To feel so upset about galumping, has anyone found nicer afterwards?

[Lambzig]

Just got gazumped this morning on our dream home and cannot stop crying. I worked so hard on negotiations, sorting finances, plans for renovation on the house, not to mention the cost of the survey and architect time and all for nothing.

Is it worth selling your home and renting to make yourself a cash buyer (buyer only offered 2k more which we could have met, but seller not interested as wants cash buyer despite us having mortgage approved)?

Has anyone got gazumped and then found somewhere better?

Feel so upset, nothing else on the market at the moment.

[Lambzig]

Renting is tricky. There are literally three houses with 3+ bedrooms for rent in the whole town at the moment, all hideous (honestly, I am not being fussy they are awful), none of which are in the right place. I didn't look before today, but most rental there is tiny flats.

Also, my house we are selling has gone up 60k in value since we had it valued in jan to putting it on the market end of April. If the area we are moving to does that we would have a problem.

Quote, your posts are making me want to move there, but I doubt we can afford it anyway . Clearly I am a housing masochist.

[CatOfTheDay]

We lost what we thought was our dream home when the seller pulled out at the last minute - we are now [touch wood] nearing completion on the house that would have been our second choice due to it being a bit of a project and needing lots of work!

I wouldn't want the one that fell through now - anything we do to the one we're buying now will only add value which wasn't true of the other one, and it's a nicer space anyway if you look past the shabby bits!

Hope you find your dream home soon.

[ParkerTheThief]

We lost our dream home when on the day we were meant to be exchanging our buyers announced they were only prepared to pay £20000 less than we had agreed and the people we were buying from wanted £15000 more.
I broke my heart and lost a lot of faith in how other people behave.

We ended up in an equally nice house, which actually suits us better, the only downside is that the original house we were buying was more convenient for my work.

[Lambzig]

Great! DH has come home and picked a fight and yelled at me that I didn't tie the negotiations down well enough. Guess who will be doing the negotiations next time.

[Januarymadness]

no amount of negotiation would have helped in this instance. Your dh is, in fact, a twat.

[Lambzig]

He always takes this sort of thing out on me. Fed up before. Really fed up now.

[Springforward]

We were gazumped on a repossession a few years ago shortly before we were due to exchange. Really glad in the long run as we went on to find a bigger house on a bigger plot for only £5k more, in a better street.

[Beautifulbabyboy]

Oh lampzig, sorry to hear your DB has gone a bit a mad - it is just the stress of it all and he is disappointed too.
I am in the awful position that we may be about to pull out of selling our property to someone who is so excited and keeps coming back to measure for furniture and curtains. The reason is. 2 houses we have put offers in have been rejected, and our fall back flat has fallen through as well. So we have no home to go to. Our second ds is due to be born in 11 weeks and Dh starts a new job in 13 weeks which means he will be away a lot. I just can't handle the stress of going into renting on top of everything else.

I guess what I am trying to say is I understand how bad you feel and can someone make me feel a bit better from probably pulling out on our buyer, I feel so bad for her, but I can't see any other options. I Am hoping she will agree to give us extra time to find somewhere - do you think she will?

[Januarymadness]

If they want it they will wait. What is their situation?

[Lambzig]

If she likes it so much, she will wait. What is her situation?

I think you have to do what is right for your family, but particularly if you give her the option of waiting. Unlike our not very nice vendor who has pulled out over 2k and allegedly getting his money a whole three weeks earlier.

[Beautifulbabyboy]

She is cash buyer living with her parents - I think she is separated from her husband, so i know she coukd wait. it's just I know she loves the property and that is why I feel so guilty. I was so enthusiastic about being able to move before DS2 arrives - but then I never anticipated that 3 places we were keen on would fall through. I really feel like I led her on saying we could move quick, and now we can't. I don't know how other sellers can allow gazumping, I feel guilty enough about asking this lady to wait a few extra months...

[Beautifulbabyboy]

Thanks for making me feel a bit better. Buying and selling houses is so blooming emotional....

I also know how you feel Lambzig as in particular the 2 houses we have lost seem to me to be my dream homes (they were on the same road - a gorgeous road) and unfortunately I can't now imagine living on another road... Hoping that will happen soon....

[Lambzig]

I am now paranoid that we are being social engineered out of the town as when we went to register one estate agent told us they had nothing in our price range until I bought up the FOUR houses they had on their website.

Honestly, I am presentable, friendly and my accent is a bit jolly hockey sticks.

[Beautifulbabyboy]

Ha ha - what is the town?? Wish you could say...

[SomethingOnce]

Are you sure you want to live in such a place? I wouldn't fancy the neighbours much if it's like that.

[newbiefrugalgal]

I hope your DH has calmed down and apologised by now!

[AKissIsNotAContract]

It's interesting how many people on this thread have been gazzumped only for the gazzumper to then pull out of the sale. Hopefully that will happen to the horrible vendor you've been dealing with OP, I think he deserves it.

[Hissy]

I am aware that this might be a bit woo, but I have a strong belief that we don't go to houses, houses come to us.

In my experience, all the properties I have missed out on, I ended up feeling GLAD that I did.

[SarahAndFuck]

You might be thinking of cats rather than houses Hissy

[Tanith]

Ah, now I could understand it with me.
We were moving to deepest, leafiest Surrey and I had a full-on haystacks-and-tractors West Country accent. You could practically smell the manure and silage (judging by the look on her face)

[Lambzig]

Extra pissed off this morning as colleague of person at estate agents rang me about another house (2 bedrooms, nowhere near town, don't they listen) and said. "Sorry you lost the house, but after X (her colleague) showed the new buyers round it on Monday, they said they had to have it and I think they would have paid anything". I pointed out that it was supposed to have been off the market for the last month, so why were they shown it when we were two weeks from completion? She said oh dear and put the phone down on me.

Absolute fuckers. I can't really do business with them again and they tend to have the nicest houses in the town.

I think we are just going to have to stay where we are.

[Tanith]

Prepared to pay anything? Was it really that wonderful a house? Cash buyers, too...
I wonder what the seller has been told.

[SarahAndFuck]

Are you going to put in a complaint after that Lambzig?

[Lambzig]

Well I would like to, but who to and what good would it do? Am imagining the conversation:

Me: I am not happy that you showed a house that was off the market and got me gazumped, costing me a lot of money.
Him: We didn't, they had seen it before.
Me: Your colleague told me they saw it on Monday
Him: they didn't, she got that wrong
Me: I am sorry I don't believe that to be true
Him: I think that concludes our business, please don't contact this office again (goes off to spread word that I am nightmare buyer not worth dealing with to his estate agent colleagues).

It's not going to get me anywhere is it?