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AIBU?

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To feel trapped into paying for these things?

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stormforce10 · 20/01/2013 18:08

A neighbour came over and knocked on our door to say that they had some baby clothes they were going to take to a charity shop but they thought they'd fit DS so would I like them. They said to pop over for a cup of tea and i could go through them and pick out what I liked then they'd take anything left over to the charity shop so I did just that. There was a huge black sack of stuff which was mixed baby and adult stuff and she said to take anything I like as she didnt need it anyway. I picked out a couple of pairs of dungarees, some trousers, a jumper, a couple of tops and vests and a snow suit all in the size ds is just about to grow into.

Then she turned round and said "that's fine, I'll do the lot for £15". I said something like oh sorry I thought you were just getting rid of them and she said well if you don't want to pay I'll offer them to someone else. I ended up paying her £10 but it left me feeling really embarrassed and confused.

AIBU to feel upset? It would never cross my mind to charge a neighbour for something I was giving away anyway and I felt really trapped into paying

OP posts:

FreePeaceSweet · 20/01/2013 18:11

Whoa. Stung. That's very cheeky.

GetOrf · 20/01/2013 18:12

Cheeky bugger. I can understand why you felt embarrassed.

financialwizard · 20/01/2013 18:12

If she hadn't mentioned money before I would have felt the same as you.

Trills · 20/01/2013 18:13

She was going to take them to the charity shop - to give them away for free - that's what you do at charity shops.

FBmum · 20/01/2013 18:13

YANBU. That's awful, especially if she was going to take anything you didn't want to a charity shop - did she expect to be paid for them there, too? I would have done the same as you as I would have been too embarrassed and shocked to do anything else, so don't beat yourself up about it - just be ready with an answer next time she offers! Either that, or the next time she calls round for a coffee, charge her!

greenpostit · 20/01/2013 18:13

They tricked you. I hate that sort of behaviour.

Yanbu - you were nearly firm enough when you said you thought she was just getting rid. I would have given it all back to her and left.

MrsKeithRichards · 20/01/2013 18:13

What a cheeky cow!

usualsuspect · 20/01/2013 18:14

cheeky sod.

catgirl1976 · 20/01/2013 18:14

YANBU

That's so rude and grasping

INeedThatForkOff · 20/01/2013 18:14

Did you like the stuff or just feel obliged to choose something? If you'll use it, cheeky as she was, a tenner isn't bad. I hate it when people do that though.

PurpleStorm · 20/01/2013 18:14

YANBU - she should have made it clear that she wanted you to pay money for them to begin with.

Talking about the charity shop without saying something like "Would you like a chance to buy these before I take them to the charity shop" is bound to create confusion.

Cailinsalach · 20/01/2013 18:14

She done you like a kipper.
Could you invite her over for coffee and a biscuit and charge her £5 and when she complains say innocently "but isn't that what you did""

TeamEdward · 20/01/2013 18:14

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DameFanny · 20/01/2013 18:15

Yanbu - very cheeky! On the bright side you've got a snow suit for a tenner but even so...

GwendolineMaryLacey · 20/01/2013 18:15

That's really bloody cheeky. I'd like to think I'd have said I'd leave it thanks but I know I would have paid up too and fumed about it for the next year.

Binfullofresolutionsfor10thjan · 20/01/2013 18:15

Awfully rude behavior on their part. Chalk it up as a life experience. And eBay the stuff when your DC grows out of them so you make the money back.

Nagoo · 20/01/2013 18:16

wowser. YANBU you were trapped!

miggy · 20/01/2013 18:16

That's horrible of her, can see why you feel cheated. What a mean spirited thing to do on her part.

Booyhoo · 20/01/2013 18:16

you're an idiot! why the hell did you pay?

fourfingerkitkat · 20/01/2013 18:17

YANBU. Whilst you did get a lot for your money she completely misled you. Chalk it up to experience and don't let her get the better of you again.

fourfingerkitkat · 20/01/2013 18:18

Booyhoo - think the OP feels bad enough as it is without being called an idiot !

HecateWhoopass · 20/01/2013 18:19

Good god. I'm having proper deja vu.

This has happened to someone else on here before. There was a massive thread about it. I wonder if your neighbour is the same person. It's bloody outrageous. You didn't have to give her anything at all.
Sorry, I thought you were giving these to me. Youd better find someone else to sell them to,

I suspect that she did it counting on you feeling exactly as you did.

ENormaSnob · 20/01/2013 18:19

Cheeky bastard

sausagewallet · 20/01/2013 18:19

Cheeky mare.

Someone asked me once if I'd like a futon bed for my DS as they were having a clear out and had no need for it anymore. I said "yes please", she said "I only want twenty quid for it"!

OkayHazel · 20/01/2013 18:20

I'd have sent her packing.

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