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Christmas pressie problem

40 replies

brightwell · 27/12/2012 13:35

Dd has bought me a voucher for 3 sessions with a personal trainer......something she would love....but something I definately won't use. She's kept going on about when am I going to book my first session, I've said !I don't know" she then said "you're not going to do it are you" I've told her while I realise it's something she'ld like it's not for me......so she's kicked off big time about how she thought I'ld like it & how expensive it was etc etc.....making me feel really bad. I go to the gym regularly, do my own thing & can't stand the personal trainer....she knows this and when I was offered a free session had told her my reasons for not wanting to. She can't use the sessions and she can't get the money back.

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jellybaby25 · 27/12/2012 13:38

pretend you've been?

quoteunquote · 27/12/2012 13:39

Would it not be worth giving it a go? you never know you might get something useful out of it.

The worst that can happen is you make your DD happy.

fairylightsandtinsel · 27/12/2012 13:40

how old is she? And why can't she use them? I think you just have be honest if you really don't want to use them - you do go to the gym so its not like you're scared of exercise or don't know what's involved. Assuming she's old enough to understand then I think you just have to tell her she should have checked with you first and ALSO suck up that sometimes you can get it wrong with presents and its not the recipient's fault. My dad is a bit like this, VERY hard to buy him stuff and lots of money wasted in the past, so now we just don't get him much.

Zavi · 27/12/2012 13:49

Looks like you and your daughter have got your wires crossed.

You thought that she was aware that you couldn't stand the personal trainer but she thought that you would enjoy the sessions.

Could you see yourself changing your mind about the personal trainer - or are you one of these people who are pretty inflexible once they've "made their minds up" about someone?

MerylStrop · 27/12/2012 13:51

You just should have kept schtum

But why can't she use the sessions instead?

Salmotrutta · 27/12/2012 14:02

This is a bit like the necklace thread.

Apparently the partner in that one was unreasonable to have stormed off when the op told him she didn't like the necklace he got her.

I have received some not great presents over the years.

I just say thank you then quietly hide them.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 19:00

She's friendly with the trainer & he'll tell her I've not used the voucher, she's off travelling in a few weeks time so doesn't have time to use it & it's only valid for 6 weeks. I'm now thinking I'll just give the gym a miss for a few weeks!

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whois · 27/12/2012 19:06

Oh just go, you might find they can set you up with a much more effective/fun work out for your solo gym sessions.

Mrsrudolphduvall · 27/12/2012 19:08

What have you got against the trainer? Might make your gym sessions more interesting.

EuroShagmore · 27/12/2012 19:09

I say just go.

I used to use a personal trainer from time to time. Not to stand over me while I was on the treadmill (completely pointless unless you have no willpower), but to design me new routines. He'd spend a session with me to see what I could manage and then print me out a new routine based on my abilities. When I found that easy I went back for a new one. Maybe try that if you don't like typical personal training? Or use the trainer to get advice on anything you find particularly tough or you are not sure you are doing correctly?

VBisme · 27/12/2012 19:11

Go, but tell the trainer that you aren't keen on personal training sessions, they'll probably fit something for you.

Bobyan · 27/12/2012 19:12

I feel bad for her, its not like you've even tried a session and disliked it.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 19:14

I have my programme tweaked every few months by the usual gym staff, the personal trainer is very loud, likes to be the centre of attention, thinks he's god's gift and I'm a wallflower. This isn't a gift I can stash in a drawer, re-gift or give to charity. dd now knows I won't use it & she's moaning about how much it cost her.

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TidyDancer · 27/12/2012 19:15

I would use the sessions. You might learn something and you'd make your DD happy. Unless there's a really good reason otherwise, I don't think it's much of a problem.

simplesusan · 27/12/2012 19:25

Go but make sure you tell the trainer that it was bought as a gift for you, and that you are only going to appease your dd.
It's not worth falling out over.

peaceandlovebunny · 27/12/2012 19:27

go. you love your daughter. do this to be at peace with her.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 19:31

I think if it was just one session I would do it but it's 3. I think I'm going to contact him say it's not my thing and ask if he'll extend the voucher so dd can use it when she comes home in the summer.

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DizzyHoneyBee · 27/12/2012 19:39

Use them and be grateful that you have received a gift that will do you good. It won't hurt you to use it. Sorry but you are coming across as being ungrateful. YABU.

HollaAtMeSanta · 27/12/2012 19:43

Why don't you share the sessions with her? You can do all 3 sssions over the next 2/3 weeks - would be a nice thing for you to do together before she goes and more motivating for you if she's there with you!

Panzee · 27/12/2012 19:51

Your daughter has bought you a present. Why on earth won't you give it a go? three sessions out of your life, your daughter is happy and life can go on as normal. The end.
(the necklace thread is annoying me too)

Salmotrutta · 27/12/2012 20:17

If I was your DD I think I'd be annoyed tbh.

You go to the gym. She thought it would be a nice gift.

Now she knows you don't appreciate it.

lurkerspeaks · 27/12/2012 20:17

TBH I'd just use them. It is 3 hours of your life to make your daughter happy.... is that really so terrible?

You might get something out of it - ie learn to use some new kit, or improve your usage of familar kit.

I agree though, PT is so personal you need to get on and respect the trainer. I had some years ago and really liked my trainer. Most recent stuff I went in and said I was working through couch25K on the treadmill and felt I had cardio reasonably sorted so could we concentrate on other stuff. The first thing he did was shove me on the treadmill for 30 minutes it went rapidly downhill from there.

It was a free trial and when his boss rang to ask me why I wasn't continuning I was very frank about the fact that I wanted to be listened to and have the programme personalised to me........which is why I had opted to try PERSONAL training and not the generic gym one.

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brightwell · 27/12/2012 20:33

My dd is annoyed, especially as my dad had told her he didn't think I'd like it. I really don't want to do it. I know the equipment I like and more importantly the things I don't like....I don't want to have explain the reason I don't use the spin bike, exercise bike & the rowing machines is because I have a dodgy episiotomy scar. I'm almost 50 and don't want to start kick boxing. The pt is loud & brash, I always stay well out of his way. A lot of the women love him. I know it's something my dd would love but it's not my cup of tea.

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thebody · 27/12/2012 20:36

Bloody hell is this groundhog thread night?

Get the hottest looking personal trainer to give you a 3 hour work out( obviously in 3 sessions) and tell your dd it was the best present ever!

That will teach the little madam.. Next year it's yardleys roses..

FredFredGeorge · 27/12/2012 20:39

If you said you'd be happy with 1, do 1, and if he's inappropriate as a trainer for you then you have a very good reason to not do the others. Have you been trained before - he may be very good at adapting to the needs of the particular client and the clients you've seen him with want that?

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