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Men who post sleazy shit about their sex lives.

88 replies

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco · 29/09/2013 21:19

There's no need.

I actually find it really disturbing. Mn is populated by mainly women and some lovely men. So I find something quite, I don't know, creepy? Intimidating? Off, anyway, about men who want to tell us all about their seckshual adventures.

I'd like to invite them to stop.

Also, and this is less annoying but I'll add it so it's all one big ranty op, men who prefix their posts with 'speaking as a man' or similar and then go on to post something completely unrelated to the fact they are a bloke. it reminds me of monkeys swinging their dicks around to assert their dominance.

Aibu?

I know I'm not, but I am tired and ratty and have low tolerance levels today.

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SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:19

Women post about sex life on here too

TheCrumpetQueen · 29/09/2013 21:24

Who where what when

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco · 29/09/2013 21:25

Yes but that's (usually) women talking to other women.

I am very far from a prude, but I find it really distasteful when men (there are two in particular recently) join a predominantly female website and then wang on about their shagging history.

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WorraLiberty · 29/09/2013 21:25

Have you seen the amount of bum sex threads/kinky sex threads etc, started by women on here?

I've only ever seen 'as a man' posted when some people are doing their usual things of saying 'all men are this' or 'all men are that'.

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:26

Do women can talk about sex any way they wat but men can't?

Have you seen women on here talk about?!

TheCrumpetQueen · 29/09/2013 21:26

I agree op

AnaisHendricks · 29/09/2013 21:26

My eyes glaze over when I read, "speaking as a man" because I assume mansplaining is to come. Followed by accusations of "misandry"

I do love, "I'm tired and ratty and in a bad mood but I know I'm not unreasonable" Grin

WorraLiberty · 29/09/2013 21:26

Yes but that's (usually) women talking to other women.

No it's not.

It's women posting on a wide open forum that you don't even have to be a member of to read.

TheCrumpetQueen · 29/09/2013 21:27

Yes but that's women addressing other women

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:28

So what? Men and women cant talk about sex now? They can do it together but not speak about it together?

WorraLiberty · 29/09/2013 21:28

And actually I think starting a thread to bitch about two new members in this way, is out of order.

If you don't like what they have to say, scroll past and ignore.

This thread is quite nasty.

MrsWolowitz · 29/09/2013 21:30

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SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:32

Because they have penis' obviously Wolo

hettienne · 29/09/2013 21:33

I haven't seen any men posting salacious stuff about their sex lives??

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco · 29/09/2013 21:34

I'm not bitching.

I am explaining my discomfort at reading sleazy crap posted by men on a website mostly populated by women. I think it's a bit off. I don't need to know, on a chat thread about spoons, that you are in an open relationship and love doing it al fresco. For eg.

And also men who post 'speaking as a man' as though we should all stop what we're doing and bask in the glory of being addressed by a higher being.

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SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:35

Women post shit like that! The site is for everyone.

Its ok for a woman to say it but sleazy for a man? Hmm

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 29/09/2013 21:35

It doesn't bother me.

Men have sex life problems as well and it's better to get some help and support

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:36

And the speaking as a man is usually a man giving a males point of view.

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco · 29/09/2013 21:38

Yes. It is. Because it is 99% women posting here and I think there's something intentionally Intimidating and sleazy about it.

I'm not talking about men posting for advice. I'm talkingaabout general posting on chat threads.

There are a few who do it, and I've noticed it quite a lot lately.

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WorraLiberty · 29/09/2013 21:38

Mentioning that there are two posters in particular is out of order imo

And you're a big girl OP, I'm sure you can cope with scrolling past whoever these people are.

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 29/09/2013 21:41

Are you 5 seriously it is just sex talk.

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:45

Intimidating and sleazy because they talk about sex?

Men and women have sex. They can also speak about it! Shock

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 29/09/2013 21:46

Why cant they post on general chat threads about it? Women do it

KellyHopter · 29/09/2013 21:47

I think I agree with you op, but I feel more that it's an unfair reaction on my part.

The fact is I haven't seen male posters overshare to anywhere near the same extent as some the freaks female posters (mercifully few though, I think).

Sheshelob · 29/09/2013 21:48

I agree with the OP about men who come on here and are pointedly - and inappropriately - descriptive about their sex lives.

I don't think she is saying she doesn't want to hear from men or that women have the monopoly on talking about sex here. There is just a particular type of bloke who does it, as if he gets some kind of voyeuristic thrill out of telling a load of faceless women how he gets his rocks off a propos of fuck all. And they quite often happen to be F4J-type, old school menz rights blowhards to boot.

If "new members" come on and act like creeps, they deserve to have their arses handed to them.

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