Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

Original poster

To let DD (8) dip dye her hair?

141 replies

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 15:16

Just that really.

She has asked, several times, to dye the ends of her - verrrry long - hair pink or lilac, on the condition that its chopped off sept 1st for school.

Will be no more than an inch but I feel conflicted. Part of me wants to encourage her to be creative and that there's nothing wrong with having fun with your appearance etc (based on my own issues as a child with DM, but that's another story!) but I am worried that people will judge her, and me!

It's the only thing she wants to do this summer and she wants to "look like a superhero"...

OP posts:

BrummyMummy2012 · 20/07/2013 15:19

Who cares what people think? You can get hair chalk that is probably better for a child than chemical dyes but she is your child and you really shouldn't give a shit what anyone else thinks. It's not abusive or detrimental to her well being in any way shape or form so why not?

thegreylady · 20/07/2013 15:20

Let her do it as long as its only the ends and it is cut for school.Does it matter if people 'judge'? You are her mother and you think it's ok-it's not as if it's a tattoo or body piercing.

MoaningMingeWhingesAgain · 20/07/2013 15:22

If it's just for the holidays I would let them TBH. And I am on the strict side for preening/princessing It's just for a bit of fun, as long as it's trimmed before school goes back, not a problem.

DH, OTOH, wants our 4.5yo DS to have dreads for the holidays DS is a blond haired white boy with fairly long hair (and a massive head)

JambalayaCodfishPie · 20/07/2013 15:23

Do it. DD1, 8, had pink highlights last year for the summer, they'd faded to a natural red by the time September came. She's not fussed this year.

specialsubject · 20/07/2013 15:23

she's 8. She can wear bunches, flowers in her hair and frilly dresses, all of which would look silly on an adult but are fine on children.

sounds harmless enough.

cocolepew · 20/07/2013 15:23

I would.

sewingandcakes · 20/07/2013 15:23

Let her do it! Stick to your rule about losing the colour when she goes to school though. My 2 older boys are thinking of the summer holidays hairstyles they want.

But don't use a hair dye with damaging chemicals... LaRiche Directions do some great messy colours.

ClaimedByMe · 20/07/2013 15:25

I let dd (10) get her very long hair dip dyed pillar box red for comic relief, we already had a hair appointment for her to get it chopped off a few days later, even after it was cut she still had red ends but she liked it, I didn't care that it was still red, her hair is strawberry blonde anyway and she really suited it!

ditavonteesed · 20/07/2013 15:26

directions are fab and only last a few weeks so she probably wouldnt even need to cut it out.

Original poster

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 15:29

God I thought I was going to get flamed!

I do think it's harmless ultimately, but thank you all for reassuring me. I will look at stockists for Directions dyes, thank you diva and sewing for the recommendation.

I will print out this thread for naysayers my mother

OP posts:

catinabox · 20/07/2013 15:33

Ah...well if you had said she wanted to look dye it to look like someone famous, all her friends have it or it's fashionable then i would be saying NO!!

To look like a superhero? Yes why not, if it's done safely and cut for school in september. I would also be tempted to help her make an outfit to match. Sounds like healthy play to me!

squoosh · 20/07/2013 15:34

I'm going to sound like a total square but I personally wouldn't let an 8 year old dye their hair. Chalks fine, permanent dye not fine.

D0oinMeCleanin · 20/07/2013 15:40

My 10yo has just done (or rather I've done it for her) exactly that.

We used a "semi permanant" ammonia and peroxide free dye, that will (and I know this for fact, because I and my sister have both used the same dye) wash out within 12-18 washes depeding upon the condition of her hair, the shampoo she uses and the amount of dye used.

She is very happy with the results.

She was only with me for a few days after we did before she went away, but no-one said anything to us, a few people did a double take, but I would imagine that is because she has pink and purple hair not because she is 10.

D0oinMeCleanin · 20/07/2013 15:41

It can also be washed out quicker using colour correcting shampoo but they can be quite harsh, so I'd rather not use them.

Original poster

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 17:10

I did think that her aspiring to be a superhero was quite cool!

Ok, will be sure to look for ammonia free.

Thank you all for comments.

OP posts:

FrenchRuby · 20/07/2013 17:13

L'oreal do a tinted conditioner which is baby pink, lasts about 3 washes out completely and isn't really bright. Maybe use something like that to see if she likes it as even semi's leave some trace of colour.

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 20/07/2013 17:18

I wouldn't judge that, and I'm pretty judgemental

Actually, scratch that - I am judging - she sounds cool and good fun!

LJL69 · 20/07/2013 17:19

go for it

Original poster

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 17:20

Thank you diseases I think she's pretty cool she has a 2yo DS that's obsessed with Spider-Man, Superman etc so I think that's played into this...

OP posts:

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 20/07/2013 17:23

I'm really hoping you mean Dsister and no Dson as I read that... 'cos at 8, I'd be more concerned about that than her hair!

WorraLiberty · 20/07/2013 17:24

Which superhero dip dyes their hair?

RoadrunnerMeepMeep · 20/07/2013 17:24

I dip dyed my hair and it was completely gone within 2 weeks. I think it looks cool.

Whitamakafullo · 20/07/2013 17:24

My 7 year old DD has pink dip dye at the moment. It only lasts a few washes and I don't see the harm, it's a bit of fun

Original poster

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 17:25

Whoops, meant DB

OP posts:

Original poster

cluckyduck · 20/07/2013 17:28

Honestly Worra I cannot name one.. But she does a lot of playing "Superheroes" with DS and dresses up in that role so I think she feels this is part of the look...

OP posts:

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6