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AIBU?

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weddings and oaps

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Hullygully · 07/01/2013 13:28

I have been invited to a wedding where the bride has developed what must really be called a phobia about old people. (Long story)

She refuses to have any one over 70 in case there is a "medical emergency" which would spoil her day and in order to avoid an outcry she proposes to organise a coach trip for the old people to see The Lion King as a treat on the same day with a special tea at a Holiday Inn afterwards and a video link to her ceremony.

Her mother is 72 and is allowed to go because she recently passed a stringent medical, but no one else of a similar age is allowed. My mother is 73 and looked after her a lot when she was little and really wants to go. Also, she has seen The Lion King already. I think she should be allowed to go to the wedding as a fit and healthy sort of "extra" mother. AIBU?

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Nixea · 07/01/2013 13:32

While I think your friend is batshit crazy slightly odd, unfortunately I guess it's her wedding so as rude or inconsiderate as it seems, she's allowed to set the guest list however she wants.

Sounds really unfair for your mum though, sorry.

DozyDuck · 07/01/2013 13:33

Wow. Really? I wouldn't go to either of I was your mum.

AngelWreakinHavoc · 07/01/2013 13:33

That is the most bizarre thing I think I've ever heard Confused

YouOldSlag · 07/01/2013 13:34

The bride is bonkers and mad and needs a firm talking to. Most over 70s that i know would feel horribly patronized and excluded. More fool her too, as the over 70s I know are very engaging company. She is off her rocker and will be seriously unpopular if she does this.

Besides which, it's illogical, anyone of any age can have a medical emergency. is he going to exclude diabetics? pregnant women? epileptics? small children who could choke or fall?

The world does not stop if someone is wearing a white dress for a day.

squeakytoy · 07/01/2013 13:36

barking mad!

LotsaTuddles · 07/01/2013 13:37

That's odd, jeez, if I had the rule that anyone that might have a medical emergency can't come to my wedding there wouldn't be many people there (although as we need to drastically cut back some numbers, I may approach this way of thinking, but only a couple of over 70's coming anyway, so maybe not).

I was thinking of saying no really small children, but as my (unborn as yet) dc will be about 8 months (if my maths is right) I can't really have one rule for one and not the other.

But as people keep saying to me, it's her wedding, she can do as she pleases, she only has to make herself (and he fiance) happy, everyone else can do one Grin (the wise words of my soon to be MiL

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Kveta · 07/01/2013 13:40

I hope she is taking a full medical history from every guest so she can exclude any other risky prospects.

JamesBexleySpeed · 07/01/2013 13:41

Woah, help, this isn't going to end well!

LotsaTuddles · 07/01/2013 13:44

I believe you, I have seen perfectly normal women turn completely insane and not even slightly like themselves when it comes to getting married Grin

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Hullygully · 07/01/2013 13:45

My mother did offer to have a medical too, but she said if she made an exception for her, she would have to offer everyone the option of a full medical. I pointed out it would be cheaper than The Lion King and a fancy tea, but she can't see it.

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ThatArtfulPussy · 07/01/2013 13:49

I hate that feeling that there's a joke somewhere that I'm missing.

Sallyingforth · 07/01/2013 13:50

If this was true, I wouldn't accept an invitation to go.

Hammy02 · 07/01/2013 13:51

Who the hell does she think she is thinking someone would want to watch her wedding via video link?! What is it about weddings that turns some people bonkers? I say this as someone that got married a little over a year ago, didn't have my dress until a week before and couldn't have given a shit.

AudrinaAdare · 07/01/2013 13:54

"Also, she has seen The Lion King already"

Grin

I don't know why but every time I read that line it's making me laugh.

LotsaTuddles · 07/01/2013 14:03

Me too Audrina

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Hullygully · 07/01/2013 14:09

I can see how difficult it was to choose a musical that would appeal to everyone over 70, but I agree, I think she should have offered a choice, at least two other aunts have seen The Lion King too. She should have offered a choice and then gone with the majority.

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Alligatorpie · 07/01/2013 14:13

This is the weirdest thing I have ever read. it cannot be true!

TaggieCampbellBlack · 07/01/2013 14:21
Grin

How can I get invited? I really want to go.

I am under 70.

Kveta · 07/01/2013 14:22

my grandmother is over 70, and would not have wanted to see The Lion King fwiw.

TheVermiciousKnid · 07/01/2013 14:26

What if there is a mass medical emergency while they're watching the Lion King? Very irresponsible of the bride.

sue52 · 07/01/2013 14:27

Just asked my 73 year old DH if he would rather a trip to see the Lion King followed by a nice tea or attend a wedding . I'm afraid his reply was unrepeatable.

PandaOnAPushBike · 07/01/2013 14:29

Bonkers. Complete stark, raving, bat-shit bonkers. Shock

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Hullygully · 07/01/2013 14:31

She has arranged for her second cousin, a doctor in his third year of training, to go on the coach and to the theatre and tea with them and has also bought a defibullator thing in case there is heavy traffic.

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Badvoc · 07/01/2013 14:33

She is mad as a box of frogs hully.
Sorry.

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