To expect a thank you ...

[Chickchickadee]

I lent somebody my car for two months as I wasn't using it. It is quite a nice car.

They returned it today with a bit of damage which does devalue it, but not significant enough to warrant an insurance claim, and didn't even say thank you. They just put in half a tank if fuel which us what was in it when they borrowed it (but not a drop more).

I didn't expect much, maybe a bottle of wine, but at least the words thank you.

I feel like sending a snotty text.

AIBU?

YANBU that's awful! Could they possibly be planning you a surprise thank you?

i would demand the damage repaired as well

I would be asking them to pay for the repair!

They should return it in the condition they received it in, would definitely ask for them to pay for the damage.

Let me guess, brother or sister?

You do deserve to be reimbursed.

I would be upset. And would also sake them to pay for the damage.

Has to be family. Can't believe they didn't get it repaired! Fecking cheek, YANBU.

Not family. Boss actually ...

Definitely not planning a surprise thank you. The damage was repaired but is still visible ... it's a convertible car and the hood got slashed but he felt that to put a new hood on was out the question as it wasn't his fault so got a patch put on instead.

More cheesed off by the lack if thanks, just handed back the keys and said here you go.

Grrr iPad autocorrects of to if ...

What can I say given the fact he is my boss so can't really go off on a rant ...

He is taking the piss. I would send him the bill for a new hood.

Should I send an email saying I think you forgot to say thanks?

I asked if he would pay for or towards a new hood and he said no.

I'd be livid. 2 months of a free loan of a car. And he returns it damaged. Without an explanation, or apology. And he doens;t say thinkyou????? The guy is a twat.

What can I do? My DH thinks I should forget it. I'm pissed though ...

"he felt that to put a new hood on was out the question as it wasn't his fault"
Maybe not his fault (in that he didn't personally slash it) but still his RESPONSIBILITY (because he presumably parked it somwjhere that people slash convertible hoods). How much would it have cost him to hire a car for that length of time? He should be willing to pay AT LEAST up to that sum towards the hood repair.

the guy is a twat

Totally

What to do? Depends on how much you need your job, really... if it was anyone else then you'd be demanding the hood is fixed as it is his responsibility. But.... he's your boss. How uncomfortable can he make your life if you kisk up bother for him?

He could make my life difficult.

I guess I was being nice, I didn't expect him to clock up so many miles and abuse my trust.

I'm really, really pissed by the arrogance of not saying thank you but can't really email or say anything about it (I won't see him for a while now).

I guess I will just have to rely on karma but I'm not sure that ever really works out.

What a prick. Normally Id encourage you to send a text, I cant stay quiet when someones been ungrateful or wronged me, but when its your boss its not good. Could be more hassle.

Id tick it off as a learnt lesson.

Seriously though, what a wanker.

what holly said

don't worry OP

I would try try try and forget aout it - BUT - I would do LESS in your role for a while, if he is your boss, to oh, I dunno, accidentally 'forget' something he needs for a meeting, or oh I dunno, accidentally spill a coffee over some important paperwork he needs that day...

You'll think of something to help you get over this

And yes, he is 100% a wanker

the karma fairy will kick his ass I'm sure

I'm so mad I can't sleep! Ifso, I will have to think of something like you suggest ...