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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have let postman use our loo?

42 replies

bonzoed · 11/04/2013 23:21

Postie knocked on our door at 13.40 to ask to use the door. He was quite embarrassed about it. I was at home with my 2 children and let him in. He has knocked several times before asking for a drink and I have given him a bottle of water.

DH says he wouldn't have let him in because we don't know him - other than him being our postie.

So AIBU or a bit naive? My take on it would be that if I was bursting I'd appreciate someone being kind to me.

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Plumsofgold · 11/04/2013 23:22

I wouldn't mind him using the toilet but knocking for a drink is a bit cheeky.

emsyj · 11/04/2013 23:24

I would let our postie in - but then I suppose we do feel that we know him as he's been delivering here since we've lived here (4 years) and DH has quite lengthy and involved chats with him during the summer when he tends to hang around outside with his laptop (works from home a lot and likes to be outside).

What would the risk be, if he is your regular postie and you know he really is the postie and not some random axe-wielding murderer?? Confused

Pancakeflipper · 11/04/2013 23:24

I was all for saying "ooh yes, they need to wee."

But then I noticed the bit about him knocking and asking for drinks ( more than once...) . Now I feel uneasy.

LastMangoInParis · 11/04/2013 23:24

Um, no. Not U to let postie in for a slah/dump.
Erm, you do know him, don't you, he's the postman. Confused
(Does he always ring twice? Grin)

squeakytoy · 11/04/2013 23:25

All those doors he probably knocks on asking for a drink must have made him desperate for the loo! Grin

Sparklingbrook · 11/04/2013 23:25

My postman is quite welcome to use the facilities if he so wishes.

cozietoesie · 11/04/2013 23:26

My regular postie, sure. Not one of the relief posties who I don't know.

TigerSwallowtail · 11/04/2013 23:26

Yanbu to let him in for the toilet, but it's a bit strange that he's knocked on your door (more than once too) for a drink.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/04/2013 23:27

That's wierd - the asking for a drink thing. Does he have health problems that mean he can't do his round without waiting till the end to have a drink at the depot? Confused

LouLouH · 11/04/2013 23:29

Has he only ever asked when your hubby isnt there?

cozietoesie · 11/04/2013 23:29

In high summer with the load those guys have to carry these days? Wouldn't surprise me if they got thirsty. They'd get tap water though and not bottled stuff - which I don't have anyway.

seriouscakeeater · 11/04/2013 23:31

Nope, I wouldn't let him in again or drinks...sorry. a tad too over familiar .

Original poster
bonzoed · 11/04/2013 23:33

Whilst I know that 'No' is a complete sentence, how could I possibly decline his request without coming across as a bitch?

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bonzoed · 11/04/2013 23:36

especially if he often knocks on the door with a parcel?

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cozietoesie · 11/04/2013 23:37

Just smile and say 'Sorry - it's not convenient'. (And don't specify what the inconvenience is.)

mum2jakie · 11/04/2013 23:39

I've let the window cleaner use the loo. How could you say no??

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bonzoed · 11/04/2013 23:40

I suppose it is that easy isn't it?

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 11/04/2013 23:42

Had it been a one off then yes, the poor chap could have been feeling poorly.

I think it's odd that he keeps asking for drinks. Why doesn't he carry one with him.

BOF · 11/04/2013 23:43

He could easily buy a bottle of water, so if he has asked for a drink more than once, I'd have him down as a dodgy postman. No way would I let a creepy postman in for any reason.

tigerdriverII · 11/04/2013 23:45

This is when an outside loo, like when I was a kid (I kid you not), is a godsend.

Fwiw I would let him in, but I wouldn't be very happy about the drinks

Any numpty can take a bottle of squash with him to work.

BOF · 11/04/2013 23:46

And if any postie needed a wee that badly, I assure you they would find a discreet bush or alley. Their employer's insurance wouldn't legally protect them from allegations of theft or assault, and they could be sacked for entering your property.

deleted203 · 11/04/2013 23:49

I'd have no problem, but I live in a village and know my postie by his Christian name. He is fab (although he's never asked to use the loo..) - signs things if I'm not in, and puts it in the porch. Once when my MIL sent us something with a 1p stamp on it (I had no idea you could even buy those!!!) he just shoved it through the box and left a note saying he'd paid the extra postage for us. Lovely, lovely man.

deleted203 · 11/04/2013 23:50

Ooh...golly! X posted with BOF - they can be sacked for entering your property?? I've had my postie in for a cup of tea and a cake before!

cozietoesie · 11/04/2013 23:51

Well I guess we're mostly judging the matter by our own postmen and house circumstances. I have a loo by the front door and I know my postie well. (He's never asked to use it.) I can see that other people might feel tense about such a request.

BOF · 11/04/2013 23:53

I'm only guessing, but I've worked for them before (in a sorting office), and judging by all the other stupid litigious rules they have, I'd be astonished if they didn't stipulate this.

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