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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to have let postman use our loo?

42 replies

bonzoed · 11/04/2013 23:21

Postie knocked on our door at 13.40 to ask to use the door. He was quite embarrassed about it. I was at home with my 2 children and let him in. He has knocked several times before asking for a drink and I have given him a bottle of water.

DH says he wouldn't have let him in because we don't know him - other than him being our postie.

So AIBU or a bit naive? My take on it would be that if I was bursting I'd appreciate someone being kind to me.

OP posts:

tigerdriverII · 11/04/2013 23:53

sowornout. I think we share a postie. Ours leaves things with "postie signed". And that is what he says, not his name - just postie.

YonisAreForever · 11/04/2013 23:58

As long as you let him use the loo and not your yoni, you'll be fine.

fruitandbarley · 12/04/2013 00:08

Having done the job myself for 8 months I can say that the bottle of water that I used to carry with me used to last me about an hour on a summer day and after that I did used to rely on kind people refilling it from the tap for me. And had to also ask to use the toilet on a couple of occasions. My walk was miles away from any public toilets and I had hours of my walk left to go and no choice. It was always embarrasing but I used to try and ask people that I knew were nice. I used to walk 7 miles a day and carry 8 x 16kilo bags, and until I did it I had no idea what a hard job it is. Or what thirsty work, and I suspect the asking for a drink is nothing more than because he knows you've been ok when asked before.

Superene · 12/04/2013 00:12

Maybe he had a "special delivery" to make?
A friend of mine had a dressing gown incident/accident which meant her daughter accidentally caused her to flash her postman. He has been rather friendly since, much o her huge embarrassment. Are you sure nothing similar happened at your house?!?

Apileofballyhoo · 12/04/2013 00:16

I thought it was very odd until I read fruitandbarley's post. Leave a bottle of water on the step in hot weather and don't answer the door? Maybe leave a potty too!

Pancakeflipper · 12/04/2013 00:21

Good post Fruitandbarley - my uneasy stance has gone. I think Apileofballyhoo has great advice - I would also add wet wipes next to the potty.

deleted203 · 12/04/2013 00:31

....But ...ThePostmanYoniRingsTwice surely!

BOF · 12/04/2013 00:44

MammaTJ · 12/04/2013 00:45

I would let my postie in to use the facilities. He is lovely. He never wakes me when I have done a night shift, always signs for things that need it and puts parcels where I have asked him to.

myBOYSareBONKERS · 12/04/2013 07:40

I have. My postie is a nice chap. Have given him hot and cold drinks.

I also offer my Tesco delivery guys a drink in the summer too.

. . . . . .and the window cleaner . . . .

ummmm. . . . . . maybe I should open as a Tea room . . .

Jestrin · 12/04/2013 07:54

I would let my postie use the loo. Maybe he thought he could ask you because you were kind enough to give him a drink before when he asked. But I do think leaving a bottle of water out in the future might be the way forward!

ShowMeTheYoni · 12/04/2013 08:23

I'd let my postie. He is really nice and really, it's a wee.

MummaBubba123 · 13/04/2013 09:46

I'd not mind if a regular post man asked to use the loo - bit wouldn't want to let this happen on a regular basis as would seem odd. In the summer, I fill up our postman's water bottle / take a glass of water out to him. But I've offered - and it's been scorchingly hot (for England).

Toasttoppers · 13/04/2013 10:20

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Thingiebob · 13/04/2013 11:30

Why is he always knocking and asking for a drink??

To be fair, if my postie asked if he could use my loo, I would let him.

lydiamama · 13/04/2013 11:34

You are an angel, and have a friendly face that is why he keeps knocking YOUR door. Too much suspicion in this world of us, he was desperated for the loo, that is all. Your DH is being protective of his family.

MrsLHofstadter · 13/04/2013 11:51

I'd let one of our relief posties in or offer him a bacon buttie, beer, bed for the night drink but only because I grew up with him. The Ringtons tea woman would also be quite welcome to use the toilet or have a drink.

I wouldn't give the window cleaner water if he was on fire, he gives me the creeps!

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