sort them out...

I had neighbours who did this, I politely asked them if they minded smoking in another room as the smell wafted in to my daughter's bedroom. They were incredibly apologetic and I never smelt them again. Most people are perfectly reasonable.

I would ask them to do something about it. I would be just as upset if it was cigarette smoke making it's way into my house/flat etc and I had a baby in there. I would also see what you can do about it, maybe get a draft excluder for the front door if it's coming in that way?

YANBU, second hand smoke is not nice.

YANBU. It's a criminal offence.

Of course you would not be unreasonable, it's just polite.

YANBU. Weed is incredibly antisocial. It stinks.