To be disappointed with my lie in

[Thatsnotmychicken]

Dh is taking dcs swimming while I catch up on some sleep. So far I have been asked,

'where are my swimming trunks?'(with all the swimming stuff)

'Where is the dcs shampoo?' (In the shower?)

'where is the dcs hairbrush?' (On dc1s dressing table)
both girls want to wear dresses and its raining -

'which pair of rights should they wear under these dresses?'

So much for my lie in - is it really that difficult?

[Maryann1975]

In my house I would have packed the bags last night and laid out all the clothes ready so there would have been no excuse for waking me. I know this doesn't help anyone in the long term, but they can practise getting ready without my help when there isn't something as crucial as me having a lie going on.

[diddl]

Oh OP!

But why aren't some men able or expected to do these things?

And the fact that they do an activity with their own children makes up for all other shortcomings!

[Bowlersarm]

It's just family life though,isn't it?

I don't think I ever got to actually sleep on any of my lie ins when the children were small. Was interrupted all the time by DH or DC. However it was nice to take a coffee back to bed and just not be responsible for anybody for once.

[Bowlersarm]

I think people are taking it seriously because you used the word 'disappointed' in thread title which is quite a gloomy word!

Glad you aren't taking it seriously OP. (lack of lie in, I mean, or rather 'sleep' in)

[MovingForward0719]

Get it all ready the night before and tell them they have to do it independently, I do this but my 9 year still talks me into getting up because "I like being with you".

[clam]

WHY does the WOMAN have to get the bags ready the night before for the MAN to take his own flipping children out?

[diddl]

"WHY does the WOMAN have to get the bags ready the night before for the MAN to take his own flipping children out?"

Because he's such an absolute star for taking his own children out on his own, that he can't be expected to to do the prep as well

[LazyGaga]

Well exactly.

There's something off about a man who won't get up and take his children out.

Not something wonderful about one who does.

IMO.

[MummyPig24]

Sounds like my lie ins. This morning was dhs turn. I fed and dressed the children, fed the cat, folded a load of washing, put a load in the tumble drier, another load in the machine, cleaned the kitchen and made dh breakfast.

Tomorrow is my lie in. This is what will happen:
"What shall I give dcs for breakfast?"
"What shall I dress them in?"
"Do I need to put some washing on?"
"Can the cat go out?"
Plus many more questions. I generally answer "I don't care as long as I'm left alone!"

[diddl]

"Tomorrow is my lie in. This is what will happen:
"What shall I give dcs for breakfast?"
"What shall I dress them in?"
"Do I need to put some washing on?"
"Can the cat go out?""

Hope that you're exaggerating for comedic effect, there mummy

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm going to go and give DH a big kiss. The other day he was taking DD out, the day before she started preschool. She was dressed in a foul outfit. I said, "interesting choice" and he told me he had chosen it in the absolute knowledge that I wouldn't have chosen it for her first day so he wouldn't be using clothes I would need.

Some men are practical, prepped, do some thinking about their kids' and DW's needs.

[ZingWantsCake]

and if it is not my own family it's the neighbours tv too loud or the postman knocking or the phone ringing or another neighbour cutting the grass.

I can't remember who said "Hell is other people", but was damn right.

[poocatcherchampion]

we have a lie in each on the weekend. what goes around comes around.

we both get a break .

[PoppyWearer]

I'm delurking to add my own experience from just now. It's my turn for a "lie-in" this morning, although we have guests so it will really just be for one (precious) hour.

So far it's gone like this:

6.15am - DC2 climbs on me in bed (not DH, oh no, never DH)
6.20am - I get fed up of DH remaining unconscious and wake him up
6.25am - DC1 wakes up, I go to give her a cuddle and help her go to the toilet, get her into dressing gown, fob off DC2's demands to read him endless stories
6.40am - DH has gone back to sleep, DC2 is demanding breakfast, so I wake up DH again and send him downstairs with DC2
...I then spent the last ten minutes persuading limpet-like DC1 to leave me alone and go downstairs. Which has finally happened.

I have 40 minutes of my precious "lie-in" remaining. DH had a whole hour yesterday.

I've been up in the night with DC2 as well.

I am soooooooooo not doing bath time tonight.

Sob.

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

OP posted with a light hearted observation about the prospect of a lie in and an unprepared dh.

Nothing more , so why was the need for a po faced response slating him and other men from some?

Lighten up.

[madmomma]

I bet he didn't even take talc to get the tights back on soggy legs.

[madmomma]

Lea

[madmomma]

I was

[Suddengeekgirl]

See I genuinely don't think most of our DHs are useless BUT I do think that when we get the lie in they end up doing things they aren't as practiced at. Which makes them nervous.

Dh will ask where stuff is - probably because I out it away during the week (SAHM). He also has issues about only seeing the big picture, not the details, when looking at anything.
Dh is slightly flummoxed by girls clothes - having never worn them and having no interest in fashion. He doesn't get it. Boys clothes are fine as he wears the same as ds.
Dh is also colour blind. He gets a bit embarrassed if he choses the wrong colours for himself, and is much worse if he does it for the dc.

So when it's my tur for a lie in about 2/3 of the time I experience the same as OP.
not because dh can't do it, but because he's just not had as much practice because he works as I'm SAHM.
That's the choice we made fr our family and you have to take the ups and downs of that.

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

I'm struggling to work out just how many places these things can actually be. I mean shampoo is in the bathroom isn't it? Bathrooms that consist of bath shower loo sink and a cupboard. Unless its a hoarder house how on earth is it so hard to find.

And which tights ??? Seriously? Has be never dressed the children or something???

And it's swimming, presumably local??? I don't think anyone's going to drop dead of he forgets a hairbrush. There was actually no need to disturb you at all. That would annoy me.

I'd expect the kids to ask questions, not a grown man who should be able to think for himself. Do you have to remind him to breathe?

[trixymalixy]

My lie ins are always a bit rubbish too, because the kids come to me for a cuddle first usually so I get woken up. DH did try his best yesterday to stop them disturbing me after we had a huge argument about our lie in entitlements the night before.

I did give him instructions and made him get all DDs ballet stuff ready the night before as I knew he would be clueless and have to ask me as Saturday is normally his lie in day and he's never taken DD to ballet before.

[trixymalixy]

poppy that's how my lie ins usually go too. I usually have to kick DH awake and he tries to get a few more minutes sleep by which time I've been jumped on and am pretty much awake. I told DH that it wasn't good enough anymore and if he was going to continue to be so selfish then he'd forfeit his lie ins.

[PoppyWearer]

I take it back, I woke up naturally at 8.30. All is forgiven.

[SummerHoliDidi]

My lie in yesterday was disturbed by 3yo dd2 arriving in my bedroom with a yoghurt for me. She announced that it was my breakfast but I'd have to get up and come downstairs because she couldn't reach the spoons . I'd rather have had some more sleep tbh.