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To feel so upset about galumping, has anyone found nicer afterwards?

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Lambzig · 14/05/2013 09:51

Just got gazumped this morning on our dream home and cannot stop crying. I worked so hard on negotiations, sorting finances, plans for renovation on the house, not to mention the cost of the survey and architect time and all for nothing.

Is it worth selling your home and renting to make yourself a cash buyer (buyer only offered 2k more which we could have met, but seller not interested as wants cash buyer despite us having mortgage approved)?

Has anyone got gazumped and then found somewhere better?

Feel so upset, nothing else on the market at the moment.

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Januarymadness · 14/05/2013 09:53

I had to let go of a house I thought was our dream because of survey results. The one we founf after was much much better. Buying and selling houses is a nightmare I hope never to have to repeat x

BaronessBomburst · 14/05/2013 09:58

Of course you can find somewhere better! And renting to become a cash buyer is also a good strategy. It means you can move quickly when the right property comes up; and new properties come on all the time.

Were you also looking to port a mortgage? That might be the only problem as sometimes there'll be a limit (eg 6 months) on the time in which you need to complete on a new house, otherwise the penalties become payable.

Purple2012 · 14/05/2013 10:00

Yes, we had this with a house we loved. So glad now as we found a much nicer house. Although I don't think we were gazumped, it was the estate agents lying as after we found our current house they tried to get us to buy the first one.

mrsjay · 14/05/2013 10:02

I bet you feel rubbish I have but not found anything better, I was so upset and the house is not far from where i live I try and not sneer at the people who bought it Blush
I Try to say oh it is only a house but i was gutted, you will get over it soon , I am not sure i would rent and sell because what happens if your place isn't sold it is added stress

moominmarvellous · 14/05/2013 10:05

Yes! We went through 6 months of hassle as the owners of the 'no chain' empty house we were buying went bankrupt during the sale :( It was our first time buying and it was so upsetting and disappointing. But the house we've bought is beautiful! Much more scope for extending in the future, better street and the nice garden centre which had been near the property we tried to buy has closed down and is now basically wasteland. Everything happens for a reason I think. Keep looking and try and concentrate on the negatives of the place you can't buy xx

freddiefrog · 14/05/2013 10:08

Yes, we were gazumped with what we thought was our dream property (after the expense of surveys, solicitors, etc), but the next house we viewed really was our dream property

I then had a little moment to myself 6 weeks later when the estate agent for the first property called us to ask if we would be interested in re-offering as the gazumpers had pulled out

dribbleface · 14/05/2013 10:16

Yep happened to us too, out first house. The one we found is much nicer and we are very happy now. First house reappeared on the market as we were completing on this one, so guess sale fell through. Karma I think.

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Lambzig · 14/05/2013 10:18

Thank you for the positive stories. It was a project house, so don't think we can afford anything as nice unless we find another project.

Our house is sold to first time buyers at a good price so worried we might lose them. We were looking to port the mortgage. Hadn't thought of that.

Apparently gazumpers have been living in Middle East working in the oil business and are over for two weeks so can afford cash. The seller is taking their only slightly bigger offer as they will not bother with survey and pay him this week and have a solicitor who will draw up contracts today. Estate agent said that they had offered to pay me for a copy of my survey. Too much salt in the wound I think (although perhaps I should take the cash).

Annoying as estate agent was clearly still showing the house despite it being off the market, but of course there is no comeback.

DH says he doesn't want to live in that town now as you have to drive past the house on the way in.

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mrsjay · 14/05/2013 10:21

Our house is sold to first time buyers at a good price so worried we might lose them. We were looking to port the mortgage. Hadn't thought of that.

if your house is sold then just rent until the right house comes up dont settle you will be unhappy and resentful, ( i think) and take the money for the survey I know it might stick in your throat but least you get some money out of it,

lougle · 14/05/2013 10:23

I've never been galumped. It sounds so much worse than gazumped, somehow Grin

VenusRising · 14/05/2013 10:28

Sounds more like you've been run over by a stampede of gazumphers, to be galumped.

