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To be disappointed with my lie in

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Thatsnotmychicken · 14/09/2013 08:08

Dh is taking dcs swimming while I catch up on some sleep. So far I have been asked,

'where are my swimming trunks?'(with all the swimming stuff)

'Where is the dcs shampoo?' (In the shower?)

'where is the dcs hairbrush?' (On dc1s dressing table)
both girls want to wear dresses and its raining -

'which pair of rights should they wear under these dresses?'

So much for my lie in - is it really that difficult?

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littlewhitebag · 14/09/2013 08:10

That sounds par for the course.

But just think of the deep sigh you can give when they finally leave the house and you are left in deep and peaceful silence.

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:12

It will be easier in following weeks, he just needs practise. Lots and lots of practise. Grin
The wittering about what the children are wearing, do you fuss and flap if he gets it wrong usually? Stop.

EsTutMirLeid · 14/09/2013 08:13

This is virtually every lie in for me. :(

I've resigned myself to not having a 'real' lie in until DS is a teenager (and wants lie ins of his own).

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:15

Then work out why your partner is unable to get on with things by himself, why your children don't know where their stuff is (unless they are very small) and why he feels he needs your approval for every step.
Fix that, enjoy the lie in. Packing bags the night before works well.

littlewhitebag · 14/09/2013 08:21

Lie ins don't always improve when they are teenagers. They then have sports matches on a Saturday morning or weekend jobs they need a lift to. Or if you are like me, fear of an empty nest drives you to get a puppy, who wakes early and needs a walk.

peggyundercrackers · 14/09/2013 08:28

put a lock on your bedroom door? when he goes out lock it so he needs to think for himself

shrinkingnora · 14/09/2013 08:31

On the upside, while you are lying in bed he will be trying to put tights on damp children. Fool.

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:32

'so he needs to think for himself'

or so you have time to reflect on possibly how over-controlling you might be, and how you've made others feel that they have to run every decision past your judgement?
How old are the children?

YoniMontana · 14/09/2013 08:32

Lay everything out the night before so he knows where it is?

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:33

OP is now righteously unconscious, and will return around 11ish.

LazyGaga · 14/09/2013 08:37

SilverApples - lay off the OP. You're jumping to conclusions on the basis of a few lines of texts - so the OP is controlling and difficult to please?

Or maybe, just maybe, the husband's a bit useless?

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:40

But why is he useless?
Why is he asking her what his children should wear?

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:44

It's not the OP, Lazy. It's the constant complaints on here of how useless, incapable and incompetent the partners of MNetter's are.
How they can't do anything in the home right, how they never do anything to help, how hard it is to be partnered with a bloke who is such a prat.
These same men who mostly hold down good jobs and function well in the world outside the home.
So what makes them change into such squeaky, wet, indecisive wimps when confronted with their own children and a wardrobe full of clothes to choose from?

Antidote · 14/09/2013 08:47

Well my lie-in is being conducted to the soundtrack of my nearly 3 year old DS screaming demands at the top of his voice "i want a cuddle, I want to go downstairs, I want a banana, I want daddy" (he's with daddy ffs).

I'm not even sure it counts as a lie in if you've only had 3 hours sleep (thanks DD).

DH is trying to be consistent, but he's usually so distracted by fucking Twitter that it's confusing the hell out of DS.

Ho hum. Approx 30min till next feed I guess.

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Thatsnotmychicken · 14/09/2013 08:49

Have you got a hangover silver apples!

I was just sharing, thought it was amusing!

I don't care what they wear to be fair but have been known to laugh at some interesting combinations in the past, so am probably to blame

Lol at putting tights on damp children later- he definitely wouldn't have thought of that!

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SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:52

No hangover, am returning DD and possessions to Uni. Grin
I've been with my OH for 30 years, wouldn't have made three if he was as incompetent as many partners described on this site.
You are entitled to an undisturbed lie in, every Saturday. So help make it happen. Get your children to pack their kit the night before, and have something simple they wear to the activity like a track suit. Then he needn't even wake you up.

littlewhitebag · 14/09/2013 08:57

silverapples I think OP's DH sounds very normal. Not feckless and lazy, just slightly clueless about run of the mill stuff which mums tend to have a sixth sense about. My DH was very much like this when the kids were small but he is the loveliest, most dedicated dad ever.

SilverApples · 14/09/2013 08:59

I don't think he's lazy, I think he's unskilled.

LazyGaga · 14/09/2013 09:04

Well I do think it's a bit useless to have to ask where theshampoo is. A quick investigation of the bathroom would normally get results without having to ask!

EsTutMirLeid · 14/09/2013 09:04

Damp tights... Ho Ho. 2 shouting damp children in a cubicle to sort out while he stands there all cold and wet. He has definitely drawn the short straw.

My DH is like yours op. he's a great dad, a great DH but he too would be 'where's this? where's that?' it does not make him useless, lazy or unskilled.

diddl · 14/09/2013 09:06

Ooh that's annoying.

Lazyness his part as in easier to ask than look himself?

Next time tell him to get it all ready the night before.

And the irls want to wear dresses-so he's letting them-with tights?

Oh how lovely!

clam · 14/09/2013 09:07

YoniMontana: "Lay everything out the night before so he knows where it is?"
Shock Seriously? The OP has to do this for him??

diddl · 14/09/2013 09:10

"but he too would be 'where's this? where's that?' it does not make him useless, lazy or unskilled."

What does it make him, then?

Because I realy can't see that there are that many places in a house where swimming kit/shampooHmm would be.

And which tights with dresses??

How many different thicknesses do your daughters have, OP-and would they know which tights they would like to wear?

EverybodysStressyEyed · 14/09/2013 09:14

I thought I'd written the op!

My lot have just left and despite the swimming bags being packed I still ended up having to get up to get you hear dressed because dh was running late. And then he couldn't find the car keys (I don't drive so have no reason to know where they are but it somehow falls within my remit).

It irritates the hell out of me that dh gives me the lie ins at the weekend but in reality it's no such thing.

Luckily he has redeeming qualities and him taking them swimming means I can get ready in peace for once!

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Thatsnotmychicken · 14/09/2013 09:17

I know and love my Dh and I suspect there are many men out there who wouldn't take dcs swimming at 8.30 in the morning, he is a clever competent individual who will ask rather than look probably because he is lazy and is completely mystified by girls clothing.

I am sorry this seems to be being taken a lot more seriously than I intended! Please lighten up its Saturday morning and I have a child free house!

Also I cba to pack a bag the night before so next time will keep my observations to myself.

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