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aibu to call the cops

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:27

I have had to call the cops because this horrible person upstairs to me keeps throwing her fag butts in my garden.She keeps on denying it and blaming the neighbours but it seems pretty obvious it is her who is doing this after months of anti social behaviour from her.The cops have told me to keep a diary and keep them posted with what is happening .The cops say this action is not breaking the law but anti social behaviour.I feel totally helpless with what i can do about this anti social behaviour and it's really getting me down.Landlord can't do anything and the cops came around and told everybody it must stop but pointed no fingers.Any ideas what i can do to stop this anti social behaviour please? (apart from what I have done and within the law?)

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IneedAsockamnesty · 28/08/2013 23:30

You could chill out a bit.

Tortington · 28/08/2013 23:31

i can't believe you spent my tax paying money on that shite.

fucking stupid

TylerHopkins · 28/08/2013 23:32

Collect them and post them through her letterbox.

TylerHopkins · 28/08/2013 23:32

....obviously make sure they've been put out properly!

aturtlenamedmack · 28/08/2013 23:34

What is the anti social behaviour? Just the fag ends?

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:35

Tyler I don't really want to fight fire with fire but I have thought about posting them through her letterbox but i've decided two wrongs don't make a right but thanks for the input all the same

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:36

turtle loads more stuff that i'm not going to go into at the mo

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LaurieFairyCake · 28/08/2013 23:36

Is there a reason we're not aware of that this upsets you so much Confused

If there's no reason I have to ask if you call God about the bird shit?

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:37

turtle i've sorted all the rest of the anti social stuff out it's just this (fag ends) now that needs sorting

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:38

Laurie don't be silly now :-)

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TylerHopkins · 28/08/2013 23:38

How are you 100% sure it's her? Have you seen her throw them into your garden?

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:38

good advice sockret nice one :-)

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LaurieFairyCake · 28/08/2013 23:40

What's the problem with the fag ends then?

I have all sorts of dirt and yucky things blown into my garden, it's normal and I pick them up.

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:40

Tyler that is the problem I have not seen her throw them nor am I 100% sure it is her but i'm 99% sure it is her judging by all her other anti social behaviour

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IneedAsockamnesty · 28/08/2013 23:41

Is this a minor thing on a long list of other stuff she does?

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:41

Laurie if they are blown into your garden that is totally different to somebody vindictively littering your garden on purpose .Come on be reasonable Laurie ,don't be silly now :-)

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Alisvolatpropiis · 28/08/2013 23:42

Haha!

Waffling · 28/08/2013 23:42

Could you board up her windows when she's out?

MissOtisRegretsMadam · 28/08/2013 23:42

Hi are you American? "Calling the cops" always sounds American to me.., but fag butts sounds like your from the uk... Not that it matters.

I hope you rang 101 and not 999

TylerHopkins · 28/08/2013 23:43

That's the thing though OP, you can't blame her for this just because of the other stuff she's done. It is more than likely her but until you know for sure....

Can you tell the ciggie brand from the dimps? Maybe you can catch her out through that. It could be an unusual brand none of your other neighbours smoke.

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:43

Sockret pretty much so .they are all pretty minor and petty tbh but very upsetting none the less.Why do you ask?

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silkboots · 28/08/2013 23:44

waffling not a bad idea 7/10 lol :-)

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Monty27 · 28/08/2013 23:45

Maybe she doesn't like you? I wouldn't like it either, but then I'd go and tell her so. Confused

aturtlenamedmack · 28/08/2013 23:45

I'm not really sure what advice to give then.
Do as the police say and keep a log of the incidents.
If you fear for your safety or see any illegal activity then call the police.
The council is more appropriate for noise/rubbish complaints and they have more power to act.
Find out if you have a neighbourhood or community policing team. You might be able to make an appointment to speak to them and they will have more time to discuss things with you fully and explain the options available to you.
Mediation is one option, so that you can discuss things with your neighbour in a controlled setting and come to an agreement together about how best to live along side each other.

MardyBra · 28/08/2013 23:45

Aren't "cops" in America. It's quite a long way for them to come...