To be fuming with dh despite him apologising!

[m0therofdragons]

Sorry for TMI but cannot possibly tell anyone in RL and need to vent! NC

So dh and I had sex and the next day I was sore (thought possible thrush) but next day I was more than sore and mentioned to dh. I said "you definitely used the latex free condoms didn't you" and he replied "oh no we'd run out" (even when I said it I expected the answer to be "of course darling")

I have a latex allergy hence the soreness and bleeding I'm now getting. He knows this but put sex above this. I cannot believe he'd do this - he's seen how my hands get if I wear rubber gloves so did he really think I wouldn't notice down below?

He has apologised and learned his lesson as he now won't be getting any until I'm recovered. But I'm still at him and feel like buying a feather pillow to put on his side of the bed and see how he likes it (yes, he's allergic to them)

Why do you have latex condoms? What an awful thing to do.

YANBU and def get him a feather pillow.

That's fucking awful dragon, I'd be beyond livid if my partner did that to me

I wouldn't be witholding sex as some form of punishment, but we'd definitely not be having any while I dealt with the fact my partner deliberately hurt me in order to have sex.

Yanbu. Selfish arse!

Why does he have latex ones to use if you're allergic?

That's awful especially if he knew. Selfish.
Is it possible it was an accident? If not Yanbu.

What an absolute arse hole.

Id never, ever see him in the same light again. Willing to damage your intimate parts just so he could have sex? Thats sick.

He had an old packet in his draw from before we realised the connection.

I don't think he thought tbh, I don't think it was malicious just bloody thoughtless. Otherwise he has an impeccable record.

drawer not draw, stupid phone!

Wow, YANBU. I'm that he did that to you.

m0therofdragons, YANBU, but I am actually just posting to thank you for correcting 'draw' and thus preventing my head from exploding.

Jesus, that's really fucking cruel whether he thought about it or not. I have a mild reaction to latex (immediately dry and sore, no bleeding though thankfully), I couldn't imagine DP going ahead and using a latex condom with that knowledge even in the heat of the moment

Yanbu, I would be furious!

The first thing I would do it throw away the latex condoms.

I hope he does something special to try to make it up to you.

Oh no, what a crap thing to do! (unless you're allergic to those, in which case !

That's awful! I remember discovering non-latex condoms and realising after many years that sex wasn't supposed to be sore!

Does he realise that allergies can get worse and you could have ended up in anaphactic shock?

An old packet?? Are they still in date??!!

That's really fucking appalling. So he basically thought his orgasm was more important than you being in pain, or possibly becoming seriously ill?

I would have a really hard time getting over that level of selfishness.

Iv also got an allergy to latex so I can imagine the pain you are in.
I would be fucking fuming if my oh had been stupid enough to use latex condoms.
So yadnbu and make sure you get rid of them so he doesnt make the same mistake again.

He clearly didn't take your allergy seriously, or was thinking with something which was not his brain. He should be thinking reparations.

Definitely buy the feather pillow

Selfish prick! Feather pillow. And a nice feather at the bottom of his morning cup of tea.

And feathers in his pants (see how he likes it!).

Leave the bastard.

at feathers in his pants!

I agree. Feathers in his pants the bastard! I'd be expecting a GOOD make up present for this! How selfish!