There are a lot of lovely houses, and things happen for a reason. Sorry to sound trite, and clichéd. But clichés are there, cos they're true.

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Lambzig · 14/05/2013 10:28

Yes I am trying to convince myself its not worth £800 just to be spiteful, but gosh, do I feel spiteful.

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Morloth · 14/05/2013 10:28

We got gazumped once.

Turned out really well, we found a much nicer house in a much better location for less than the original.

It was pure bliss when the original house's sale feel through and they called us trying to get us back - I suspect it fell through because the pool was not legal and needed lots of work.

Dodged a bullet.

Don't worry about it OP, another house will come along.

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Lambzig · 14/05/2013 10:33

Damn, hadn't noticed the galumped, stupid iPad autocorrect. At least I got it right in the post.

I think galumping sounds quite pleasant. Imagines two sturdy farm boys taking an arm each and galloping with you to the nearest barn...........

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mrsjay · 14/05/2013 10:42

I think galumping sounds quite pleasant. Imagines two sturdy farm boys taking an arm each and galloping with you to the nearest barn........

I quite fancy a galumping

Morloth · 14/05/2013 10:44

IME barns are no good for galumping - the straw pokes you in unpleasant ways.

SarahAndFuck · 14/05/2013 10:45

We weren't gazumped but our offer (full asking price) was rejected because we had to sell our own house and hadn't yet had an offer on it.

Agent selling the house we wanted told us there was no point in viewing anything until we had sold, so effectively they are closing off part of the market and only starting chains with FTB or CB, which I feel is short sighted of them.

I know it wouldn't happen quite so neatly but for the sake of making things simple, three people selling houses might want to buy each others house, A buys B, B buys C, C buys A for example. That could never happen if nobody viewed before they sold.

Anyway, I've gone off track, sorry.

We were then told that a cash buyer had made an offer on the house we wanted. I was so upset, I loved the house and in my head we had already moved in and decorated it.

We then accepted an offer on our house and found another house that we loved even more than the first house. Strangely, it was one I had previously refused to look at because the pictures on the internet made it look awful.

Just after we moved in, we had a call to say the first house was back on the market as the cash buyer had pulled out. Turned out he had messed about from the start and eventually they realised he wasn't actually a cash buyer at all.

That house is still on the market and we've been living in the other house we bought for two and a half years now.

And I'm glad we didn't get the first house now, the second one works so much better for us and has a lot more character. It felt right the moment we stepped through the door.

So don't give up hope, it is upsetting but there are other houses out there that might be more you, even if you don't think so now.

mrsjay · 14/05/2013 10:46

IME barns are no good for galumping - the straw pokes you in unpleasant ways.

ach illusion shattered now

Morloth · 14/05/2013 10:46

Woolshed much better, though the lanolin can makes things slippy...

currentbuns · 14/05/2013 10:48

Why not post a link to the house so we can call pick holes/point out the faults & make you feel better about it?

mrsjay · 14/05/2013 10:48

I am not sure there is many woolsheds round these parts Grin

(this thread is going to get silly op my apologies )

Pigsmummy · 14/05/2013 10:52

Best thing that happened to us, I contacted all the agents saying that we back in the Market and we got a bargain because we were in a position to move quickly, got 30K off asking and moved in 6 weeks.

Chandon · 14/05/2013 10:56

well, it just was not meant to be. I am sure it has dry rot, cluster flies and other pests and other hidden defects. It only looked a nice house, but you would have been miserable there.

There is a much nicer house for you coming up soon, just wait. We did the renting and being a cash buyer thing, rather an upheaval, not sure I recommend, but it did work out in the end.

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Lambzig · 14/05/2013 10:58

Morloth, I bow down to your extensive galumping knowledge. Perhaps you can advise on other galumping friendly farm buildings.

(Stops crying and cheers up a bit, thinking how the garden was too small and north facing)

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Morloth · 14/05/2013 11:00

LOL, I grew up on a sheep station. I know all about galumphing...

Seriously it will turn out for the best, I would make a large bet on it.