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men and porn

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racheael76 · 05/04/2013 10:03

do all men look at porn.i am female and can honestly i never do. i think it is dirty watching strangers/ others bodies who been around so many !yuk not clean and sweet.i was upset to find on the history my other half had been viewing but i can also remember exs magazines to.i am so faithful loyal trustworthy i would never cheat,kiss another man i dont look at other men either.i just expect my man to be 100% true like me.is there any men out there?i would love to hear your views aswell.

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mmmuffins · 05/04/2013 10:23

I am a woman, I find it a turn on to watch other people have sex. I think a lot of people do! Hence the popularity of porn Grin

I think it is a bit extreme to never look at other men, and expect your partner to never look at another woman.

YouTheCat · 05/04/2013 10:25

I used to watch porn out of sheer sexual frustration (when I was married).

My partner has no interest in it at all.

Sallystyle · 05/04/2013 10:28

My husband doesn't. Looked once when he was 13 and never had any interest again. In fact, he has really strong opinions against porn and strip clubs etc and would be a great addition to the feminist board here Grin

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 05/04/2013 10:28

I think it is something you need to discuss with a new partner as you get into a relationship so you both share the same views on the subject, like most other things really. Otherwise you will end up investing precious time in a relationship with someone who does something you consider to be a dealbreaker.

SneakyNinja · 05/04/2013 10:34

I know a lot of people (of both sexes) who watch and get turned on by porn. Personally it grosses me out.
Mind you, i'll watch Spartacus/The Tudors/ Game of Thrones and be horny as fuck afterwards so maybe they just haven't created a market for me :D

FriggFRIGG · 05/04/2013 10:37

No,not all men do.
DP does not,he watched it as a teenager,but abhors it now.
I knew this about him before we became a couple...
He is a raging feminist Grin

Tbh,I couldn't be with a man that did,I know a lot of people feel it's a normal thing do,but I hate it,along with strip clubs et al.
It's a deal breaker for me.

fedupofnamechanging · 05/04/2013 10:44

I would like to say that no, all men don't look at porn, but if I'm honest then I think the majority probably do. (have been a bit disillusioned in recent times).

I think the ones who don't are the ones who have more awareness regarding trafficking and the exploitation of women in porn. Truthfully, I don't think a lot of men give these things much thought.

MrsKoala · 05/04/2013 10:53

My DH most certainly does not. I know this, despite people ;) at me and saying 'that's what he tells you' etc. I know this because he is not wired that way and he has very niche tastes. That is not to say he does not look at things which titillate him. But they are not porn and involve things which others do not consider 'sexual'.

valiumredhead · 05/04/2013 11:00

My partner is the same mrs koala

I don't either as I loathe the whole exploitative industry.

ecclesvet · 05/04/2013 11:27

Not all, no.

I don't consider watching porn to be cheating at all, either. I know everyone can choose their own standards for this, but I just don't get the thinking at all.

countrykitten · 05/04/2013 11:30

mrskoala am intrigued...what on earth does he look at? Kitchenware?

TroublesomeEx · 05/04/2013 11:33

My stbxh was very much against porn and the sex industry.

He felt very strongly that it was exploitative and couldn't help but see the women involved as someone's wife/mother/sister/daughter/etc.

He felt it was akin to cheating and didn't understand how it was possible to be turned on by watching people who had no connection IRL having sex/simulating sex.

Didn't stop him from having an affair though!

MrsKoala · 05/04/2013 11:54

Countrykitten - No not kitchenware (that would be me, i love browsing utterly pointless 'essential kitchen gadgets'). Nothing too weird - just your normal fetish type stuff. materials, textures, bright colours etc. Nothing you would find in porn however, it's more about the feeling iyswim.

Velve · 05/04/2013 11:55

We've both checked out porn before (not together) but don't think much of it. OH hates everything about porn. I quite like lesbian porn if it's "well made".

Sallystyle · 05/04/2013 12:06

My husband is a botanist so would rather look at nature than naked women.

I personally wouldn't have married a porn/ strip club lover because it goes against everything I believe in. people have told me my husband is lying to me, I know how he is wired and he has a bigger issue with porn than I do so I just laugh when people try to convince me of his lying ways Grin

MrsKoala · 05/04/2013 12:10

i must say i find the lying accusations really fuck me off. People have very limited imaginations and literally cannot comprehend another person having a different sexual taste, so therefore to stop their own head exploding with the radical notion of difference, the more comfortable position they adopt is this other person must be lying. And you, as the stupid wife, are duped, but they, as the clever one, know his game. Despite you knowing him intimately and them having never met him. riiiiight.

Wannabestepfordwife · 05/04/2013 12:16

Dp is early 20s so first generation who had unlimited access to free porn. He used to have a problem with it, he would prefer to watch it than go out with friends. He also admits it has made him have hardcore tastes and he's been unable to have fulfilling relationships with people who aren't open minded.

I personally find it amusing and I love looking at the make up some of the best make up artists work in porn

WorraLiberty · 05/04/2013 12:16

I know all men don't look at porn

I also know some women are absolutely convinced their DH's don't and would never look at it, when they actually do - on their mobile phones at work.

So it's silly to assume all men are liars and all women are deluded...because like anything else it's down to the individual.

Also people change and how they might have felt years ago before getting married, could be completely different to how they feel now - whether that means they do or don't watch it.

purrpurr · 05/04/2013 12:20

OP, you want sex to be clean and sweet? Seriously?

flatpackhamster · 05/04/2013 12:41

The figures are all over the place, depending upon the age group of the interviewer and how you define the question, but about 2/3 of men and 1/3 of women regularly view porn in some form.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 05/04/2013 12:42

Not all men but I reckon probably a majority do, and a lot probably lie about it.

Bit like wanking really :)

Startail · 05/04/2013 12:49

I don't think DH seeks out porn in the form of people having sex, but pictures of naked actresses, models and the odd good naked random female on the net, of course he does.

Wait until Wimbledon fortnight and there's a gang of us scouring the web for half clad tennis players.

Startail · 05/04/2013 12:51

Oh and why would a man lie about wanking?

Surely he does that cuddled up in bed with you?

BegoniaBampot · 05/04/2013 12:53

Don't agree with it and choose not to watch it - but it can be a turn on and is weirdly fascinating. Been watching Game Of Thrones and the amount of nudity and bonking is as close as I'll get to porn.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 05/04/2013 12:59

Startail - I imagine some men lie about it if they have a bit of an uptight partner. I dunno, I don't get bothered about things like that but some people do.