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dp thinks that I am being ridiculous but am I?

28 replies

Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:26

My cheek is swollen and there is a fairly sizable lump on the side of my mouth. I want to go to the doctors just to have it checked out as I can't get in to the dentist for five weeks. DP thinks I am being a hypercondreact but I really am worried about it.

I know that I do react differently than I used to about illness after personal things that have effected my judgement.

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:27

On this occasion however I feel that I am not being ridiculous and I should go to the doctors.

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Alligatorpie · 28/04/2013 14:28

I would go get it checked out, if it was him, would he?

Dawndonna · 28/04/2013 14:29

If you have a visible lump, in all likelihood there is an infection. Get yourself to a Doctor, asap. You are not being a hypochondriac.

Geordieminx · 28/04/2013 14:30

5 weeks to get to a dentist??

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:30

No he would , he doesn't believe in going to the doctors.

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Dawndonna · 28/04/2013 14:31

Oh, and quickest route to the heart is via the gums, so really, get treatment fast if it's your teeth.

McNewPants2013 · 28/04/2013 14:31

I would go to the doctors

sooperdooper · 28/04/2013 14:31

Of course you should go to the doctors, sounds like you've got an infection, how odd for him to think its not a normal thing to do!!

PetiteRaleuse · 28/04/2013 14:32

Then he is an idiot. It's probably just a cyst, but which might be infected. Get it checked out. I have real problems with people who don't believe in going to doctors. Because when the shit hits the fan they'll be glad of having doctors there to help them.

GettingObsessive · 28/04/2013 14:33

He "doesn't believe", what nonsense. It's not a questionable thing - you can't argue that it doesn't exist or isn't sometimes necessary. I suspect that he'd be getting you to drive him to hospital if he thought he'd broken his leg Hmm

sleeton · 28/04/2013 14:35

Hi Snowy

"on the side of your mouth" ... where? (e.g. internal, external, corner lip, on gum, at tooth root, etc etc etc) size? colour? is lump in same region as swelling? size/area of swelling? stabbing pain? achy pain? no pain? bleeding? discharge? heat in area? when did the lump appear and how long did it take to come up? when did the swelling appear and how long did it take to come up? any tooth pain, decay, etc in area?

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:36

Geo tell me about it, the dentists around by me are so booked up so there is a 4 or 5 week wait for an appointment.
Thanks all for not making me feel silly.

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:41

Sleeton lump is in same region as swelling, pain to touch next to a a tooth that has been filled about three months ago which has fallen out in part a few weeks ago.

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:41

It is also hot too.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 28/04/2013 14:42

"he doesn't believe in going to the doctors."
His choice (and a bad one to boot). But it's not his health in question, it's yours, so he should not be trying to make you feel foolish because you rightly want this checked out. YANBU or ridiculous, but he most certainly is.

Hawkmoth · 28/04/2013 14:43

You should have an emergency dental service? Here we have ooh and also an access centre in the week.

BanjoPlayingTiger · 28/04/2013 14:44

If you are registered with a dentist they should see you within 24 hours if it is an emergency. If you rang us with facial swelling you would be offered an emergency appointment.

PetiteRaleuse · 28/04/2013 14:47

Sounds liek your tooth is infected and you need emergency dental treatment. You might have to blag your way past the receptionist but see them tomorrow. Infections can spread and be very dangerous.

Another Hmm at your DH

LemonPeculiarJones · 28/04/2013 14:48

Of course you should go to the doctors. Your DP is being an idiot.

It's a part of your body that is swollen and painful, and you want it checked out.

Quite where his childish fear of the doctors should come into play is unclear Hmm

Trill · 28/04/2013 14:52

If you believe that the problem is related to your teeth - call the dentist and tell them that you are in pain and you need an emergency appointment.

If you believe that the problem is related to something that is not your teeth, go to the doctor and tell them about it.

YANBU to want to see an appropriate medical professional.

By the way - hypochondriac.

likeitorlumpit · 28/04/2013 14:53

sounds like an abscess. you will be the one suffering if its left not him. dont listen to him just go you know your body.

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:57

The emergency dentist service operates out of the hospital,the hospital is 35 miles away. My dentist is 30 mins away, ( I do have one closer but the dentist is more of a butcher than a dentist) I will also try phoning the dentist in the morning too.

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Snowyelephantshavewrinkles · 28/04/2013 14:58

Trill thanks I can't spell for love not money!

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IvanaCake · 28/04/2013 15:30

If you go to the doctor with an infected tooth all the doctor will do is send you to the dentist.

Call your dentist and tell them you need an emergency appointment.

Timeforabiscuit · 28/04/2013 15:37

There are many reasons why women live longer on average than men

This is one of them!!

Get an emergency dental appointment