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To tell them to bugger off???

29 replies

Babycino81 · 13/09/2013 12:15

Due in 13 days with FB. IL's are abroad but keep texting (between 4 and 8 times per day) to ask 'Any twinges yet?' Complained (yes I am hormonal and unreasonable) to my mum and best friend that they've been asking this for 6 weeks now, they think its hilarious and have joined in with the daily twinge updates request!

Would it be totally unreasonable or me to tell them to bugger off and baby will arrive when it's good and ready???? They have all started to text/phone each other if I don't reply because they've convinced themselves I'm in bloody labour!!!!

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Jan49 · 13/09/2013 12:24

I read this as "due in 13 days with Facebook" lol.

Could you or your DP tell them they are causing you stress and should stop? If they don't, then maybe stop using the mobile for now - hide it in a drawer? Get a cheap one with a new number for your DP to contact you.

Sidge · 13/09/2013 12:41

Text them back with "Yes, baby fell out whilst I was walking around Tesco yesterday - did I forget to tell you?"

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Babycino81 · 13/09/2013 12:42

Good idea! Although DH has entered 'headless chicken' mode and doesn't appear to be capable of digestion this info! Will try tho!

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Babycino81 · 13/09/2013 12:48

Sidge- that is genius. I may resort to that

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DwellsUndertheSink · 13/09/2013 12:54

pre-empt them all...

"Morning all, restful night and No, no twinges yet, will update you all tomorrow morning, sooner if baby gets a move on. Trying to get some rest so switching phone off. xx"

quoteunquote · 13/09/2013 13:04

put this link up on FB

diddl · 13/09/2013 13:09

Sounds awful.

Will they all be heading to the hospital as soon as labour starts?

diddl · 13/09/2013 13:10

Oh & I think that your mum & best friend sound really childish tbh.

Why would you deliberately annoy someone you care about?

Crowler · 13/09/2013 13:16

I think it's pretty cute that the IL's are so excited.

I'm childish, and this sounds like something my sister and I would do to each other.

DuelingFanjo · 13/09/2013 13:18

Tell them that babies can be two weeks or more late so it's going to get pretty annoying to keep getting texts for all that time.

or text them every morning for a week telling them there is no news.

ErrolTheDragon · 13/09/2013 13:26

Tell them that babies can be two weeks or more late

or more accurately, that there is more variability in normal gestation length than had previously been thought (s'true, read it in New Scientist recently.) So you might be a while yet.

Oh, and YANBU. Must be extremely annoying!

Catsize · 13/09/2013 13:59

How annoying. Reminds me of the irritating 'any news' texts from all and sundry. Particularly annoying as DS was 15mins off 17 days overdue. You could have this for a month! Needs to stop now!

MrsGarlic · 13/09/2013 14:00

I'd just text them every half hour saying "No news". Every now and then mix it up with "Ooooh gotta tell you...

No news".

Catsize · 13/09/2013 14:09

MrsGarlic, that is genius. Smile

DontmindifIdo · 13/09/2013 14:17

I think I'd go with texting: "no news- don't panic! I'm having problems with my phone memory, as it's only allowing so many messages then dying on me, getting it fixed would mean being without my phone for 3 days and worried this close to baby arrival to be phoneless! So asking everyone to stop texting until I can get it fixed, v annoying but will text you daily to let you know if there's news and DH's phone working fine if you need to contact us. xxx"

tootssweet · 13/09/2013 14:21

I would be texting them all when you are up with pregnancy insomnia (or needing that essential 4th wee) at 3:00am with a 'guess what - still no news but now you can all feel as tired & irritable as I do when you keep waking me when I'm trying to rest'

And I'd probably be doing this for at least a week - but I'm a bit grumpy today so I might change my mind tomorrowWink

smirnoff861 · 13/09/2013 14:26

My mum did this for about 6 weeks before I had the baby! In the end I ignored the texts so she started phoning!! Each time I said no I will tell you but my god it annoyed the life out of me! I don't think you are being unreasonable but maybe don't tell them to bugger off!

MikeOxard · 13/09/2013 14:55

Just tell them oh yes, loads, it'll be here any minute. Every time. They will get bored before you do.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 13/09/2013 14:59

I like tootssweet's idea Grin Feel for you OP, that is annoying. I would turn off the phone but would do tootssweet's idea if I had the balls...

ab00 · 13/09/2013 15:32

Op I really feel for you, I was 10 days over due with both my boys & the text messages & phone calls gets more irritating with every day. The ones that would make blood boil were the 'what are toy messing about at', 'just hurry up & get on with it', & the 'have you tried pineapple / raspberry leaf tea / curry / birthing ball / walks / sex etc.' like I had control over it & was deliberately not going in to labour.

Maybe point out that if you were in fact having 'twinges' the last thing you would be doing wild be sending text messages to anyone 'cos you'd be be too busy! Grin

Thumbwitch · 13/09/2013 15:35

YANBU - I went 2 weeks over with DS1 and had to be induced and yes, it DID get bloody annoying. As though I was going to forget to tell people when he had arrived!!

At least with DS2 I was induced at 39w, so avoided all this shit.

It's not cute, it's not amusing, it's bloody annoying and unreasonable to wind up highly hormonal pg women!

coffeewineandchocolate · 13/09/2013 15:36

I'd be telling them if they text again I would t be informing them of any labour happening or perhaps even the birth...

LeaningTowerOfGaffney · 13/09/2013 15:44

I would just ignore. Sure, they might all start ringing around and panicking, but they can't sustain that level of panic EVERY day. Can they?

DoJo · 13/09/2013 15:47

I told mine (jokingly, but would have done it if they had bugged me) that for every annoying text they sent me, I would pick one other person to tell about the baby before I told them. Shut them right up!

TalkativeJim · 13/09/2013 15:50

Round robin text time:

'Hello everyone. Have decided on a new game to keep me occupied while waiting for baby. Am keeping a log of every irritating, stress-inducing text asking me if anything's happening and for each one, I'm going to add an hour on after the baby's born before I let you know, and three hours before I let you visit. Let's see who wins the jackpot and doesn't get to see baby before it has teeth! Only joking... OR AM I???'

Yes, I know - spectacular sense of humour failure here from someone who suffered the same. OP, tell them to PISS OFF and that they are STRESSING YOU OUT, to the point at which when baby comes the LAST thing you will feel like doing is inviting them over. Seriously.